Accepting Self-Limiting Beliefs... Must We?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Grants Pass, OR 199909023

Southern Oregon VineyardAccepting Self-Limiting Beliefs... Must We?  I've always wanted to play the piano.  I even bought a 100 year old piano and took lessons in my 20's.  Then, life happened and the dream slowly faded.

I've always loved to dance and I especially love salsa music.  Every evening, I entertain myself by dancing around my house to some cool tunes from my iPod. I've thought about teaching a class and inspiring others to shake some bootie, but the thought of organizing it overwhelms me, given my current business and civic responsibilities.

I've never drank... not for any particular reason, other than I don't really fancy the taste of alcohol (or perhaps I've never found my drink of choice).  However, I've thought about visiting some local vineyards and experimenting a little.  I just need a kick in the butt to motivate me to do it.

I recently bought a Quickbooks program and decided I was going to do my own payroll.  The program has sat in the box on my desk for weeks and is yet to be loaded on my computer.   

I love to learn new things, but the reality is, they take time.  I know I possess a wide array of talents and I can do anything I set my mind to... but is it really feasible to think we can accomplish everything that occupies our brain?  I hate to say no to some of my dreams, because in some small sort of way, it's like accepting defeat.  May it never be!

Perhaps it's just a case of poor planning and lack of organization.  Just the sound of those words make me cringe!  I suppose I see myself more as a creator, inventor and dreamer.  Execution is clearly my downfall.  And perhaps my Libran tendency is to over-analyze and procrastinate in the quest for balance.  Whatever the case, I won't allow myself to accept the self-limiting beliefs that sometimes spin in my head. 

Are voices wreaking havoc in your brain?  Accepting Self-Limiting Beliefs... Must We?

Posted by

Melinda Peterson


Melinda Peterson ~ Oregon Principal Broker


Real Estate Cafe LLC


Serving Central & Southern Oregon

Inspired by her love for lattes and real estate, Mel writes from the heart with the goal of creating relationships of land and life, with a latte laughter =)





Discover Central & Southern Oregon

Nature's Playground for Outdoor Enthusiasts 


This entry hasn't been re-blogged:

Re-Blogged By Re-Blogged At
ActiveRain Community
Oregon Jackson County Ashland
BuffiniandCompany Coaching, Living the Good Life!
Lessons Learned
Real Estate Tomato Bloggers
Selling Soulfully
Star Power
grants pass oregon homes and real estate for sale

Spam prevention
Show All Comments
Beth Larsen
RE/MAX Sedona - Sedona, AZ
Sedona Arizona

Melinda, I think you may be describing a lot of us...the desire to do is much greater than the time-no matter how well-organized we may become. Perhaps that's not such a bad thing-keeps us stretching, reaching for that next dream. We may not accomplish it  all, but perhaps more by keeping the dreams.

Mar 28, 2011 07:33 AM #1
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

I do the same.  I think sometimes we bite off a little more than we can chew.  I boight Photoshop Elements, loaded it and never usced it.  Sometimes it is a matter of not having the time.  Life gets in the way.

Mar 28, 2011 08:34 AM #2
Karen Hurst
Rhode Island Waterfront!


I am a lot older than you and I can say you will never stop wanting to do these things and more! The best advice I can give is try to do one at a time. There is no easy solution, and time is so hard to find lately, but if you can, do at least one thing, spend some TIME on it and then move on to another.   

As you get older, your mind still wants to do everything, but your body, not so much:)

Also, I always say to be thankful for all the ideas spinning in your head. I see so many people that are bored out of their minds and have nothing to do...That amazes me!!

I bought Quick Books two years ago on the adice of my accountant. Used it faithfully the first year and barely made an entry the next.  I would much rather work in my craft room painting or making jewelry or reading, all of which I put aside because it's not earning money!! 

So seriously. if you don't do it now, you never will. Sorry this is such a long comment!!

Mar 28, 2011 09:01 AM #3
Gary Coles (International Referrals)
Venture Realty International - Las Vegas, NV
Latin America Real Estate

Melinda,   This sounds so familiar.  Although I would like to try and do everything, I guess we have to select a few of the best ideas and "go for it".

Mar 28, 2011 01:06 PM #4
Mary Stewart
HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone - Wilsonville, OR
Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas

Melinda, I believe we all have beliefs that are self limiting.  Perhaps it is because we believe we cannot do it for lack of time or maybe the timing is not right.  Sometimes our beliefs are just a lack of confidence that we can do something or that someone will judge what we have or are doing and it will be negative.  Whatever our beliefs are, just doing the best we know and not forgetting our dreams is a great thing. When I was young I loved art and drew and painted all the time.  When I was 18 and taking an art class at Willamette University, the professor I had took a liking to certain students who were really talented and did not spur the rest of us on.  I was 18 what did I know, but it left such an impact on me I put down my paint brushes for over 20 years and then one day my dream came back and I began painting again and found a lot of success in it.  That was a huge self limiting experience mainly just from the lack of mature experiences (being 18) and belief in myself.  I say now, if you feel limited, step back and take a very deep breath and ask yourself why you are feeling this way.  If it is something you want to pursue step back in and go for it.  There is no such thing as failure in my world, sometimes it just does not work for us, but we had at least the opportunity to try. Very nice post.

Mar 29, 2011 07:22 AM #5
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I feel just a smiggen better about photoshop sitting in the box on my desk.  I do however do my own payroll.  I hate it, it makes my stomach hurt.  I don't want to do it anymore.  And you might have just inspired me to see how much my CPA would charge me to do it.

Mar 29, 2011 06:04 PM #7
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Melinda and a wonderful post, and I love the photo with the flowers and the fence!

VB ;o)

Mar 31, 2011 06:54 AM #8
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Blessed Realtor - ABR, CRS

Very re-assuring Beth... thanks!

Okay, I don't feel so bad about the QB progam Jane!

I don't know about the 'a lot older part' but I like your idea of doing one thing at a time Karen!

Guess this is a common problem for everyone, huh Gary!

Thanks for your story Mary... and keep on painting girl ;)

Okay Tammy, You are talking me right out of the QB thing!

Hey VB, long time no talk to... how are things?  Are you still in Vegas?  How are the girls?

Apr 03, 2011 08:11 PM #9
Frances C. Rokicki
Fran Rokicki Realty, LLC - Bolton, CT

Melinda, I do my best to work with the lists that I make, every night, for the next day.  However, sometimes, life and business do interfere with it, often.

Apr 13, 2011 11:04 AM #10
Show All Comments

What's the reason you're reporting this blog entry?

Are you sure you want to report this blog entry as spam?


Melinda (Mel) Peterson

The Blessed Realtor - ABR, CRS
You have me at Hello!