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Mistakes, Burnout and Recovery

By
Real Estate Agent with McGraw Realtors

Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad DaysIf you know me, you know that I am now in my fourth year of selling Real Estate.  I have blogged about my experiences in this crazy career since having found Active Rain way back in 2007.  I have shared challenges.  I have shared discoveries and I have shared high and low points.

You probably have noticed that I haven't been around much lately.  It isn't because I don't like my fellow Active Rainers or AR, but rather because I burned myself out pretty good.  Yep, I flat out burned out to the point that I had nothing left to say.

Let me tell you how I managed to burn myself out of blogging...and almost out of Real Estate.

My first mistake was a classic.  I just did too much all the time without any downtime.  You've heard a million times to pace yourself.  And I've heard it too.  But in a super hot Real Estate market (which is what I stumbled into in 2007 in Oklahoma), it is easy to go, go, go.  You think to yourself, "I've got clients!  I've got buyers!  My phone in ringing!  Look at me gooooooo!"  And for people who are wired like me, the ride is fun for a while.  But then you run out of gas and when I hit empty, I don't just slowly slow down.  I stop.  Add to the busyness a heavy dose of daily blogging and commenting and working the system and eventually I was just done.

My second mistake was an oversight.  Once the money started flowing, I didn't hold out enough to pay the tax man.  When we figured out we were behind on the taxes and how much, we were shocked.  Of course, we didn't have an accountant when I first began and really had no good idea how much to hold out for not only Uncle Sam, but for other things like marketing, expenses, retirement, etc.  When we finally saw how much we were going to "get" to pay the government, it was a shock.  And it was depressing too.  And it all happened right at about the same time I was hitting burn out.  Needless to say, I got depressed for a bit.  Blog today?  Blah!  Forget it!  Answer the phone?  "Uh...do I really have to?"  Yeah.  It was that bad.

I made other mistakes as well, but those were the two biggies that took me down.  Today, I am in what I call "recovery mode."  I don't blog very often because I still am recovering.  I just don't have much to say.  And that kind of makes me sad because I really do love to blog.  But it just isn't there yet.  This blog, for example, took me three weeks of thinking about what I want to say before I could write one single word.  Talk about writers block!

I have an accountant now.  It just weirds me out to think that I'm in a place where I need/have an accountant.  But I do.  And thanks to him, we're now holding out enough from every closing to pay our taxes quarterly.  No more getting behind for us!  And, thanks to him, we ammended a bad tax return someone else did and recaptured several thousands of dollars.  And thanks to the fact that we saved instead of spending everything we earned, we have now reduced our tax burden down to where we can see light at the end of the tunnel!  I think we'll have it all paid off by summer!  Yay for us!

If you're new to Real Estate, please consider the advice I'm about to give very carefully.  Even in today's recovering market, pace yourself!  Take your day off every week.  Don't worry if you don't get every single phone call answered right when the phone rings.  And be sure to save back to pay your taxes!  Remember, self employed folks pay the highest taxes in America.  We hold 25% of every closing to cover taxes now.  25%!  Why in the world isn't the NAR fighting to get our taxes lowered in Washington???  And finally, remember to get plugged into Active Rain.  But don't be an overblogger like I was. 

Even chocolate can get old if you eat it everyday!  (And I love chocolate!)

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Roseanne Campagna
John L. Scott RE Maple Valley, WA - Maple Valley, WA
Kent/DesMoines/Blk Diamond/Renton/Maple Valley, WA

Isn't it amazing that most everyone has the same experience as a beginner - and yes burnout happens. My solution is to do some meditation and make one of my favorite activites (oil painting) a regular part of my life. Your advice is well noted.

Mar 01, 2011 07:11 PM
Charita Cadenhead
eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

Bob I'll bet yours is a story that many could site verbatim as their own. Much success in your recovery.

Mar 01, 2011 07:56 PM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Bob,

This is a great post!  It should be required reading for newbies getting into the business, IMHO.

Mike in Tucson

Mar 01, 2011 08:24 PM
Anonymous
John Cramer

I can totally relate to your comments. In 4 years there has been a lot of up and downs for me as well. It is very challenging to maintain that balance we all need and deserve. Best Wishes to you.

John in Alabama

Mar 01, 2011 10:13 PM
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Brad Baxter
Brad Baxter, Weichert, Realtors - McDonald-McKinney - Fishers, IN
Indianapolis Real Estate Broker

Bob, It's an easy businss to run hard and fast and try to do everything now...today....on someone else's schedule. It's important to have some quality time for yourself. I'm glad you are back and at a pace that works for you.

Mar 01, 2011 10:58 PM
Richard Weisser
Richard Weisser Realty - Newnan, GA
Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional

Bob...

You know that you can call me anytime! It's been really rough here the last few month as well. I need to take tour afvice about the down-time though. I really need some.

Mar 01, 2011 11:40 PM
Irene Kennedy Realtor® in Northwestern NJ
Weichert - Lopatcong, NJ

Bob,

The start of the year, one of my resolutions was to return to that day off a week. (Thursdays seems easiest.)  And you know what, I'm busier AND more successful.  Can't swear to cause-and-effect but it does give me pause...

