Momma, we all grew up to be cowboys....

Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Redwood DC-SP98366576

Oh, I know your dream was for us to be "Doctors and Lawyers" and such. For whatever reason, we became cowboys. No, we did not ultimately choose that 9 to 5 existence. While most of the people we take care of are eeking out a living Monday through Friday, we opted for the on call, possibly 24/7 lifestyle. It is true that we don't have that guaranteed paycheck, but we don't have that "boss" looking over our shoulder either.

There is no other group, in America, as large as ours, operating on the same playing field. We compete with one another one day and work with one another the next. Of course, we try to play nice and fair, because everyone of us is armed and trained to do the same job. Maybe we should have listened to you momma. Living a life as a cowboy is often lonely and difficult. There are times when we go long periods without any pay. Our predecessors at least had a chuck wagon preparing them three squares a day as they moved from Texas to Illinois. We are often searching for loose change to grab a happy meal while on the road.

But momma, we love being a cowboy.

We will readily admit, most folks just don't understand us. How can we go day to day, week to week and even month to month with no guarantee of a paycheck? Well, I suppose the answer closest to the truth is ..... momma, that is who we are! It is not about the guarantee, it is all about doing our job. The risk involved leads to greater rewards.

Every newspaper published can use banner headlines that our industry is in trouble, we believe in what we do. Stories can be shared casting aspersions on our motivation, we believe in who we are. Rumors can be exchanged that the need for our services is fading,we believe in our purpose. And in order for us to function and for the system to continue working, you have to know that for the most part, we believe in each other!

We are know.

The group that drifts through this venue may only be 5% of our total membership. Recently, word spread like wild fire that our meeting spot was for sale. Those that own this little piece of turf, were somewhat surprised at the response from our posse. Sure, there are technical considerations and everyone one of us believes in their right to sell their property. They just didn't understand that we are cowboys spread across this nation and this was "our" meeting place. O.K., technically it is theirs but it feels like it is ours.

You can not touch the interweb. You can not see the megabytes drifting through the air from one computer to another. We know it is there, because we are here. We just can't put our finger on "active rain", but we sure can feel the results of every shower. We are cowboys, guided by a desire to do a job very few people are willing to attempt. We are cowboys, corralled here, sharing life, love, professional tips, angst and joy. People outside our circle may not understand that fact.

When the enemy attacks, we can circle our wagons here. If one of us struggles, that can be shared and the rest of us can come to their aid. If one of us finds a better way of getting the job done, they can share here and we are all better. We become stronger and better and more seasoned for our time here.

That is what this meeting place is to us. We do benefit from it's existence. We agree, whoever owns the property, should benefit as well. We have found comfort on the trail in the past. We have sat around virtual campfires on other sites and swapped stories, told lies and laughed and cried with one another. This one just turned out to be real comfortable.

So momma, we did grow up to be cowboys. We just found the comfort of one of your home cooked meals here. We just found the comraderie of being at your table here. If the corral disappears or the new landlord doesn't realize.....we are cowboys, we may end up packing our things and riding into the sunset.

Most of us hope that this place remains. It is marked on our map of daily trips. When we leave, we know our way back. We are cowboys and it is our nature to make the best of every situation. Momma understands the way a cowboy feels and thinks. We are not your everyday users. We are each loners that have found comfort in the group.

There will be other campfires and other places to greet. The thing about a cowboy is we never forget the places we've been or the people we meet.

Comments (24)

Cheryl Johnson
Highland Park, CA
Cowboys!  Of course! I hadn't thought of that ... but it fits!
Oct 01, 2007 03:23 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life
Great analogy John and outstanding blog!
Oct 01, 2007 03:46 AM
David Recker
Connect Realty - - Rocky Mount, NC
John, as always, you impress me with your ability to tell a story and make your point.
Oct 01, 2007 04:14 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes

Karen - I was tossing around ideas and cowboys seemed more appropriate than the world's oldest profession.

Brian - Thank you for getting past the reference to your other "hat". I think you may have discovered the ying of the cowboy yang. I am proud to have you on the trail with me.

Tricia - You are correct and we probably won't need interweb bread crumbs to accomplish the feat.

