As I've pondered my relationship with my husband, I realized I needed to ponder my relationship with myself first! When we first met, 9 years ago, I was in shape. I ran the LA marathon (my first) in 2000 and had continued training and working out with the help of a private exercise consultant. I felt awesome. I was positive in thought, smiling most of the time, and just plan jazzed about life. I remember sitting on my couch in my lovely living room watching a favorite movie one Friday night thinking to myself, "I love my life - my dog - my job - my home - my kids - my family. I'm really OK being alone". I really thought I had it all.....and then, exactly a week later I met Al. I was on a high like I had never experienced. We have so much in common - and we both agreed that "Casa Blanca" is without a doubt the all time best movie ever and has a string of the greatest lines ever written. He is a retired NCIS agent turned Realtor! Two years after we married, we both decided we needed to do something to bolster our income when I retired from being a high school counselor. The market was at its peak. Real estate school classes were filled with young kids fresh out of high school! It was a trip especially given our previous professions! So began the frustrating adventure of being Realtors in an unprecedented downward bound market. We managed to make enough sales as to not be admonished by our firm and with the business write-offs it seemed almost lucrative! Now, the but.....I stopped my routine of working out and running. I gained 15 pounds which I refered to as happiness weight - ha! As the endorphins began to wane so did my smile. For the first time in my life, I had the neatest, most compatible, handsome, intelligent, sweetest man I could ever want in my life and I was not happy. When you don't feel good about yourself, you don't like yourself, it's hard to show love, passion, compassion and happiness with others. I'm a little slow on the uptake and this feeling of demise and depression crept up on me like a tsunami. "That which you manifest is before you." It's amazing how hard it is to finally make that decision to do something about your "poor pathetic life" that is really perfect if you could get your head out of your ___. One day at a time. What great advise. My race is not competitive with anyone but myself. It's just a matter of following a simple plan, taking it one day at a time, and doing my best not to waiver but to saver.
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- Ahwatukee, AZ
- Phoenix, AZ
Al attended high school in New Jersey, just outside of Asbury Park (the easiest landmark). He couldn't wait to see sunshine, so he chose Arizona to attend college. Northern Arizona University was noted for their criminal justice program. Dawn graduated from Kubasaki High School on Okinawa. She moved to Tucson to attend the University of Arizona. She finally received her degrees from Arizona State University in Tempe. Al traveled the world working for the federal government as a Naval Criminal Investigative Service agent. Dawn lived in the Phoenix area & worked as a teacher and counselor for over 30 years. One night at Ruffino's Italian Restaurant, they met, fell in love & have been together ever since. Now, both retired from service careers, they decided to put their life experiences to work in a different realm - they entered the real estate profession at the end of the market surge. It was a lonnnggg slide downward - some might call it an E- ride! But, through the entire downturn, they've enjoyed helping young couples find their first home, retirees find the ideal community, & young families choose the perfect neighborhoods.