Football Season Begins: A Time Once Again to Remember Dad

By
Mortgage and Lending with WealthWise Mortgage Planning, a Division of American Pacific Mortgage Corporation NMLS #1850 NMLS 244226

My Dad, for whom I was named, was born on February 25, 1931, in Kearney, NJ.  He and my mother married in 1956 and moved to Burbank, CA, where I was born.

 

Sadly, Dad chose his vices over his family.  I never did get to know him well.  My sister and I did talk with him by phone during our adult years and even visited on occasion but Dad remained an enigma to us.  But there were two things that I did know about him:  he was proud of his Purple Heart service as a Marine in the Korean War and he was a rabid New York Giants fan.  His wife told me that, when the Giants were on TV, he would don his Giants hat, sit in his favorite chair and he was NOT to be disturbed under any circumstances.

 

I called Dad early in 2008 to congratulate him on the Giants’ playoff victory that sent them to the Super Bowl.  Unfortunately, Dad passed 10 days before the big game; we buried him with his special hat.  I watched the Super Bowl that year, pulling for Dad’s Giants.  I’ll never forget that game winning catch by Plaxico Burress.  It was like a miracle win crafted just for Dad.  (If you missed the big game or would just like to recount the game winning drive that earned the Giants the Lombardi Trophy in Super Bowl 42, click here; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ths70-zBdQA.  Warning: may not be suitable for Patriot fans!)

 

Now the 2011-12 NFL season begins.  And, in Dad’s honor, I’ll be rooting for the Giants.

Comments (5)

Kathy Burke
Sensational Home Staging~~Danville, CA - Danville, CA
S.F. East Bay Home Staging

A very nice tribute to your Dad......just had a discussion on "dad's" with my daughter last night.  They can be different, difficult and distant!  Enjoy you football season and be the BEST Dad you can!

Sep 08, 2011 03:12 PM
Sally Dunbar
Lyon Real Estate, Fair Oaks CA (Sacramento Area) - Fair Oaks, CA
Fair Oaks Realtor - Fair Oaks Homes for Sale

Ed - It was so nice talking with you today.  And I love your "Dad Tribute".  I even watched the video, and now DO remember that game.  so sorry you had your distances with him, but as you know, you are not alone in that distinction.  Many fathers and sons have a disconnect.  That is sad, because you are such a warm, sensitive, caring guy.  He missed a lot.

Sep 09, 2011 04:25 PM
Bob & Leilani Souza
Souza Realty 916.408.5500 - Roseville, CA
Greater Sacramento Area Homes, Land & Investments

Ed, I enjoyed you telling us this story today...now it's nice to see the photo you were talking about! It was nice seeing you again and Bob says hello back at you! :)

Leilani

Sep 09, 2011 05:41 PM
Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
CalState Realty Services

Ed - So sorry to hear about your loss and this is a lovely tribute to him and your memory of him.  I feel your pain.  My beloved FiL passed in April and I miss him terribly.  I would tell him all the time that he was the papa that I wished I had been born with. 

Sep 10, 2011 08:01 AM
Ed Gillespie
WealthWise Mortgage Planning, a Division of American Pacific Mortgage Corporation NMLS #1850 - Folsom, CA

Kathy - thanks for the very kind comment.  In talking with friends of mine and their dad's it seems that most of them were much the same way (disconnected-distant). It's sad but a good lesson on how not to be.

 

Sally - It's was very nice getting acquainted with you yesterday too!  Thankfully I did have other good men to model after in my younger days and still to this day.

 

Leilani - Thanks for your kind words.  It's a good memory for me even when thoughts of "what could have been" creep in at times.  Please tell Bob hello for me!

 

Donne - Thanks for your kind comment!  I'm happy to hear that you did have a good FiL in your life.  I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

 

Sep 10, 2011 09:08 AM