Protection or Education

Home Inspector with JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC HOI 394

I have two younger children who attend elementary school. As a parent I am continually comparing my childhood experiences to those of my two girls. My conclusion, time after time, is things have changed significantly from when I was a kid and not necessarily for the better. The degree of paranoia, yes paranoia in parents, school administrators and staff is to me mind boggling and defies logic.Scary guy

For example, this past year the schools my daughters attend have installed remote locks. You must use an intercom to enter the school. Before this there were greeters and or the office is directly at the main entrance. I am not aware of any incidence that spurred the need for turning the school buildings into prisons. Other "security" measures include, parents must have a picture identification plaque visible in the windshield of the car when picking up their children.

Classroom and learning, no fear should be introduced hereOn the other hand children are taught to recognize bad situations and to avoid strangers. Each year they are given identification cards in the remote chance they should be abducted. As a parent I participate in educating my children on avoiding possible abduction. What I do not do is scare them to the degree where they are fearful of living and enjoying life. The fact is there is not a bad guy behind every bush on every street corner waiting to snatch a kid, all though I feel that has become the prevailing thought.

Education is the best protection in my opinion, because no matter what, bad things can still happen. By being educated and aware we as human beings can protect ourselves against bad stuff from happening to us.

Nice houseThis is why I became a home inspector. I can help educate people so they can better protect themselves when purchasing a home. And like I said even then bad things can still happen, but more often than not a potentially disastrous situation is thwarted through the process of inspection / education.

By educating ourselves we remove some of the fear out certain events or situations in life. Fear feeds on itself and often makes reasonable people do unreasonable things. A little fear is always good, paranoia will destroy ya.


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James Quarello
Connecticut Home Inspector
2010 - 2011 SNEC-ASHI President
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JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC

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Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

Yeah, the beat goes on.  My kid's charter school was the same.  They all knew me, but I still had to do the ID thing when I arrived, like there's an evil twin out there lurking to steal my kid.

But, Columbine changed a lot of school administrator's thinking.  Unfortunately.  So did VA Tech.

Jul 11, 2011 01:19 AM #1
Jeanne M. Gavish
Jeanne Gavish, Keller Williams Realty Elite Partners - Spring Hill, FL
Keller Williams Realty Elite Partners - CIPS,GRI,S

I am the mother of 8 children, and watched the changes over the years also.  Much of it has to do with divorce, custody, restraining orders, and other issues where the children are used as pawns in parental battles.  That is definitely different from my educational days. 

I also remember the days in rural areas where all the boys had pocket knives.  Nowadays, they'd be arrested.

Jul 11, 2011 01:25 AM #2
Joey Remondino
RE/MAX Preferred Properties - Vienna, VA
Broker, GRI, E-Pro


I agree with the fact that paranoia is a prob lam these days and a culprit is the news and drive to increase their ratings.  That's a discussion for another day.

Education is the key in real estate just like anything else.  We can educate ourselves and kids to swim, or we can live in fear whenever we are near a pool.


Jul 11, 2011 01:27 AM #3
Kathy Clulow
RE/MAX All-Stars Realty Inc. Brokerage - Uxbridge, ON
Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results

James - speaking of education ..... some where along the line we (our generation) have stopped teaching respect for others and their property to our children and we certainly have stopped holding them accountable for their actions ..... today's self indulgent society has certainly fueled the need for much of what you speak because we have passed on our responsibilities as parents to the education system ..... a system that is not equipped to be a substitute for good parenting.

In today's litigious society the education system is just responding to the possibilities based on an insurers risk assessment.

Jul 11, 2011 01:38 AM #4
Warren Veach
State Continuing Education (StateCE) - Plano, TX


Very thought provoking article. There is a theory that just as the birds have been falling in droves from the sky, that children have always been abducted, but due to increased use of phone cams, videos, YouTube and other means of modern communication, we now here about more of them.

Think of this, I'll bet no-one (ok, maybe someone) here on AR remembers hearing about the Jaycee Dugard abduction on June 10, 1991, but 20 years later, we all know about her being found.

And you can almost be guaranteed that her story will bring about some changes in the way some things are done in relation to parolees, and sex offenders.

And that's not a bad thing, but if it weren't for the exposure, the changes would not be made.


Jul 11, 2011 01:44 AM #5
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

There was a major Diane Sawyer interview last night with Jaycee Lee Dugard, who is now grown up and doing fine despite all the trauma she went through. What came across most in the program, beside a little girl's amazing resiliance, was the ineptitude of government officials.

