Moving a Loved One to a Nursing Home

By
Services for Real Estate Pros with Turning Point Estate Services LLC

Moving A Loved One to a Nursing Home. We all fear the approaching day when we are unable to care for an aging parent. We hear the stories more and more every day.  Someone’s mom took a bad fall, or a father that has spells of total disorientation, and can no longer be safely left alone.  The level of care required becomes too much to handle.

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The decision to move a loved one to an assisted living arrangement is a difficult one. Finding a quality facility that is also affordable is not easy especially in Fairfield County CT.

Often the home must be sold to finance the stay at the facility. Dealing with the real estate and all the personal items that have accumulated over a lifetime can seem almost insurmountable. This is on top of the heavy emotional lifting the family caregivers are already dealing with. Assisted Living Center Meadow Ridge

You may recall having to move when you were a child because your dad took a new job. All the familiar things you knew, all your friends, all your comforting places, possibly even a pet, all had to be left behind. And, you had no say in it. There were feelings of anger and despair. This is what moving to a nursing home can be like at first.

Including loved ones in the decision process as much as possible can ease the transition. They should have input on the possessions they could take with them, even though they may be limited. Something as simple as a picture, plants or a gift from an old friend can be comforting. Reassure them that other meaningful and valued items will be stored or given to close friends and relatives.

Over time the loved one will realize that this was done as an act of kindness. It was intended to improve their quality of life both socially and from a medical standpoint. No longer house bound and alone due to various medical issues they will soon be thriving.

Moving A Loved One to a Nursing Home.

Posted by
Fireplace in WiltonPeter Schattenfield
Managing Partner
Turning Point Estate Services LLC
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Comments (9)

Mark Schweller
A. Meadows Real Estate - Oakley, CA
Building Communities; One Home at a Time

It seems that we will all one day walk through the process of placing an aged relative in a home.  What makes it difficult is when the relative reminds us that "in their day" the family stayed with each other.  Due to tough economic times with both members of the famly working outside of the home and medical contraints, this is not always a viable option.  Wishing all who are currently walking down this path calmness and peace in each decision they make. ~Katrina Walters, Schweller Properties

Apr 13, 2011 10:18 AM
Scott Freedle
Metro Brokers Freedle and Associates - Centennial, CO

This is a tough move, but watching our parents age we know they will be there one day.

Apr 13, 2011 10:21 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

I had to this twice and it is pure HELL.. Putting your parents into any type of facility is somehting you think about the rest of your life...

Apr 13, 2011 10:57 AM
The Scott Loper Team Bux-Mont Premier Properties
Keller Williams Real Estate - Montgomeryville - Lansdale, PA

Hi Peter,

That has to be one of the hardest things for people to do.  In many cases, it is the best thing but it is still hard.  Most people who enter a nursing home realize they are never going to leave and go back home.

Lisa

Apr 14, 2011 01:20 AM
Anita Clark
Coldwell Banker Access Realty ~ 478.960.8055 - Warner Robins, GA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in Warner Robins GA

I haven't had to consider it yet and hope I don't ever have to but I can imagine how tough it would be to have to send a loved one to a nursing home.

Apr 14, 2011 09:41 AM
Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
Estate Dissolution and Preparation (203)388-8092 CT.

Mark, Scott ,Robert ,Anita and The Scott Loper Team,

Thanks for reading.  We will all face some facet of this along the line. I hope we are prepared.

Apr 14, 2011 02:25 PM
Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

Yes, this is a really tough time for all involved. My mom had to help her uncle with this a few years ago.  It helps when you can find someone like Judy Klem to help declutter and donate some of the items (and get tax write offs).

Apr 14, 2011 11:52 PM
Kristine Ginsberg
Elite Staging and Redesign, LLC - Short Hills, NJ
NJ Home Stager

Peter - You bring up a fresh and not so talked about subject: The decision to put a loved one in a nursing home - not an easy thing to do by any standard. Great blog and very original!

Apr 15, 2011 01:25 AM
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