She sabotaged a possible sale of her own home by just trying to be nice!

Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway Home Services California Properties CA DRE#01874007

It's never a good idea for a seller to stay while there's a showing of their home. Talking to a potential buyer could create problems in the transaction that could be costly. I know people worry about letting perfect strangers in their homes but it's not like they're not accompanied by a licensed agent. There's really nothing good that can come from the seller having direct contact nor a conversation with a potential buyer. It's best to listen to the agent and just step out for a walk or not be there at all. I hopw the seller in this post is proud of herself but I do wish her luck in selling her home.

Original content by Carol-Ann Palmieri S-96414

She sabotaged a possible sale of her own home by just trying to be nice!

Chatty Folks

I find that the guidelines in life are generally there for a reason.   For example, you are required to show identification when cashing a check, because some one has taken advantage of the system  or, there is a disclaimer on a hot cup of coffee that lets you know that the coffee is Hot!  :)    You know what I am talking about. 

The suggestions your real estate agent makes are done for a reason too!    

One of those suggestions will surely be,        when there is a showing on your home, leave!  

All too often, a Seller will feel the need to stay for showings, maybe to add information that they feel the buyer needs or because they are just uncomfortable with people being in their home when they are not there.  

This is what happened the other day when Mrs. Seller remained home.

My Buyers are relocating to the area.  They are deciding among several communities and we were to look at a couple of homes in a particular town that were side by side on the end of a small, intimate cul de sac. 

Now, in this area, most of the agents use the lock box system, which allows a Buyer with their agent to view the property unaccompanied by the listing agent or seller.   (typically this is viewed as a good plan as it allows the buyers to really look through the home without feeling rushed or uncomfortable.) 

We viewed a number of homes that day and there was one where Mrs. Seller decided to stay home.    She gave us permission to view the home and provided us with some information on the property.  And then she started!   Chatty Cathy!      She told us all about the neighbors.  She let us know that there were more folks leaving.    She told us of the folks (another home for sale) getting a divorce, and others leaving to get into a new school system.   She let us know that she was looking around in another town for a "smaller" home and the list goes on!   

Now let me tell you, that if my Buyers did like the home, they now decided against that neighborhood and that entire town because of what Mrs. Seller had to say!   

She sabotaged a possible sale of her own home by trying to be just nice!

So, please Mr. or Mrs. Seller.    Heed your agents suggestion on taking a walk!    We know you love your home, but, you don't want to inadvertently talk a Buyer out of it!


Carol-Ann Palmieri

Al and Cal Realty Group



Comments (4)

Carol West
Carol West Real Estate, LLC - Hillsboro, OR
Real Estate Agent, Hillsboro, Beaverton, Portland


What an unfortunate experience for you and your clients. It hurts to hear people embarass themselves and make a property undesirable.


Aug 16, 2011 10:48 AM
Jose Rivas
Nottingham, MD

Victor this is so true, but some sellers think they can do a better job selling by staying there and talking to the buyers.

Aug 16, 2011 10:48 AM
Pamela Lauridsen-Bache
Century 21 Beachside, Mission Viejo Ca - Laguna Niguel, CA

I was selling a car for a friend, it was an older muscle car. We did alot of marketing on this and had a buyer come look at it. The owner of the car wanted to be there, I advised against it. In the process of the owner talking to the buyer, he stated how the tires were 20 years old & he has done nothing to the car. Well the buyer walked and did not buy the car.

Pamela Lauridsen Bache

Aug 16, 2011 11:23 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

I wish the sellers would leave during showings, but sometimes they feel the need to stick around and answer questions.  Even if they don't put their foot in their mouth, it still makes it hard for buyers to imagine a home as theirs when the seller keeps pointing out all the wonderful things that THEY have done to make it THEIR dream home.... too much seller residue!

Nov 19, 2011 02:29 PM