A possible solution for dealing with the "Bickersons"

By
Real Estate Agent with Central Metro Realty 568764

February 1, 2011

Have you ever read a headline that makes you go duh!  I have coined a phrase for just this situation.  Usually I use it in reference to scientific studies that get published, for example, "researchers prove that chocolate makes you feel good."  I call these "no sh*!* studies.  Because that's my exact reaction when I read something like that, followed closely by wonderment that someone got a grant to conduct that research.  

Anyway, Saturday morning I traipse out to get the paper only to be confronted with the following headline "Remodeling can strain marriages."  Well, no sh*!*. 

Remodeling is expensive, messy, and disruptive.  A married couple is forced to resolve money issues and issues about taste and preferences.  That is before you factor in the control issues and passive-aggressive nature of some marriages. Take all of those elements, shake them up in a jar, then throw a bunch of strangers in your house and let me know if you're feeling any strain yet. 

These compatibility issues also come up when you're working with a couple to find a home.  But an architect from Round Top, Texas, Christopher Travis has developed a software package that is supposed to help us professionals as well as consumers navigate this minefield. The website is www.truehome.net.  I have yet to try the service but the premise sounds promising.  He promises couples that they can "save time, money, headaches and heartaches by clarifying what you want before you buy, remodel, design or build a home." Many of the services are free to consumers.  

If you find yourself with clients who are having a "failure to communicate" the site may pose a solution.  

I hope it helps. 

Tamara

Posted by

Tamara Elliott-Deering, Realtor, SRES

Central Metro Realty

512-629-3090, tamara@tamaradeeringrealtor.com

www.betterlifechange.com

Comments (5)

Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Tamara:

Thanks for the info.  I do need to check out the website your suggested.  My husband and I are going to do remodeling project.  We haven't even talked to a contractor or architect yet and we are already disagreeing.

Feb 01, 2011 11:31 AM
Keisha Hosea- KASIHomes.com
KASI Homes - Chino Hills, CA
Real Estate Solutions For Real People

I was just talking about this with a co-worker this morning. Remodeling can definitely wreak havoc. I am going to check the site out. Thanks!

Feb 01, 2011 11:48 AM
Paul Caloca
The Papas Group (DRE #01766524) - Scotts Valley, CA

Thar reminds me of a cartoon I say many years working at a research facility:

Drawing show 5 men in lab coats sitting at a desk, each with a microphone in front of them. The middle character holds a sheaf of papers and is leaning toward his microphone sayng: "A 5 year study has just been completed and concludes that lots of money can be made doing 5 year studies."

Feb 01, 2011 07:12 PM
Shannon Coe
exp realty of California, Inc. - Oceanside, CA
760-586-5268, San Diego Realtor

Thanks Tamara, I will check out the site. It is a tight rope to find what the husband and wife want. Thanks!

Feb 02, 2011 01:54 AM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Tamara--Or they can contact you to explain the ins & outs of remodeling.  'Work together and hire a good contractor' is my advice to couples embarking on a project.  The most stressful project is kitchen remodelling.

Thanks for the website link.

Feb 02, 2011 02:53 AM