It starts with RESPECT

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Every once in a while, we need a little pep talk.  If our spirits are lifted, then we are more productive, create better relationships with clients and generally have a better quality of life.  I think that it all starts with how we think of ourselves.  Here is an article I would like to share that may help you achieve the life you desire!


Have you heard?  There is a growing epidemic sweeping our nation.  It is claiming the well being of thousands of people and is changing the shape of our society.  It is altering lives and not necessarily for the better.  What is the cause of this growing epidemic?  That would be an overabundant lack of self respect.


Some of you reading this may have an overabundance of self respect and I congratulate you!  Stay the course and continue to flourish!  You probably do not need to continue to read this article either - which is aimed for the rest of us who may think we respect ourselves or want to respect ourselves but may not even know where to start.


The way we view ourselves affects everything we do and say, how we interact with others and how successful we can become.  Respect is a healthy attitude of reverence and awe for the existence of something.  Respecting yourself is recognizing that you are a gift merely by your birth.  You are worthy and are an awesome creation!  When you recognize those two ideas as true it helps achieve a higher level of self esteem.  Self respect is like the glue that holds together your self esteem.  It is difficult to achieve high levels of esteem without a healthy dose of respect first.


When you embrace your worthiness, other things fall into place.  They way you treat yourself and take care of yourself for one.  That also translates into how you treat and relate to others.  Your achievement increases because you believe you can do it and are worthy of success.  If all people walked around with this kind of attitude can you imagine how different our world would be?  It is unfortunate that self esteem peaks for most people in the third grade!  Third Grade!!! That doesn't bode well for us, but the good news is that it can change.


The most difficult part about respecting yourself is that no one else can do it for you - just you.  The great news is that you can do something about it.  Here are a few ideas to help you achieve a healthier attitude towards yourself.


  1. Celebrate your creation.  You were created therefore, no matter what anyone else says - YOU ARE AMAZING and certainly worthy of respect! 
  2. Quit the negative self talk.  Recently I spoke with a group of teen agers and we did an exercise where they looked into a mirror and had to describe what they saw.  They all had faces that they could describe and yet the majority of the descriptions focused on the negative items that they saw.  Interestingly enough, the things they did like about their faces were not described in positive terms like the negative aspects that they shared.  There weren't "pretty eyes", but there were plenty of "ugly noses".  This doesn't apply to just your physical features either.  Your job performance, your attitude ... the list goes on and on.
  3. Express and truly feel gratitude - for your creation, your blessings, your highs and your lows.  If you were to make out a list of all of the "things" that you possess or were given, they would surely outweigh the negatives.  Unfortunately we concentrate so much on the negative things we do not like experiencing, we neglect to respect the positive and healthy things in our life.  Being grateful for both automatically lends to respecting each situation for what it is and confidence in your ability to weather any storm.  Emerging from dark places and horrible situations is plenty to lend momentum to your self respect and what you can accomplish. 
  4. If you are feeling like the odds are stacked up against you and your life is overcome by difficult and seemingly impossible circumstances, there is still hope.  Really look at the situation and find purpose to your pain.  Even the most desperate situations have a purpose and you are a part of that.  Look for the lessons and learn from them.  You will emerge stronger and wiser and certainly worthy of praise.
  5. Take care of yourself - body, mind and soul.  Take steps everyday that lend to your healthy state of mind and body. Get enough sleep, eat better, exercise, dream, participate, and believe.  By feeding your body and mind with what makes it stronger and clearer, you will feel better about yourself.  When you are too tired to care about anything, your self respect is on the top of that list.  If you are feeling guilty because you ate a whole box of Oreos, it is hard to celebrate your creation.  When you stop believing that you can do anything, you can't.  A healthy mind and body can change everything for you.


Remember too that you can be a model for those around you.  You can lead by example and hopefully change the trend of those who do not highly respect themselves.  It is a contagious feeling and who wouldn't like to feel good about who they are and what they can achieve?  Don't forget - YOU ARE AMAZING - and worthy of respect!

This article was published in the Speakers With Spark column of The News Enterprise.

Posted by

Sheila Kennedy

Owner of Staged SO Right

Creator of J29 Project, Draw the Line, Eye on the Prize and Hear My Voice Programs

Staging you AMAZING!

Comments (2)

Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Beautiful!  What a gift you are to those young people!  Can you imagine the world if only we all followed your steps!

Jul 07, 2011 12:57 PM
Sheila Kennedy
J29 Project - Rochester, NY

Thank you Sharon!  It seems so easy in theory, but putting it into practice is pretty difficult.  I am so glad you stopped by - Thank you!

Jul 09, 2011 11:36 AM