In Lieu of a Happy Birthday Roast.

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Thirty-Five years ago today, I was born.  To my knowledge, I had no choice in the matter.

I was going to make fun of me on such a post, like I love making fun of other people just because I'm relatively good at it and they are easy stabs and relative morons (including me) ... but I kind of had a change of direction.

Each New Year that I survived the last, I try and take a look at what is, what was, and what might have been.   Five years ago to this day, the Sardi Family had a reunion at my Aunt Trudi's.   I was dating my right hand at the time and not thinking about too much and all of a sudden a surprise birthday party broke out along the way.  It was a pretty sweet gesture and one of the more memorable birthdays I'll ever have.

There was a moment that night that stood out above all others.  Even more than my cousin Eddie (yes, I really have a cousin Eddie:) chugging beer after beer because he plain sucks at beer pong.  My Mother & I were in front of a bonfire.   We weren't drunk or anything like that, we were just talking ... outside the confines of regular life.  I recall at one point tilting my head and peering into her eyes, the fire reflecting off of her skin and soul (that's how I saw it, anyway).  I knew right then, no matter what, that if I had a choice in the matter ... Elaine Sardi would have been my Mother.  I got very lucky on whoever made that decision.

I can't sit here and type that it has been easy for my Mother to be surrounded by and raise three boys.  Heck, a couple years after the Sardi Reunion was a trip to Clarion to have an Etzel Reunion (her side of the family).  The three boys always used to jab that the Etzel Family could be a bit bland, however nothing could be further from the truth on that particular weekend.  At 32, I had blast.  The Etzels Rock!  And it shouldn't come as a surprise to me as my Mother has one of the best senses of humor on the planet.  Afterall, she has voluntarily saw my Father naked at least twice in my estimation (I have a brother and we didn't have a milkman).

Now, she probably relies on the three of us to take the fall for such sick, twisted, oft-times witty, ways to make one laugh nowadays ... just so she can remain in the quiet graces of innocence surrounded by immaturity.  Truth be written, if it wasn't for Elaine Sardi:

  • I wouldn't have ever known about Bruno Sammartino, started making fun of him, and still finding myself a Professional Wrestling Fan to this day.
  • I wouldn't have ever watched Mystery Science Theater, MTV's most demented videos, the Thornbirds, nor took part in reciting various scenes of The Movie, "Airplane."
  • I may have never got out of the attic I lived in because of my own accord and my own life choices.  Truth is, at one point I wanted to die.  To me, I was a disappointment - a screw-up ready to self-destruct.  And the only thing that saved me was knowing that she was too damn good to have a son like that.  I couldn't die on her watch.  I'd never on her watch.  It was easier and more realistic to know that I could live with her heart ... and so I've done.

Besides any resemblance of intellect, wittiness, or pure love ... I'm here because someone taught me something about the heart.  When my inevitable comes, I can only hope that world was a bit better because Elaine Sardi gave birth for that very first time.  And I think she would agree ... even if I'm passing gas on the way out.

Love ya, Mom ...




Comments (34)

Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Happy Birthday Jason-What a wonderful tribute to the woman who gave you life. Now I have to tell you something about suicide. It is a VERY selfish thing to do so I am glad you didn't do that. Would have broke your Momma's heart so NEVER think of doing it again. You got a good woman to take good care of your wild soul so be good to her and YOURSELF. You got a good heart. Now this song reminded me of you except you aren't in prison so there are people who self destruct worse than you think you do.  Enjoy your special day and just think if you had been stupid, foolish and real self destructive at one point you would have never been here to meet the love of your life. Life is worth LIVING no matter your choices. Remember that


Jul 17, 2011 01:16 AM
Brenda Archambault
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX


What a very nice thing for you do for your Mother. Happy Happy Birthday and many more,

Don't worry stay happy.


Jul 17, 2011 02:57 AM
J. Philip Faranda
J. Philip Faranda (J. Philip R.E. LLC) Westchester County NY - Briarcliff Manor, NY

Happy birthday Jason. I vaguely remember being 35. Enjoy each moment as it comes. And call your mother. ;-)

Jul 17, 2011 02:58 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Great tribute to your Mom on your birthday man. We kind of forget they had a part in that day too. Happy Birthday. Super Paul Simon pick to go with the theme. Celebrate YOUR day Mister Jason!!

