Are your fears justifiable or are they just in your immagination?

Reblogger Krista Lombardi
Real Estate Agent with Prudential Calfornia Realty

Hello  AR Friends. This morning I found a very good post from Noemi. It got me to thinking about my fears and if they are always  justifiable or not. I hope you enjoy it as well. Have a great week.

Original content by Noemi Cardoso Cal BRE# 01988945

Sometimes we feel certain that we know exactly what we’re seeing. If you’re anything like me, odds are you’ve had plenty of opportunities to recognize your perception is often off.

A friend of mine once told me a story about a near-confrontation in the subway. She saw another woman dressed in what one might call Gothic clothing. Although my friend’s look was more conservative, she loved the other woman’s funky-looking shirt.

Unintentionally, she started at it for a while, admiring the unique cut and wondering if she could pull that look off. When they both got off the train, the other woman confronted her, yelling “What you looking at?”

She assumed my friend was judging her, and then her fear turned into anger–completely misguided, aggressive anger. She looked incredulous when my friend told her she admired her shirt, but it was exactly what she’d been thinking.

There’s a primal part of us that instinctively feels scared when we believe we recognize a threat. If we’re not self-aware, and if we don’t learn to challenge ourselves, that fear can manifest in all kinds of limiting emotions and actions.

It can keep us from getting to know people who could be kindred spirits, despite an appearance that might suggest otherwise. It can prevent us from taking smart risks that could help us reach our dreams. It can even bind us in depression and anxiety, convincing us the world is full of suffering, when oftentimes, our interpretations create it.

Of course there’s another side to this coin: sometimes evidence is real. Sometimes the person staring at you legitimately is judging you. Sometimes the things we fear might happen will. But most times we’ll recognize that the worst that could possibly happen isn’t really that bad. Most of the “threats” we face are really just inconvenient or unideal.

Remember: You can assume the worst and allow that to keep you paralyzed, or you can decide to stop wasting your energy analyzing evidence, and focus instead of creating possibilities.

 

 

Noemi Cardoso
RE/MAX Patriot Properties
Serving Bristol County MA & RI
www.distinctivehomes-ne.com

 

            

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