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Managing A Digital Life: Teachers Friending Kids

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Services for Real Estate Pros with IDTheftSecurity.com Inc

Teachers in numerous Massachusetts cities and towns are not allowed to “friend’’ students on Facebook or other social networking sites, and a number of other school districts south of Boston are considering a similar ban.

The Boston Globe reports that many communities are working on policies governing school staff’s use of Facebook, “inspired in part by ‘model’ rules on the subject distributed this fall by the Massachusetts Association of School Committees.”

The Massachusetts Association of School Committees rules are designed for administrators to “annually remind staff members and orient new staff members concerning the importance of maintaining proper decorum in the online, digital world as well as in person.’’

Teachers should be reluctant to add students as friends on Facebook, as Facebook and other social media sites blur the lines in the student and teacher relationship.

Growing up, we knew nothing about our teachers. They were authority figures that didn’t seem to exist in the real world. If we ever saw a teacher in public, at a mall, wearing regular clothes, we fell into a state of shock!

Now, because of the personal information made available on teachers’ Facebook profiles, students know more than they should about their teachers’ personal lives. They know if a teacher’s relationship status is “Complicated,” and that over the weekend he “Partied like it was 1999.”

One argument against students and teachers establishing online friendships is the need for a distinction between personas in and outside the classroom, and a necessary distance between students and teachers, in order to maintain respect and define a teacher as “a role model, mentor, and advice giver – not a ‘friend.’”

Ultimately, the teacher-student relationship is all about guiding the student through a set curriculum involving reading, writing, arithmetic, and so on. This is and has always been a professional relationship, not a social one. Social media facilitates a social relationship. Call me “old school,” but it doesn’t seem right for students and teachers to connect in this way.

Robert Siciliano, personal security expert contributor to Just Ask Gemalto, discusses child predators online on Fox News. Disclosures

Navona Hart
Century 21 Realty @ Home - Farmville, VA
Selling the Best Properties in Central Virginia

Robert, Facebook poses interesting issues for many industries.  Real estate agents customers also do not need to know that they partied hard either.  I am friends with my children on facebook and I have watched as they communicated with teachers on their pages.  Reminders of homework are given, praise for a job well done is given and so much positive has happened with my children having teachers as role models--yes even in Facebook.

Jan 26, 2011 11:10 PM
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Robert Siciliano

Navona,

Agreed, and as long as the facebook page of the teacher is an extention of their teaching thats great. My facebook page is kept to business with little room for a personaal stuff. Thats my strategy. May not be everyones.

Jan 26, 2011 11:20 PM
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