Jul 17, 2011 03:07 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

"Hello darkness my old friend..."

This sound Eddipal, explains allot.

Happy birthday!


PS: I said Happy Birthday to Whymax Communications test number.

Jul 17, 2011 03:20 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

William, there's no need to be Oedipal here... Jason has Ms Jennifer to adore.  What a lucky guy... <smile>

Jul 17, 2011 04:05 AM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI

Happy Birthday dear bro....   I cried reading that...ya know?  I am so glad I had the pleasure to meet you, your family and beautiful Jennifer ....  Transparency at its finest.

Jul 17, 2011 06:46 AM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

Haaappy Birthday Mate !!!!!!!!

How can you not be excited for reuinions with Aunt Trudi and Uncle Eddie !!!

... and I'm a huge Paul Simon fan, so I love your choice of song !

Cheers brutha Sardi !!!!!


Jul 17, 2011 10:08 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Hi Jason!  Here, here to Sharon's comment--never allow yourself to wander into those dark corners of your brain again--NEVER!  

And, how cool is it that your Mom reads your blog!  I LOVE it!  You know, I have two sons too and the funny thing is that upon birth of the first one, I have always wondered why on earth we don't celebrate the birth with the MOTHERS--not the children!  Absolutely great tribute to your Mom and I've already heard wonderful things about her from Jen.  It's evident that the apple didn't fall far from the tree here.  

I hope you (AND your Mom!) enjoy your birthday and I'll be in touch as soon as I hear something--ANYthing--from TJ!  That would be a great birthday gift!!

Hugs to you and Jen...


Jul 17, 2011 11:06 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

OMG and I TOTALLY forgot to say that I love, love, LOVE the photo of the lean, green, Italian birthday boy posted over on Lil' brother's blog today (Sheldon)!!  HILARIOUS!  Charlotte will never be the same!

Jul 17, 2011 11:07 AM
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Happy Birthday, Jason! Wow, what a great tribute to your Mother. I would be so honored if one of my sons ever wrote anything even close to that. Hope your mom is reading this today :)


Jul 17, 2011 04:58 PM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

happy birthday, Sardi baby, happy birthday to you! (yeah)
happy birthday, Jason baby, happy birthday to you!


(Bang?  shit, I ain't dying for no Allentown man, baby...  just tellin' it like it is!)

Jul 18, 2011 01:37 AM
Mike Mitchell
Real Living Kee Realty - Saint Clair Shores, MI

Happy Birthday Sardi!


Jul 18, 2011 03:05 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

That was beautifully written, funny and compassionate at the same time. Happy Birthday.

Jul 18, 2011 07:45 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hey, Jason!  Happy birthday - and a whole bunch more.  Mothers are so underrated!

Jul 18, 2011 11:44 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Thank you everybody:)

Jul 20, 2011 03:07 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hey, Jason!  I included this post in Last Week's Favorites.


Jul 24, 2011 02:45 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV, MD
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Jason, I missed this one when it was posted, but WOW!  Your mom is a saint!  Much like mine.  I appreciate your straight talk, high kudos and tender words about your mom.  She sounds like a great lady, and I'm sure that first birth was the highlight of her life to that point!!  Now, about that other brother . . .

Jul 24, 2011 04:53 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Jason, you are lucky to have such a woderful mom to put up with YOU:))just kidding happy belated Birthday, now try to behave we are watching:)))

Jul 25, 2011 07:10 PM
Linda K. Mayer
License # 01767321 - La Verne, CA

Jason, What an amazing tribute to your mother.  I'm sure she's fantastic and she loves you very much.  And you should really be proud of how far you've come.  Speaking from a mother's perspective, we can only stand behind and shove, but it takes your initiative and your perserverance to make something of yourself!  So Congratulations to you, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY (late).

Jul 26, 2011 10:02 AM