“Patience and fortitude conquer all things.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
1. Write it down. A very effective way of controlling an impulse is by learning to become aware of it. Once you are aware, you have taken the first step to controling it.
2. What is it that sets you off? As you become aware of loosing your patience, find out what it was that set you off in the first place. Was it that your husband didn't take out the trash? Or maybe it was that your best friend is always interupting as your telling a story. Certain things will happen more frequent than others- these are the things you need to focus on the most.
3. Count to 10 and remember to takes deep breaths. At the first sign of frustration, remember to breath in slowly. It really does work. Counting to 10 will help in your initial reaction to yell or loose your cool.
4. Put yourself in Time Out- Taking a few minits to remove your self from the situation will help you focus on what words or actions you can use to make a better decision.
5. Don't sweat the small things. Remeber what is really important and choose your battles carefully. Not all situations require you to loos your patience.
6. It doesn't happen overnight. Remeber that your patience is always going to be tested. Take advantage of that opportunity as a time to practice. Nothing happen right away. It takes time and effort.
7. Find a way to release frustration- This can be achieved by meditation, acupuncture( one of my favorites), massage or exercise.
8. React with Love. The next time your client,child or spouse does something that irritates you like braking a glass or spilling the trash. React to them with a show of love and remember that we all make mistakes. How you react to these situations is what is important.
"It is very strange that the years teach us patience- that the shorter our time, the greater our capacity for waiting." ~Elizabeth Taylor