Romance in the Sunset Years in Victoria
Living in Victoria, one of the more "Romantic Cities in North America, we experience a good number of Romantic Sunsets together.
One of the things we see so often may be a bit contrary to common perception, but the inspiration for todays Romance in the Sunset Years article
When you watch television or the movies, you quickly reach the conclusion that romance is only for those in their teens or 20s.
As if somehow once someone reaches full adulthood, much less senior citizen age, the concept of romance is completely out of the question. But we know for a fact that romance in the sunset years not only is possible, it might be the sweetest romance of them all.
Part of the confusion may lie in another misconception or “myth” about senior citizens that they are not capable of sexual activity.
There are two levels of error in this misconception. The first is the idea that people over 50 are sexually inactive. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Sexuality is a healthy component of adult life at all phases of our maturity and senior citizens are just as capable of sexuality in their relationships as your most randy teenager, albeit probably good deal more careful.
The second misconception that is good to confront and put to rest is that even if sexuality is not part of the mix, seniors are not romantic people.
This misconception is without a doubt held people who don’t spend any quality time with senior citizens themselves. If anything, the opposite is the truth.
If anyone tracked the romantic places, parks, trails and beaches in and around Victoria, you would know that our aging and seniors spend much quality and romantic time sharing our beautiful places in our part of Paradise.
Retirement often is a time of tremendous rebirth of romance between senior couples.
Married couples who may have seen the romance fizzle in their relationship during the child raising years often see that element of their relationship blossom and become even more sweet and exciting than it was when they were dating.
Adult life before retirement is often packed with pressures of raising kids and getting them “launched” as well as work and social pressures. So when a marriage matures into retirement years together, its common for senior citizens to rediscover why they fell in love in the first place and experience a new era of romance that is fun and thrilling for both.
But senior citizens who find themselves single are perfectly capable of looking for romantic times with others of their own generation. If they have managed their finances well, senior citizens may be well equipped to enjoy an active dating life and enjoy romantic evenings with each other that enrich their lives and keep them upbeat and looking forward to their next romantic experience.
Moreover, seniors have the time and the leisure to nurture their romantic relationships slowly., and our Victoria surroundings will enhance the experience every day.
So the suspense of building a romance makes that romance full of excitement of discovery is easily afforded for a senior citizen who may not be as “eager” to see the romance “go somewhere” as a youth looking to start a family.
But dating and enjoying romantic times in and around Victoria BC (or anywhere) with a loved partner also provide much needed companionship and deep friendships can evolve from romances in the golden years. If the senior citizen has lost a spouse, these times with others their own age can fill a gap left by that spouse and help ease the transition and the grief so the senior citizen can move on to single life successfully.
Romance in the Sunset (Years) in Victoria is Exceptional.....
I love Victoria! All those beautiful hanging flower baskets, and the gorgeous weather. I love how up north you get daylight till almost 10 at night!
HI Karen,
Victoria is amazing at any age, any time and any season.....we never get enough of it.
Hi Sheila,
Just walking around in Victoria, one can not be prevented from running into romantic couples of any age, everywhere.
Peter and Linda,
If people with these misconceptions spent a little time in a nursing home or seniors home they would soon see the light.
Brian
Hi Brian,
In and around Victoria, we are very used to romantic couples of any age, and it is not unusual for a young couple and elderly couple giving each other a nod of approval as they pass each other on a trail or in a park....
Hi Peter and Linda, when my grandfather died, several years later my grandmother met and fell in love with the man in her sixties..still young. They both enjoyed a very happy life and when he passed at 100, she was not long to follow at 90. My mother in laws good neighbor a few years back was visiting some retirement homes to check em out..and met and instantly fell for this guy. They've been like two teenagers ever since...and I know she's in her late 70's. The body ages but the mind still thinks we're in our teens! Gotta love romance..and so happy to hear it's a common sight in Victoria.
Hi Cindy,
love stories for all ages, great to see your family members have the time of their life in style, good for them.
Great story and nicely told Peter & Linda, thanks for inspiring us this morning. Have a great romantic weekend.
Peter and Linda, actively working in retirement communities, I can attest the the "young at heart" couples walking hand in hand... how romantic =)
HI Chris,
You are spot on, for us that work with the aging, it is pretty normal, but we know that many are really supprised by it....
Hi Sussie,
55 and getting more experienced every day......;) yes we know it is, Victoria has a higher than average ratio of Boomes and Seniors an as such it is not really anything new here, if anything it adds a flaire and personality to our community that people live and let live and are very comfortable about it...
Very nice post Peter and Linda. Unforunately we live in a society that glorifies youth and doesn't give seniors the respect they deserve. Lately this has been changing though, as the population ages, seniors are being given more of their due.
Hi Malcolm,
so true, the scales are tipping for sure, and will continue to do so over the next decades (which becomes a bit of a challenge at some time in the future.)
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