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TLW's Left Eye


As many of you know, in <January of 2010> I was diagnosed with Melanoma. Since that time, I've learned a great deal about myself, and about skin cancer in general. I've become a bit of a skin cancer pro, which leads me to my next sentence. Not only have I become a pro, I'm trying to become pro-active in doing what I can to raise awareness about skin cancer. For reasons I don't quite understand skin cancer sits very low on the awareness list. I'm thinking that because other cancers take more lives, skin cancer is not really a priority until it happens to you. I also believe that the general populace is NOT ready to give up their sun kissed skin. In spite of everything we know about Melanoma, Basil Cell Carcinoma and skin cancer in general, people still type, or say, things like:

  • I feel asleep in the sun.
  • I accidentally got sun burned.
  • I forgot to wear sun screen.
  • I was on vacation.
  • I was working on my tan.
  • Silly me, it was cloudy outside.
  • I'm not really sun burned. This is how I get tan.
  • I had one too many beers and spaced out.
  • It was a nude beach, I had no choice.
  • I didn't know that sun screen washes off in the water.

Does all of that sound familiar? Thought so. I've used a few of them myself in, what seems to be, a different lifetime. Every excuse I have ever thrown out there seems so stupid now. I mean really, the idea that skin cancer couldn't happen to me was a special kind of stupid. Stupid. Stupid. Did I mention Stupid?

Before I digress let me get back on point, and I do have a point. I want you. I want your family. I want your friends. I want your help. So what exactly is it that I want? I want everyone who reads this post both here, and out in cyberspace, to assist me in sharing the real life experiences that I've been posting on a public Face Book page. That's right. I've taken my skin cancer public - photos, videos and all. Every treatment, every surgery, all of it. It's all out there on the Face Book page with my sole intent being to raise awareness with nothing more than my willingness to be candid and open about my experiences thus far. It's a brave new world we live in. Time for a brave new way of doing things. I'm not sponsoring anything nor am I selling anything.

The page on Face Book is a test run for me. If it looks as if I can actually make a difference, on a human to human level on a bigger scale, I'll be taking The Lovely Wife dot com out of her parking spot and using it in way that benefits those who need help, or wish to be keep informed about such an important topic by someone who's there, and has been there. But, before I do anything I really need to know that the energy it takes to keep abreast of such a project will not be lost on a society that has become so stuck on their tans they can't bring themselves to like a skin cancer page, listen, or even face the reality of what they're doing to their bodies. For me, time is of the essence.

Now, before you pop over to check out <Skin Cancer. Wage Your War> you need to know that it contains extremely graphic images of skin cancer. So graphic, in fact, that I put an age restriction on the page. The images are not for little eyes, the faint of heart or persons who are easily made queasy by all things graphic. So, please, don't come back here and say I didn't warn you. My response to that will be along the lines of ---> Maybe you shouldn't be speed reading a post that has the word cancer in it. I even put that in bold so you wouldn't miss it <--- Okay. I'm done. You can laugh about that nude beach thing now, I know you've been holding that in. Roar :)

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Comments (123)

Kathy O'Neal
The Kathy O'Neal Team - RE/MAX Premier - Chantilly, VA
A great experience & a happy end result.


Thanks for your good work.  Preventing skin cancer all starts with awareness, followed by action.

We appreciate what you are doing!

Kathy & Fran O'Neal

Aug 13, 2011 04:48 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Holster that whip....!

Aug 13, 2011 05:05 AM
Margo Otey

I support your efforts to bring greater awareness of melanoma!  I have lost 2 of my dear friends - dead at 32 and 44 - due to this tricky and persistent disease.  One of my sellers - a very very pretty lady - just had a section of her nose removed due to melanoma and she is devastated about it. 

Everyone should be checked! 

Aug 13, 2011 12:14 PM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor

I don't know how you do it and don't think I could handle things as bravely as you do! Getting the word out as you do is a wonderful thing. Know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of your fellow ActiveRainers on a daily basis!

Aug 15, 2011 01:46 AM
Lee & Pamela St. Peter
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices YSU Realty: (919) 645-2522 - Raleigh, NC
Making Connections to Success in Real Estate

TLW,  there's nobody that can ROAR like you!  And I'm with all those above me, thank you for sharing your experience so that others will know what to do AND not to do.  You are an inspiration AND an advocate to get things checked out.

Now where are my allergies pills when I need them...

Aug 15, 2011 03:53 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I think sharing your experience will undoubtedly make a difference.  I'm off to join to your group. 

Aug 15, 2011 05:47 AM
Barb Van Stensel
Chicago, IL

Fair Skin, High risk with Melanoma.  I am the only one in my family that has not had it but I wear long sleeves during the summer and when it is so bright out or high humidity, I have my umbrella with me.  We have had other forms of skin cancer as well and my Dad now goes in every month.  My sister every 3 months.  My brothers and I ever 6 months.  I applaud you for your alert as it is so important and you are saving lives right and left as a direct result of sharing your life with us.  Thank you for all you do and I know, all you will continue to do. 