Gregory - I may have stumbled upon a theme. Stay tuned for more to come........

Cheryl - It is kind of like finding an old pair of comfortable shoes in the back of the closet. You are happy with the find and over joyed when they still fit.

Jason - That is high praise that I appreciate.

David - It is so nice to see an old friend stop by, read and comment. Thank you for your kind words.


Oct 01, 2007 05:25 AM
Simon Conway
Orlando Area Real Estate Services - Orlando, FL

So J-mac - this cowboy is wondering if we are going to meet around that Tampa campfire after Thanksgiving or whether you are runnin a lil bit scared now that we have a new sheriff in town named Garcia! :)

Apologies to everyone else for the private joke!

Oct 01, 2007 05:26 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Simon - The plan to vamoose south is dependent on the misses ability to coordinate an extra few days from the federales. You may have a new sheriff but it seems you have lost than fancy cadillac.
Oct 01, 2007 05:37 AM
Simon Conway
Orlando Area Real Estate Services - Orlando, FL
J-mac- well you need to get on the misses and let her know who's the boss (which is of course her!). And yes, we appear to have lost our fancy Cadillac, but we clearly have the ability to run in 'earnest'! Our little November shoot-out has the potential to make the OK Corral look tempting.
Oct 01, 2007 05:53 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital
John, I still remember the look of horror I got at the settlement table once.  A divorced lawyer-lawyer couple were my sellers, and everything had gone very smoothly. When I listed their house, I was the second agent.  I sold it with two offers at the first Open House (now this was back in the 80s when we didn't see a lot of those).  At settlement, their 8-year old daughter said, "Mommy!  Daddy!  I want to be a real estate agent when I grow up!"  Mommy and Daddy were pretty appalled! 
Oct 01, 2007 08:52 AM
Donna M. Lella
Keller Williams Realty - Trophy Club, TX
Wait a minute... where did I put my spurs.  And my chaps... and my horse.  As my friend's daughter asks her... Mommy, when are you gonna get a real job ?
Oct 02, 2007 01:48 PM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes

Patricia - Mommy and Daddy may have been appalled but they would be fortunate to have their little girl grow up to be just like her new found hero.

Donna - LOL . Thanks for reading and sharing that little snippet of life in your world.

Oct 02, 2007 04:00 PM
Andy Werner, Jr.
RE/MAX Realty Group - Gaithersburg, MD
Real Estate, Gaithersburg, MD,
Nice post John!
Oct 03, 2007 02:02 PM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Andy - Thanks. I figured some folks wearing the white hat would agree.
Oct 04, 2007 03:54 AM
Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC
Hi John,
What an original analogy and one I have never thought of.  You nailed it for all of us.  Now, if I can round up my horse, I'll ride out of here.
Oct 07, 2007 02:02 PM
Bob & Carolin Benjamin
Benjamin Realty LLC - Gold Canyon, AZ
East Phoenix Arizona Homes
Cute blog. Thanks for sharing.
Oct 07, 2007 06:23 PM
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ


Excellent post! Thought you could use a little 'spice'.

Thanks,   Fran

Oct 08, 2007 01:33 AM
Jaynee Acevedo
Capital Style Home Staging - Kensington, MD
Capital Style Home Staging

Well, Dang It All, Cowboy John!  I had just gotten Jeff Turner's Hello Dolly post and song out of my head because Jason Crouch posted on songs from his childhood.  Then I commented to Jason about getting Hello Dolly out of my head, and guess what?  It popped back in.  Thanks to you, I have a new re-wind going on.  I guess I'd better keep reading before I get sick of myself.

Oh yeah....good post, er whatever......

(loved the message....just kiddin' ya!)

Cheers! from Kensington...


Oct 09, 2007 05:58 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Cynthia - We are what we are. I hope you enjoy much success herding buyers and sellers to closing.
Oct 09, 2007 06:27 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Bob and Carolin - Thank you for taking the time to stop and read it.
Oct 09, 2007 06:28 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes

Fran - I am a displaced person from the "Crescent City". I never turn down a little spice!

Oct 09, 2007 06:29 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Jaynee - Be careful. I have a whole repertoire of song titles that can lead you into a post.
Oct 09, 2007 06:31 AM