Why do people live in the past

Managing Real Estate Broker with Keller Williams Bay Area Estates 01365616

As a producing Broker / Owner I have the privilege of not just meeting with agents and loan officers on a daily basis but clients as well. It's amazing to me how agents, loan officers and clients all live in the past. For example, I’ll interview an agent and he’ll say "back in the day I did 30 deals a year" or a client will say " my house was worth $800,000".

Although I believe there is value in being aware of the past, I have a problem with people being stuck in it. I don't care that interest rates used to be 12%. What matters is what's happening in the market today and where the market is heading.

The sooner people learn to let go of the past the sooner they can accept their current circumstances and make decisions that will set them up to win in the future.

I'm completely passionate about people and truly want to help them. What matters is what's happening now and what you can do to seize the moment and make the most of it.

There is a shift in the market place. I can feel it. Now is the time to take the steps necessary to right the wrongs of the past, get rid of that bad debt, those bad habits, and being stuck in the past and focus on the opportunities of the future.

As long as there is movement in the market place (up or down) there is opportunity. If you happened to take the time to read this, send me an email. It’s my first time blogging and I’d be happy to read what you’ve written.



Comments (10)

Pam Jank
Coldwell Banker Schneidmiller Realty - Coeur d'Alene, ID
Your Coeur d'Alene & North Idaho Real Estate Pro

David, I agree, what happened way back then isn't relative to the here and NOW....

Feb 18, 2011 06:07 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTORĀ®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I'd like to blame it on human nature but in some cases these so called experts only deal in facts that can't be proved. We use to have a lot of water cooler experts that could dazzle you with history but couldn't deal with here and now....

Feb 18, 2011 06:12 PM
Catherine Ulrey
Keller Williams Capital City - Salem, OR
Equestrian and Acreage Property Specialist

This drives me crazy! I can not stand to be around people that can not let go of the past.  I have a divorced seller like this, I don't like to call her because I get to re-live her mess every time I call her.

Feb 18, 2011 06:13 PM
Doug Bullwinkel
Envoy Mortgage,NMLS ID 6666 - Sacramento, CA
Mortgage Loan Originator NMLS #281609

You make a good point.  So many people are trapped in time because they are clinging to what used to be and they lose the ability to take advantage of where they are now.  We all have to learn from the past but not let it hold us back from moving forward in life.

Feb 18, 2011 06:14 PM
David Giambruno
Keller Williams Bay Area Estates - San Jose, CA
David Giambruno

It's sad in many ways.. people are so busy dwelling (pun intended) on the past they miss the great opportunities right in front of them.

Feb 18, 2011 06:20 PM
Alan M. & Associates (TheVancouverLife.ca)
RE/MAX Crest Realty - Vancouver, BC Canada - Vancouver, BC

You know what they say, 20/20 hindsight. 

It's the perfect understanding of an event after it has happened.  So the past is easy to understand, and I think the reason why people are comfortable with it. 

Feb 18, 2011 06:21 PM
Don MacLean
New England Real Estate Center Inc. - Easton, MA
Realtor-Homes for Sale- Easton, Mass 02356

As they say " he who lives in the past deprives themselves of the future"

What a shame. get on with life and proper

Enjoy the day

Feb 18, 2011 06:45 PM
Dan Edward Phillips
Dan Edward Phillips, Humboldt and Del Norte Counties, CA - Eureka, CA
Humboldt and Del Norte Counties, CA

Good Morning David and Welcome to Active Rain. Your first post makes an excellent point!

Feb 18, 2011 10:14 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good, bad or indifferent what happened in the past is definite. People somehow find comfort in the definite and hesitation to face the unknowns of the present and future. Those who see the unknown as a challenge will enjoy success, those who prefer the comfort zone of the past, not so much! The choice is yours!

Feb 18, 2011 11:48 PM
Steve, Joel & Steve A. Chain
Chain Real Estate Investments & Mortgage, Steve & Joel Chain - Cottonwood, CA


Welcome to the Rain! I agree with your post; being stuck in the past is like trying to drive your car while staring a the rear view mirror.



Feb 19, 2011 01:17 AM