Joining and supporting your group.


Aug 15, 2011 08:18 AM
Bridget "Mortgage Mama" McGee
SWBC Mortgage 410-960-2061 - Baltimore, MD
Maryland Mortgage Mama NMLS#196068

TLW, You my friend are an inspiration.  Instead of hiding in the shadows, you are taking it to the streets! 

We have a tremendous amount of cancer in my family, I asked my doctor about getting a referral for a dermatologist for a baseline check up, she blew it off....I changed doctors!! We have to be proactive about our own care!

Many blessings in your fight and in your QUEST!

Maryland Mortgage Mama

Aug 15, 2011 08:27 AM
Charlie Ragonesi
AllMountainRealty.com - Big Canoe, GA
Homes - Big Canoe, Jasper, North Georgia Pros

Thank you for an important post . Thank you for sharing this personal experience. has it been that long since i have read one of your posts !!! I cannot believe it

Aug 15, 2011 09:50 AM
Pam Miller
Realty Associates - Conroe, TX
Broker Associate - Water Crest on Lake Conroe

Billie - Everyone needs to read this post and take heed!  I lived in the" baby oil and iodine" mix generation - talk about terrible for your skin!!!  thank you for sharing:)

Aug 15, 2011 09:53 AM
David Burrows
Classic Realty - Fairfax, VA
No Pressure, Just Seriously Devoted to Real Estate

I just made my trip to facebook and clicked - Like! Thanks for being so open and sharing. Perhaps you will have helped someone else prevent getting skin cancer through being careless.

Aug 15, 2011 09:55 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate Brokered by Real - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Thank you for educating everyone through your personal journey TLW. I am always telling my boys to use sunscreen, especially my blonde / blued eyed one. Going to like your FB page!

Aug 15, 2011 10:08 AM
Team Honeycutt
Allen Tate - Concord, NC

Thanks for the post. My computer won't let me see the photos but I will look on FB tonight.  I've had the pre cancer one removed and have a nice scare to show.  You're doing a good service.

Aug 15, 2011 10:15 AM
Greg Nino
RE/MAX Compass - Houston, TX
Houston, Texas

Neat way to spread the awareness. Is that you with the bag on your head too?

Aug 15, 2011 10:44 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Yeah glad to hear they came back benign. You're on the way with your souped up bod to no more of this stuff.  I too have gone through it but not by any stretch close to yours.  I am so glad you're bringing the seriousness to the light. So many people just don't think it's a big deal. 

Aug 15, 2011 02:20 PM
Julie Ferenzi
john greene Realtor - Plainfield, IL
Julie Ferenzi

Well my lovely lady friend... I think you are doing a great thing!  I haven't been on FB lately and didn't know about your page.  I'll have to help pimp it out for you.  In fact I have a friend you might like to know on there named Elle Feebo.  She's an author, and motivational speaker, and a two time skin cancer survivor.  She has a non-profit dedicated to providing sunscreen to underprivleged families (not something in the budget when you're poverty stricken...)  I think it's called the barefood sisterhood?  I'll send you a link if I can find one...

P.S.  I'm mega jeaous of those biceps...

Aug 15, 2011 05:26 PM
Gwynn Carpenter
Gwynn Teal Carpenter-Broker: Home and Hearth Realty (Austin) - Austin, TX
: Broker, Home & Hearth Realty (512)467-6191

Billie:  Thanks for taking the fight public with skin cancer....I had one removed 20 years ago that was very small and so far nothing else.  Stay strong and best wishes with staying cancer free.

Aug 16, 2011 02:28 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Agent Retired

TLW: Thanks for stopping by the other day & I LOVE your use of video there on that sidebar! Fab! I'm glad it's you that has the cajoles to point out that not enough people are paying attention to something that is very easily preventable.

I'm not sure if I'm going to look at the graphics, I'm squeemish like a little kid.

Aug 16, 2011 12:40 PM
Jackie Connelly-Fornuff
Douglas Elliman Real Estate in Babylon NY - Babylon, NY
"Moving at The Speed of YOU!"

I am sure this post alone will change many lives. I had one bad burn 32 years ago. I was 14 and I never allowed it to happen again. I wear sunscreen whenever I am outdoors.

Aug 18, 2011 03:23 AM
Tammy Emineth
Personal SEO - Website SEO and Real Estate Marketing - Marysville, WA
Content Marketer, SEO Teacher, Website Fixer

I know I am a little late to this party(?) but I loved your PUBLIC post. This is such a vital thing that no one talks about until it happens to them. If its ok with you to post a link, have you seen "Dear 16 year old me" ?? this video is unbelivable and I can't stress the importance of sunblock enough with my children. 

Beat this thing!!!

Aug 19, 2011 07:05 PM