T-I-M-E

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Eddie Brown ~ FM Realty a Long & Foster Company/ Raleigh NC

As I sat inside the Progress Energy Performing Arts Center last Sunday waiting for my oldest daughters' high school graduation ceremony to begin, my mind started to wander across the past 18 years. The day she was born was second only to the day I married her Mom, and yes, I admit, I cried at the tiny miracle of life I held in my hands.

As she grew older there were, as with every child, great times and not so great times ... and then there were times when my wife and I asked ourselves ... "Whose idea was it to have children again"? Then 18 years later ... there I sat, with tears in my eyes once again as they called her name and she walked across the stage to receive her diploma.

After the post graduation celebrations and when things finally calmed down I went into the attic, walked over to the box where we keep mementoes from each of our children's childhoods, and I opened the lid to my oldest daughters box. The last time this box was opened was on her 16th birthday, where we took out a few treasures to use as props for her party.

This time I was there to look for a particular item .... After a few moments of rummaging through the box I found what I was looking for ...a journal my daughter kept when she was young. As I thumbed through the book and read some of the things she had written and laughed at the pictures she had drawn, I came across a particular entry which drew my attention ...

The date was August 18 2001 , This period of time was particularly memorable for me because it was just after my daughter had returned home from a 10 day stay at Duke Hospital for a serious life threatening illness. My wife and I had spent the entire 10 days at her side while she endured numerous tests, probes, and needle sticks ...pretty traumatic stuff for an 8 year old... (and for her parents as well).

On this date in her journal my daughter had written... "Daddy stayed home from work today and he took me out for chocolate ice cream. Best day ever!"

My heart dropped as I read this line I suddenly remembered the day 10 years ago as if it was yesterday ... Including her stay in the hospital, she was out of school for over a month ... so my wife and I took turns staying home with her ...(well mostly her Mom and I was just the "sub") ...As the pages blurred from the tears streaming down my face I remembered about how I was thinking the day was a total waste and how I got zero work accomplished for the entire day ...my perception then. But in my 8 year old daughters eyes, the simple gift of time and a cone of chocolate ice cream created the perception as her "best day ever"!  

TIME is valuable ...Oftentimes more valuable than all your riches combined.

Time is also a vanishing commodity, once passed you will never get it back...

Spend your time like money ...WISELY! 

Love can often be spelled T-I-M-E ... An hour playing ball with a child, a visit to an elderly parent ...or a pop-by visit to a past client or friend can show how much you care. Show your family, friends, and your clients how much you care by giving your undivided attention while with them.

I can never bring back August 18, 2001 ...except in my memories ...How many other "wasted" days did I perceive lost, which could have been remembered as my "Best Day Ever"?

Eddie Brown ©2011

www.ICU-Coaching.com

Comments (10)

Malcolm Johnston
Century 21 Lanthorn Real Estate LTD., Trenton, Ontario - Trenton, ON
Trenton Real Estate

Eddie, this was a brilliant post, and as a father who will shortly be witnessing two children (my twins are graduating next week) going through the same ritual, it really hit home in a big way. I too often look back with regret at time squandered and wish I hadn't spent my most precious asset (time) so casually at times. On the upside, I have many more years to create memories with them, and my grandchildren, when the time comes, will have a much wiser grandfather. 

Jun 08, 2011 08:58 AM
Eddie Brown
Eddie Brown ~ FM Realty a Long & Foster Company/ Raleigh NC - Raleigh, NC

Malcolm:

Congrats to you and your children...time flies...catch it while you can!

Jun 08, 2011 09:01 AM
Anonymous
Sue
Very well said!! Please pass the Kleenex.
Jun 08, 2011 09:02 AM
#3
Anonymous
Bette McTamney

You sure know how to make a girl cry!  Sweet Eddie - you should be a writer I think.  As usual you hit it right on again and thanks for sharing such a nice story. 

Jun 08, 2011 09:05 AM
#4
Anonymous
Nicky Fischer

Aww! Made me cry too! Good advice! Congratulations on the Graduation!

Jun 08, 2011 09:14 AM
#5
Anonymous
Mary Kay Pendergraph
Eddie, Wonderful post....It is so easy to take those moments for granted. This is a great reminder to make every moment count. Just the other day Peter was telling me a story about you and one of your girls when they were little. It was equally touching. I think your girls are lucky to have a Daddy like you. It may be years before they realize that again! I too cry at all those same moments. Kids grab your heart from day one...some days it feels like it will burst with pride and joy. Other days, it feels like it will break, but I can't imagine life without those moments. Thanks for a great message.
Jun 08, 2011 01:24 PM
#6
Anonymous
Frank

Eddie,

As I read this I must confess, I did remember when she was so sick and how worried you and Liz were. I can not believe the time has passed so quickly. They say that most of us fail to realize the important moments in our lives as they happen. I think opening the journal confirmed that those moments were special to her and she would never forget them. Our children can make us crazy, proud, angry and a whole list of emotions that are too long to print. They often can remind us what is the most improtant thing of all. Time spent with loved ones.  

 

Jun 09, 2011 05:36 AM
#7
Joshua Harley
Fathom Realty - Plano, TX
CEO, Tech Geek, Innovator, Disruptor, US Marine

Eddie - this is wonderful.  Makes me want to take my kids out and knock off early!  Thanks for the reminder!

Jun 09, 2011 08:35 AM
Karen Poss
Coldwell Banker Pinnacle Properties, Florence Alabama - Florence, AL
Realtor - 256-366-6292 - Search Florence Al Homes For Sale

I LOVE this post!  Maybe it's because my daughter just graduated college in May and we are now planning her wedding for September, but this really got my tears flowing.  I hope my daughter has a few of those "special memories" tucked away in her heart.

Jun 14, 2011 01:45 AM
Stanton Homes
Stanton Homes - New Home Builder - Raleigh, NC
Design/Build Custom Home Builder in North Carolina

Wow.  Sometimes it takes seeing life from a child's perspective. 

Jun 20, 2011 06:23 AM