Have you known people who can't stand to be alone for any length of time? The chances are good that those folks don't like themselves very much. They need others around constantly to validate their own existence. Sadly, the people who need others the most are usually those whom others least like to be around. Because they don't like themselves, other people seldom do either. The surest way to command the respect of others is to become a person you like being around. Identify the characteristics you admire in others and make a conscious effort to develop them yourself. Your self-respect begins to grow the moment you decide to take the first step toward becoming the kind of person you know you can be: a success.
Thanks for this thought, Rich. I know the #1 thing a man looks for in a woman is confidence. And confidence comes from self-respect and self-development. Some are blessed enough to have that given to them growing up, and most of us have to go get it!
Rich ... Not everyone that is social means they are not liking themselves, insecure. In real estate you see so many folks through the week that I enjoy being alone with myself to catch up, talk to the guy in the mirror each morning. Mowing a lawn and processing the earlier conversations lets you catch up, relax. Everyone is different and very few of us is a twin. Learning who you are, liking yourself is key.
Cindy ... Too much confidence can scare away a guy too. We should poll the AR 205K plus and find out what the survey says! Lots go back to when you and I and Rich and all the voyeurs reading along this blog post were little kids. If Mom and Dad were respectful, it makes it easier to know what a healthy relationship looks like. But if Dad was snot hanging drunk, or Mom was pick pick pick, well, a kid has to learn what healthy looks like. Our relationships start with the family ones we have. Or don't. That's my Dr Phil for the day after a half century of trying to figure it out.
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