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Dear Jennifer, 
I've wanted to be a real estate agent since I was 18 and your book made it sound so easy and wonderful! Although, I must admit that I also read in other books that you have to "have a thick skin," but I told myself - "I'll be fine because I'll only work with nice people!" The problem is, even "nice" people can be difficult and demanding.
I've finally acknowledged that I don't have the personality for this. I hate it when people are angry with me, and I have a temper myself. I have very little patience for constant interruptions. I hate confrontation and negotiation, and I dread the sound of the phone ringing because I know it's a problem on the other end that I have to solve.
And of course, the financial insecurity has been more than I can stand. Sure, it's great to have those $10,000 months, but they always seem to be followed by several months of zilch - maybe because I spent all my energy working on those sales that led to the $10,000 month. I can't stand not knowing where my mortgage payment will come from or whether or not I can pay my health insurance premium next month.
This career has been devastating to my health, my peace of mind and, as you know, my marriage. Now that I'm back at work, 9:00 - 5:00, in a J O B that I can leave at the office, I'm so happy and relieved, I can't believe I didn't do this sooner.

I hope you aren't disappointed in me. I really gave this my best shot, but in the end, it wasn't for me. Do I feel like a failure? Yes, sometimes. But I tried and I'm glad I did!


Last month I received this letter from one of my very first readers, and with her permission, I shared it with my mailing list.

Wow - the response back to me was overwhelming. Many sympathized with Sharon and quite a few confessed to having similar fantasies about leaving the business. But in the words of those who admitted to be considering a change in career, I heard a common tone of shame, of guilt, of apology - that they felt they had to defend themselves for even thinking about making a change -- even though their real estate business was clearly taking an enormous toll on them.

Well, I'm here to tell you that there is NO shame in changing something that isn't working. Quitting, even. Successful people do it all the time - in fact, Seth Godin wrote a whole book about it (The Dip)! There's nothing sacred about a real estate career and if the time has come to do something ELSE, have the courage (yes, the courage!) to throw in the towel and DO something else!

Of course, if you're just frustrated with your real estate career from time to time it doesn't mean it's the wrong career for you; that's just life -- the frustration will pass. Or maybe you're a little burned out and need a fresh start or even a break so you can rediscover your passion for the career you used to love. In this case, quitting probably is NOT the answer!

So, how can you know which it is? How can you know if you are truly ready to do something else (in which case, you most certainly should), or if you're just a little tired and frustrated?

I dunno ;-]

No, seriously, I think I can help. On August 25th, we'll convene in the SWS Virtual Studio for a frank discussion about, well, quitting. Be warned this is NOT a Rah-Rah show where we'll rev you up and encourage you to eat right, exercise more, think positive thoughts, chant daily and then, oh, yeah, try to sell you lots of our stuff to help get you back on your feet. Nope, our goal is to help you decide, for yourself, if you're on the right path. If you aren't, we'll encourage you to make a change. No guilt, no shame, no apology required!

Date: Thursday, August 25th, 2011
Time: 8:00am Pacific / 9:00am Mountain / 10:00am Central / 11:00am Eastern  
Duration: 75 - 90 minutes
Cost: Free to attend live, but you must register, below. You may purchase a recording afterwards for $3.99 in the Sell with Soul Bookstore.





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Robert Rauf
HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ) - Toms River, NJ

Frustrated with our career choice, NEVER!  well, sometimes... :)

It is true that this is not a job that fits everyone, but it is a great career for the right person that can smooth out the peaks and valleys and one that can roll with the punches.

I do love it, yes it has it's challenges, and difficult people, but it is the differences in every deal that keep it fresh, dont you think?

Aug 23, 2011 04:27 AM #1
Louise Thaxton NMLS 69996
Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp Louisiana NMLS#2289 Equal Housing Lender - Leesville, LA
Military Mtg Specialist - 866-960-9115 VA FHA USDA

Wow - great blog!  I have suggested and re-blogged - I am signing up for the webinar and going to your website to purchase your book!  As the leader of a great team (16 in all) - it is so important that people find the place of their brilliance - and for some "selling" is not that area!  But its ok!  I just did a blog a few days ago on the different personalities - there is no "right" or "wrong"!

Thanks for the blog! Looking forward to reading the book!

Aug 23, 2011 04:38 AM #2
Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
Author of Sell with Soul

Rob - If you have the right personality for this career, then yes - the challenges are part of the fun. But I think we do our pre-licensees a big disservice by not being clearer about the costs, the difficulties (especially today) and what a real estate agent REALLY does all day - and therefore a lot of people sign up for real estate school with no idea of what they're in for. In fact, I just created a free newsletter for pre-licensees helping them evaluate for themselves if they're cut out for this...

"So, You Wanna Be a Real Estate Agent" newsletter

Louise - thanks for the reblog and the support! I'll see ya Thursday morning.

Aug 23, 2011 04:55 AM #3
Ann Cordes
Century 21 Randall Morris and Associates, Waco - Waco, TX
Home Ownership is Not a Distant Dream

Wow,what great timing because I have seriously been thinking about whether or not real estate is right for me, and if I will get out at the end of the year.

There are things I love about real estate, and some things not so much.

 Maybe this show will help make that decision more clear. 

Aug 24, 2011 03:22 AM #4
Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

JAH, I'm in, AGAIN!  Can you please have "The Clash" on loop in the background though.  To Stay or Go is never an easy decision to make! 

Aug 24, 2011 03:29 AM #5
Robert Rauf
HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ) - Toms River, NJ

I agree, many newbies just dont get it, and then you see some knock the cover off of the ball because they have the disipline to show up and work!  as with any business, there is no secret, you have to work it to be rewarded.  I'll check out the news letter

Aug 24, 2011 05:34 AM #6
Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
Author of Sell with Soul

Kevin - Ugh - I didn't like that song when it was out, so nope. Not gonna having it going in the background!

Ann - My goal for the show is to provide some clarity for those in your situation... so... we'll see if I get it done for you ;-]

Aug 24, 2011 05:40 AM #7
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