Mar 02, 2011 12:05 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR
RETIRED

After 7+ years in the business, I am finally learning I can't be all things to all people at the same time.

Mar 02, 2011 12:43 AM
Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage - Brampton, ON
Our Family Wants To Help Your Family!

Hey Bob, good to hear from you again.  Sounds like you dug yourself a hole, and you are going to have to keep digging to dig yourself out.  You didn't do anything wrong, as the saying goes... "make hay when the sun shines", now your bookkeeping could have been your big mistake.  You have to pay "Big Brother" that's just life.  We would like to be in your tax bracket of 25%, up here we are in the 50% range... yea we know we have FREE Health Care, but try to find a Doctor.

Mar 02, 2011 12:47 AM
J. Philip Faranda
Howard Hanna Rand Realty - Yorktown Heights, NY
Associate Broker / Office Manager

Bob, real estate and self employment is all about contanctly renewing oneself and knowing when to put the breaks on, not just being that battery bunny. Glad you are back in the saddle, I love reading your thoughts. 

Mar 02, 2011 01:02 AM
Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

BOB- glad you are bacl and block is gone- I think it happens to us all at some point. You are right too much of anything is no good. If you are living life from behind the keyboard, you are not adding to the new experience which will be material for future articles.

Mar 02, 2011 01:07 AM
Barbara Altieri
Better Homes and Gardens RE Shore and Country Properties - Shelton, CT
REALTOR-Fairfield County CT Homes/Condos For Sale

Bob -- When I mentioned to a friend the other day that I work 7 days a week with negligible downtime she told me that has to stop.  Yes, it does and I am making a plan to get some time in for myself.  I am glad you are making your way out of your tax issue.  Best advice I can give here is to have a good accountant, pay your taxes quarterly, keep all your receipts, and get educated in deductions.  Good luck.  Nice to see you back.

Mar 02, 2011 02:08 AM
Dianne Deming
RE/MAX Realty Group - Rehoboth Beach, DE

Hi, Bob,

It's all about perspective and priorities, isn't it?  Some things are just more important than business--and I love my job! I recently took a week off to visit family out of state.  Business had been really slow (it was the middle of winter at the beach, after all--and not the warm, southern beach, but snow-on-the-sand beach).  Then, the week before I left, I received calls from 3 clients asking to see property over the weekend I would be gone.  Of course!  One showing turned into a contract written by a colleague.  And you know what?  I'm still glad I went.  I lost a little money, but family trumps business in my book.

Mar 02, 2011 02:59 AM
Christianne O'Malley
Dickson Realty - Reno, NV
Exceptional Service - Delivering Results in Reno!

Bob - This happened to me in 2003 when I got a $XX,XXX tax bill. DOH! Ever since then I learned. I think it just takes this to happen once - at least it sounds like for me it did and for you it did! Just get a structure around your business (including a great accountant) that you can work within and monitor performance just like a manager of any other business :)

Mar 02, 2011 03:35 AM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

Bob, one of the things that I've come to grips with over the last few months is that I need to take some time off. I've been so used to buring the candle at both ends because I didn't mind working so much, but now I know to slow down, even just a little.

Mar 02, 2011 04:29 AM
Don Hintz
2D-enterprises / HAUS Design, LLC - Anderson, IN

Bob,

I've wondered where you have been.  Honest assessment of where you are at.  On the technology side of business, people want more, more, more, faster, quicker response.  If you let it, soon bussiness runs you instead of you running your business.

At the start of 2010, I set my goals for the year, including how much I wanted to earn.  Then, I figured how much I would have to work to earn that much and finding that "balance" is what it truely is all about.

Not saying that it is easy getting there, but often time goals often include more, more, more!  And all the money in the world still can't buy or beat watching the sun go down.  It takes focus to stay focused and it takes focus to realize when things are not as they should be.

Mar 03, 2011 05:06 AM
Lori Cain
Own Tulsa - Tulsa, OK
Midtown Tulsa Real Estate Top Producer

Bob, I actually looked for your blog today to see where you've been. Glad I did.  Pace yourself is good advice, regardless of industry, but especially practical in our industry where we damn near work 24/7.

I may need the name of your tax guy. 

Glad to see you back. Lori

Mar 05, 2011 05:37 AM
Glenn Roberts
Retired - Seattle, WA

Nice to see you back, Bob. I don't think any self-employed person has failed to make a tax mistake. I sure have.

Mar 06, 2011 02:47 AM
The Scott Loper Team Bux-Mont Premier Properties
Keller Williams Real Estate - Montgomeryville - Lansdale, PA

Hi Bob,

Everyone can relate to your post and we sincerely appreciate the honesty and forthrightness about your situation.  Sounds like you are on a good path to get everything into balance.  Best of wishes to you.

Lisa

Mar 06, 2011 01:01 PM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Bob, I have missed you but am happy that you are on the road to recovery. Hope that your business is doing well and you'll implement changes to keep this from happening in the future. Chocolate everyday...can't imagine getting tired of that.

Mar 16, 2011 10:28 AM