Does this market give you that "out of balance feeling?"

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Does this market give you that "out of balance feeling?"


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 Do you ever find that your life is out of balance?  If you spend too much family time then your business suffers while if you spend too much business time your family suffers etc... To me there are four basic categories in my life: Spiritual, Family + Friends, Business and Health and Well Being. 


Some people believe that there is a God, some believe in a less formal entity or "Higher Power" (most twelve step program members) and some have trouble with both of these and choose, instead, to believe in nature and the things they can see, feel, hear, smell and taste.  The point is: How much time do you spend either in prayer, church or communing with nature each day, week and month?  Do you spend any time in meditation or just quiet time with yourself with no interruptions?


To me, family is a personal contact sport.  How many times a day or week or month do you have some form of contact with EACH MEMBER of your immediate family?  Do you spend time with them, not as a group, but one on one?  I heard a speaker recently who said that everyone needs at least seven hugs a day.  A good place to try this out would be with your immediate family as I don't think that the general public is quite ready for this yet.  Do you also make time for friends?  If you can't see them personally do you give them a call or send a note periodically?  Do you remember them on their birthday?


Do you experience a lot of highs and lows in your business?  Do you have a few closings this month and none the next and does that pattern seem to repeat itself over and over again?  Do you have systems in place that work consistently every month whether you are having a good month(closings) or not?  Do you have a business plan of so many open houses, so many calls to past clients, so many calls to prospective clients and so many appointments each month?  It is more important to have a plan that works for you personally than to follow someone else's.  However, any plan is better than no plan at all.


This category is probably the most neglected one of all.  Do you have some form of exercise at least three times each and every week.  I'm not asking you if you are training for a marathon but do you walk, run, ride a bike, play ping pong least three times a week.  Do you go for annual check ups?  Do you have your blood pressure checked periodically(A good idea in any sales business I might add)?

IN SUMMARY(or get to the point please)

The key thing is to try to do something from each category each and every day.  You might try and keep a record for a week or two just to see whether you are spending too much time in one category vs.. another.  The interesting thing about balance is that you'll find that there is very little fanfare when your life is in balance.  Nobody comes up to you and pats you on the back or comments about what a good job of balancing your life that you are doing.  However, there are definitely some noticeably things that happen when your life is out of balance.  You may have even heard of some of these:

  A lack of Spiritual involvement leads to fear instead of faith.  You lose focus on the present while worrying about the future. 

  If you neglect your spouse long enough you may learn the word: Divorce.

  If you neglect your immediate family you lose time that you can never get back and a relationship that is difficult to repair.

  If you neglect your friends you get to say : What friends?

When you lack a plan of consistent contact with your clients you get to hear that they have found a new Realtor.

When you don't have systems that work all the time you get to experience the highs and lows in business that only a manic depressive would enjoy.

Finally, when you neglect your health you get to have emergencies rather than routines and in the extreme you get to have an out of body experience at your own funeral.


One of my favorite quotes: Jimmy Valvano

"To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. And number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that's a full day. That's a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you're going to have something special."


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Marvin BeninsonOur Clermont, FL.Greater Orlando team is called The House To Home Realty Group.  Our office is located in Clermont, FL. 34711 and we cover The Greater Orlando/Clermont areas.  Visit us at HomesinGreaterOrlando

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Comments (2)

June Rodgers
Samson Properties - June Rodgers Real Estate Group - Vienna, VA
Realtor - Northern Virginia

Great words of wisdom!  It is essential to touch base with all parts of your life consistently.  I have been spending too much time on my business and too little time on myself, family, and things I love to do. I resolved this weekend to do a better job of balancing my life. Thanks for this timely reminder.

May 16, 2011 07:03 AM
Marvin Beninson
Keller Williams Realty - Danbury, CT
Grtr Danbury/Ridgefield, CT + Grtr Orlando. FL.


The most interesting thing is that when I was writing it some areas of my life that are out of focus became more clear and now I can take action.  Best of luck to you!

May 16, 2011 07:07 AM