Jul 11, 2011 01:57 AM #6
Robert Butler
Aspect Inspection - Montreal West Island, QC
Montreal Home Inspector | Aspect Inspection

Nice blog Jin. An important topic to discuss and I kiled how you segwayed into home inspection

Jul 11, 2011 02:01 AM #7
Fred Hernden, CMI
Superior Home Inspections - Greater Albuquerque Area - Albuquerque, NM
Albuquerque area Master Inspector


You are right, times are sure different than we grew up. But we are the generation that made those changes so it makes me wonder what in our childhood happened that made us make things the way they are today? What changes will the next generation make and what direction will that take? Too much, too little.... which way is the right way?

Jul 11, 2011 02:23 AM #8
Charles Buell
Charles Buell Inspections Inc. - Seattle, WA
Seattle Home Inspector

Jim, I think you may find your "answer" in my post today :)  Looks like we are on similar wave lengths again.

Jul 11, 2011 02:59 AM #9
Donald Hester
NCW Home Inspections, LLC - Wenatchee, WA
NCW Home Inspections, LLC


I have had this very discussion many times. I think we as a society have gotten overly paranoid. I think this may be in apart due to the information age.

When something bad happens we almost know it immediately and then it seem to magnify it into that it is happening everywhere.

I have done a lot of hiking in grizzly country. My dad used to get so paranoid about this. I would reply "do you give me a speech about me getting into my car? I am much more likely to get maimed/injured in that thing than from a Griz."

Life has risks, if you do not take some then you are not living. You should know what the risk you are taking.

You and Charlie are on the same plane today.

Jul 11, 2011 03:29 AM #10
Julia Maher
Nestings: Connecticut Home Staging and Model Homes - Fairfield, CT
Connecticut Home Stager

"Duck and cover" has been replaced with other paranoias, in my opinion.  That's why I'm surprised so many "careful" parents are perfectly happy to have their child's name emblazoned on their bedroom wall in large letters - captured for all to see on the MLS!!!  I tell all my staging clients to take them down - and why. 

Jul 11, 2011 04:08 AM #11
Peg Barcelo
Fluff My House! Home Staging Inc. 250.486.6369 - Summerland, BC
The FlufftasticStager from Summerland, BC

JQ, that is a truly scary guy in your post! Unfortunately most abductors don't look like that... Education is paramount, and it's scary how schools have to do what they have to nowadays. I wish you lived near me so I could recommend you to my clients and the agents I know...

Jul 11, 2011 12:24 PM #12
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector

Mr Qunitarillo,

I assures you that thoses of us who works in security and law knows best.


Jul 11, 2011 03:31 PM #13
James Quarello
JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC - Wallingford, CT
Connecticut Home Inspector

Jay, Changed their thinking, but how do these type of measures prevent an event like columbine from occurring? Short answer they can't and won't, but everyone feels more secure.

Jeanne, Kids are seriously reprimanded (I know this from personal experience) for pretending to have a gun. I'm talking about playing games like I did as a boy. Cowboys and Indians, star wars, etc. A pocket knife will get a kid permanently expelled now.

Joey, Yup, we can choose to be fearful and ignorant or educated and aware.

Kathy, I believe there is a lot of truth in what you say. That is certainly another discussion.

Warren, I'm not so sure that based on one tragic incident, that changes for "parolees, and sex offenders" are necessarily warranted. I believe that is the problem. A knee jerk every time a story like this pops up.

Jill, Since I didn't see the piece, I can't comment.

Robert, Thanks, had to make it some how relevant ;)

Fred, Hopefully somewhere in the middle, what ever that is :)

Charlie, I see we are indeed.

Don, I see we probably have a some what similar view. I have to believe the amount and speed of information has definitely had an effect on how we as a society act with regard to children and security.

Julia, The internet can have some unfortunate side effects.

Peg, Thanks I believe it is always better to know your "enemy" and be prepared.

Nutsy, Are you still wearing your Halloween costume?

Jul 12, 2011 12:34 PM #14
Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
Estate Dissolution and Preparation (203)388-8092 CT.

James, As a father of two girls, I am inclined to err on the side of a degree.  I agree with you there can obe overkill in some areas.

Jul 13, 2011 02:25 AM #15
James Quarello
JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC - Wallingford, CT
Connecticut Home Inspector

Peter, I also have two girls, so I know how yo feel. Unfortunately we can't protect them from the world no matter how much we wish we could. I believe all we can do is teach everything we can, give them love and be there when they need us.

Jul 14, 2011 12:36 PM #16
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