Customers and Agents - Cup in Hand

Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA

coffee addict with coffee in handA number of times lately - real estate related and otherwise - I've been taken aback and irritated by the people I see with coffee cups glued to their hands. 


We're not in Dunkin' Donuts, or Starbucks, or a restaurant.


No, we're at the local antiques mall and the aisles are filled with browsers holding on (barely) to their large cups of joe.  This, despite the No Food or Drink sign on the front door.


Or we're at an open house - my open house - and customers and even agents show up with a large to go cup of coffee in hand.


What are people thinking?  I'm as hooked on coffee as the next guy but I would never dream of bringing my cup of coffee with me into a store or a stranger's home.


What further stymies me is that the norm in the US is to have about a half a dozen cup holders in cars nowadays.  These people have a place to stash their cup - there's no need to bring it along.


I asked the guy behind the counter at the antiques shop about the coffee drinkers.  They've apparently given up and have ceded to the mindlessly entitled coffee drinkers. 


Me?  I'm not going to give up.  I greet people at the door and ask them to leave the cup outside.  Maybe they'll think twice next time.  Maybe not.


Does this happen where you are?  Do you bring your coffee with you wherever you go?  What do you think?

Comments (16)

Wallace S. Gibson, CPM
Gibson Management Group, Ltd. - Charlottesville, VA

We need new signs No Shoes, No Shirts, Coffee = NO SERVICE. 

Sep 15, 2011 01:25 PM
Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

That just drives me around the bend as well!  It is like we're living in a world full of toddlers with their sippy cups!!  We actually had agents thinking they would bring their sippy cups on tour/caravan and walk into a client's home with it -  NOT!

Sep 15, 2011 01:28 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Liz - good to see you again.

Nope, I have my cup in the morning but do not do the coffee to go thing.


Sep 15, 2011 01:34 PM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Liz, I gave up on that much coffee, and no, I don't do that. Drives me nutz too. I don't understand it, that's for sure.

So, do let us know how you do prying those cups out of their hands...

Sep 15, 2011 01:34 PM
Denise Hamlin, Broker/Owner
Cardinal Realty ~ 319-400-0268 - Iowa City, IA
Helping Happy Clients Make Smart Choices

Hi Liz ~ To answer your questions. Yes it happens here and NO I do not bring my coffee wherever I go. It's the height of bad manners in my book. Glad you see it like that to. Nice to see the other comments too. I sort of put it down to different folks different strokes. Apparently it's bad manners to you too. That's reassuring.

Sep 15, 2011 03:13 PM
Elizabeth Bolton
RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA - Cambridge, MA
Cambridge MA Realtor

Hi Wallace ~ I'm all for that!

Hi Susan ~ I put off writing this post because I was trying to find a photo of a baby bottle filled with coffee. We too have agents who try to bring their coffees into properties on tour - boggle the mind.

Hey Jeff!  I gotta get back on here and check in to see what everbody's been up to.  Hope it was a good spring and summer.

Hi Andrea ~ We stop for coffee on tour but it would never occur to me to bring it with me. I think it is a very odd new trend.

Hi Denise ~ We are on the same page for sure.  I was going to put this in the Ettiquette category but questioned the spellings and couldn't reach my dictionary.


Sep 15, 2011 04:02 PM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

I have a probem with cell phones in movie theaters and people sitting down for a meal all texting on their phones non-stop.  This is the end of civilization as we know it :(

Sep 15, 2011 06:18 PM
Elizabeth Bolton
RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA - Cambridge, MA
Cambridge MA Realtor

Hi Jane ~ I am so with you on these. I really stopped going to the movies when I got into real estate (and am shocked by the prices now but that's another story) but it would flip me over the edge if people pulled out their phones.  And the sight of people together staring intently at their own phones horrifies me. There was a photo in our local paper of three teenagers in a bedroom - each on their own phone - that caught my eye (and I've been ranting about it since!). Good luck to us all.

Sep 16, 2011 02:49 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

The coffee phenomena is here, too. I leave mine at home; or in my car -- no sippy cup for me! (Nice to see you, Liz.)

Sep 16, 2011 03:56 AM
Elizabeth Bolton
RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA - Cambridge, MA
Cambridge MA Realtor

Hi Lottie - Well I guess this disturbing trend is coast to coast! Bummer.  Hope all's well on the West Coast.

Sep 16, 2011 03:42 PM
Judy Jennings
Top Agent Plus - Middleboro, MA
Tap into Judy's real estate expertise & resources.

Liz - Around here, there is a Dunkin Donuts on every street corner. I think that has something to do with it! I must have my coffee in the morning, after that, I'm good. Don't usually bring it into stores, or strangers homes. Hope business has been good for you.

Sep 17, 2011 08:52 AM
John Cannata
214-728-0449 - Frisco, TX
Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance

Elizabeth - I always have a drink in my hand, however, I do not bring my drinks into people's homes. I do think its rude, but I dont think its rude to bring my coke or coffee into a store with me while I browse. Cant recall taking a drink into a store that has a sign reading 'no outside food' but I cant say for sure.

Sep 19, 2011 02:58 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Dear Elizabeth -

I guess a small table outside the door with a "LEAVE YOUR DRINKS HERE PLEASE" sign will be the latest technique for STAGING!

Have a happy day -

Oct 21, 2011 10:36 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Liz:  I love Susan Emo's comment about them being like toddlers with their sippy cups.  I would have NO problem whatsoever... even if I am just another customer in a store... in saying something to someone carrying one of those large to-go coffee cups.  Spoiled brats, they are.

Oct 27, 2011 05:55 PM
Kathryn Acciari
Arc Home LLC - Shrewsbury, MA
Mortgage Loan Originator

A pet peeve of mine as well!  I traveled to Italy earlier this year, and was well aware of the lack of beverages in the natives' hands.  (Lack of snacking all day also.)  It is yet one more addiction that Americans have to overcome.

Nov 07, 2011 11:40 PM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Kathryn... I'm not sure that it is their addiction that is the problem.  They just need to learn some simple manners !

Nov 08, 2011 07:48 AM