Embracing Change!!!!!

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 “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ~ Mary Oliver


We are moving this week from a house where we have lived for 28 years! My husband, Bub, is not a happy camper! Change is not a word that makes him smile. EVER! But he is coming around (after 2 months of discussions) because the outcome is really pretty wonderful.

Here’s our new view that backs 500 acres of State Park and State Land! Bub and I had a dream for retirement. We own 40 acres, that we have paid off over the last 25 years, where we were going to build our final house. That land is also surrounded by State and Federal land, but right now electricity is 2 miles away. Building a house there hasn’t seemed like it could be a reality anymore and we hadn't quite let go of it. This new house is on 5 acres has a wonderful southwestern style 4 BR home and fits most of our the criteria of our original dream

But Bub has 20+ vehicles and lots of stuff collected over the last 20 years out on the land. And, the thought of the work involved in moving from a house with 28 years of possessions and abandoning the dream for the land has been difficult to imagine. Yet here we are in the midst of it! I am grateful that we have the luxury of owning both homes now which allows us to move in stages. First we have moved the furniture and moved in. We are sorting through carefully possessions.

In moving, I am asking myself these 3 questions before packing something:

  • Do I love it?
  • Do I need it?
  • Does it add to the quality of my life?
A lot of things will be given away. I even found much to throw away! Do I really need a $2000 training set of manuals and CD's on how to sell real estate from the 90's?

Embracing Change rarely is a first response, I have found. Have you ever had a dream, realized it was getting harder and harder to make it a reality... but held firm because it is what you’ve said you’ve wanted all this time?

When does changing course make sense, and what happens when you are in a partnership where one person is REALLY change resistant? As you can imagine, it’s been an interesting few months at my house working through these questions.

I have come to understand that:

  • Changing course doesn’t mean you are a failure 
  • Changing course is a hard thing to do 
  • Changing course is easier if you look at the end result rather than the course initially developed to get there. There is usually more than one road that will lead you there! 
  • Change is often very hard, but that doesn’t mean it won’t take you someplace better 

In today’s markets, most of us have had to change the way we do things. We’ve had to abandon what used to work or look like the best choice for new and unknown ways of doing things.

The people who are thriving are the people who have been willing to make changes even when it is hard, uncertain and scary. What I do know, as a coach, is that the people who are most willing to stand in their situation today and inquire “Now what?” are the ones who are thriving. Do you need to give up an old way of doing things and replace it with “Plan B”?

 “In times of rapid change, experience is your worst enemy.” ~ John Paul Getty

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Comments (6)

Deborah Byron Leffler BzyBee Real Estate Lady!
Keller Williams Realty Boise - Nampa, ID

 Change can be very difficult!   MY folks moved after being there for 33 years!   They are still getting rid of stuff and they don't need!   I have started doing teh same although I have only lived here for 11 years!    Where does this stuff come from???   LOL

Business has changed inthe 17 years I have been licensed....it is a lot more challenging and we are all working harder....but the results aer coming in for those of us who are working! 

Apr 27, 2011 02:57 AM
Karin Lundeen
Keller Williams Realty - Denver Southlands - Centennial, CO
Realtor Centennial Homes For Sale

Joeann, Not many people enjoy change, but when you stay focused on the end result and the ultimate goal, you can make it through!  Change can take you to a better place!  Good luck with the move!

Apr 27, 2011 02:58 AM
Royal LePage Connect Realty - Toronto, ON

Great post by the way. 500 acres in Arizona is awesome, must be incredibly beautiful.  Change is difficult for most of us especially when we are letting go of a dream. I am in the process of cleaning out my inlaws place, there is alot of stuff collected after 50 years. No fun. Your husband and you will love your new place once you are settled. Good luck with the move.

Apr 27, 2011 03:11 AM
Joeann Fossland
Advantage Solutions Group - Tucson, AZ
Master Certified Coach to Motivated Agents

Deborah-I don't know where all the stuff comes from but it makes me feel better to know it isn't just us!!! And congrats on your hanging in there attitude!

Karin-Switching our view to the end result was what really made a difference. Thanks for coming by.

Donna-The view is still taking my breath away! Know it must be bittersweet with your inlaws place. I did that with my Daddy and some of the stuff I am trying not to move this time is stuff I held onto for sentimental reasons then...I'm trying to realize I just need a FEW sentimnetal reminders instead of many and I certainly don't need 26 vases!!!!!

Apr 27, 2011 05:17 AM
Kathy Clulow
RE/MAX All-Stars Realty Inc. Brokerage - Uxbridge, ON
Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results

Joeann - That is one awesome back yard ...... the one thing we all have entrenched in our minds is that change is inevitable ...... we can fight it, prepare for it , embrace it or let it go on around us ..... how we handle it or react to it will determine our future ..... success or failure

Apr 27, 2011 09:10 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Joeann, I love your attitude...always have. This sounds like a very exciting change.. often very hard, but that doesn’t mean it won’t take you someplace better .

You know I wish you all the best.


Apr 30, 2011 03:11 AM