Name Calling and What It Implies - Be Careful What You Say About Yourself When You Resort To Name Calling

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I have never understood name calling.  I really don't mean to be funny or humorous here, as some people pass off their offensive statements by saying it was meant as humor...

I guess I just never learned to call names, thank goodness,  and have never understood the custom.  Name calling is offensive to me. It is like an alien-outer-space-foreign language...does not compute at all.   When my children picked it up at school, they got a good dose of cod liver oil.  There are just better ways, at least to my way of living and thinking.  Name calling speaks to a lack of thought of the situation and a lack of concern of how the situation will resolve itself.

The study of psychology teaches us that when someone resorts to name calling, it usually speaks to feelings of inferiority and a feeling of inadequacy of the person doing the name calling.  People stoop to the process of name calling when they feel lesser and need to make themselves feel more powerful.

If calling someone a name upsets the person that is being called the name, then the name-caller feels more powerful because they upset them and had an effect on them.

The best way to deal with name-callers is to be calm and think about the reasons that they have called you a name.  It has nothing to do with the person being called the name, and says a lot about the one doing the name calling

I do not want to do business with anyone that is a name caller, nor do I want to refer my clients to them. Just not going to do that...

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Robert Butler
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I guess I've missed what ever name calling that seems to have gone on, so I don't know the story. I don't think it matters, at least not in the long run. So stick with the high ground, step back, like you're doing. Just be your self.

Mar 11, 2011 01:59 PM #2
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Sophia Lin
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"sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me".......not, name calling does hurt, we need not go there:)

Mar 11, 2011 02:06 PM #3
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Lou Ludwig
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Judi

Name calling doesn't do anything positive, and the doing the name calling lowers their professional image to zone.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Mar 11, 2011 02:10 PM #4
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William Johnson
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Hi Judi, Definitely on the same page and a very good rule. Doubt if it would ever come up because I tend to dismiss and forget their name rather quickly, LOL.

Mar 11, 2011 02:34 PM #5
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Tommy Taylor
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Judi- You have a good handle on your attitude. Always take the "high road", it is usually less traveled and definitely more beneficial in the long run.

Mar 11, 2011 03:35 PM #6
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Kate Elim
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Hi Judi...When raising my three "now adult" children I did not allow them to call one another names.  At least they knew enough never to do it in front of me and hopefully they didn't do it behind my back either.  It is hurtful.

I don't know if there's a story behind your post but it doesn't matter.  Your post is a good reminder to all of us.  It is not just children that call others names, sometimes to their faces and often behind their backs.  

Kate

Mar 11, 2011 03:44 PM #7
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Judi -  Here's what I have experienced. Some people are more sensitive than others. Some people are more babble mouth than others.

Worst still is that these people dont realize that.

Mar 11, 2011 03:57 PM #8
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Glenn Roberts
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Labeling is an easy way to diminish another...or to build them up. When used to enhance another name calling puts the name caller in a better light.

Mar 11, 2011 04:14 PM #9
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Judi - Thank you for the educational and quality information. Excellent blog.

Mar 11, 2011 04:23 PM #10
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Judi, great post and suggested. I am definitely on the same page as you regarding name calling.  My mother would also use cod liver oil :-)

Mar 11, 2011 05:47 PM #11
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Ginny Gorman
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Judi, your 2 streams of post meaning the prior one too certainly gets me to thinking about how many continue to rant & rave about things...it's true that someone can just come across one that may put you in a negative light & you may lose that client...be respectful is best...rants are fine but just sometimes!  as always good food for thought!

Mar 11, 2011 10:56 PM #12
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Liz and Bill Spear
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Judi, It's irritating to me when I see someone result to name calling in their post or comments as a way of "debate".  Sorry, we're going to have disagreements here and there, but let's keep it civil.  If you can't win the debate with logic, agree to disagree if need be.  And people here that I encounter that have a negative attitude time after time...well there's more than enough for me to read daily without seeking out the ones that seem to be hating life.

Mar 11, 2011 10:59 PM #13
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Christine Smith
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Judi....it is bad enough when kids do it but some don't know better.  But there is no place for name calling in a professional adult setting.

Mar 12, 2011 01:17 AM #14
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Sharon & Bruce Walter
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Hi Judi, not too sure what has been going on, but your post is great advise for anyone to follow!  The sad thing is the individuals who need to be more civil just don't get it, or care.  As others have stated we need to keep to the high road, although that is very hard to do at times!  ^_~

Mar 12, 2011 02:39 AM #15
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Judi, most of the people reading this blog probably have never had a heaping table spoon of cod liver oil, I have, and believe me the thought of it would keep me from doing almost anything ....... LOL

Mar 12, 2011 11:25 AM #16
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Thank you, each one, for reading and commenting.  You guys are the greatest!  I've just come back from your blogs and found some really good reading.. took me a while. :)

Mar 12, 2011 02:15 PM #17
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Alice Broadway
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Judi, you are right on!... So rude and un-professional. I was bullied and called names when I was young. Thank the lord for parents who explain the name caller was the one with a isssue/problem.  

Mar 12, 2011 04:17 PM #18
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Tony Morganti
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Hi Judy -  It is important to teach children at an early age that name calling is wrong and then to set a good example for them as well.  There is no good that can come from name calling.

Mar 13, 2011 12:42 AM #19
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When I joined the debate team in high school, my wise old grandmother told me, “You’ll know you won the debate when the other side starts calling you names.” She was right.

Mar 14, 2011 01:41 PM #20
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I have been called every name under the sun by my abusive husband. Slut whore dirty old ugly, needless to say, the marriage couldn't last. And like someone commented, you know when you won the debate when the other side resorts to name calling, this is true I feel, although our debates never really got off the ground, it was straight in with the vile names if I so much as disagreed with what he said.

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