From what I understand as I spoke to friends and through my own experiences, there's nothing in the world like being a parent. I know there are ups and downs and mabe even sideways you are put through, but they wouldn't trade it for anything. The last several months have been particularly emotional for me to deal with due to the loss of my mother.
In 1990 my girlfriend in college Jenn got pregnant. I was 22, and she was 19 it was our second year in college and we seemingly had our entire life ahead of us, we decided to terminate the pregnancy, it was emotional, but the right thing to do at the time. Jenn and I were together the entire time that we were in college and a little after, we went out for about 5 years, the first two or three years were very intense, we seemingly spent all of our time together and did everything together; unfortunately we did grow apart, as she left school the third year and went back to Binghamton.
We have both lived our lives, I 'speak' to her about two or three times a year, usually thru email. She has two young sons, one is 12 and the other is 10. I have a my wife, a dog and 2 cats. I get a little melancholy when I think about the decision we made all those years it--'it' would have been 21 this year. What did that lost life have for the future? Was 'it' going to find the cure for cancer, was 'it' going to win The Tour de France (I'm a cyclist), was 'it' going to find the next big Internet company, etc. So many questions left unanswered by that dcision so long ago.
I sincerely believe we did the right thing, but knowing what I know now, I would have perhaps labored a little bit more. I wonder if I were to have a kid, if these feelings would go away, I think they my feelings may be different, but I still would always have this in the back of my mind.
Knowing what I know now, I am still PRO-CHOICE, but when you see the protesters with those signs, I am empathetic. What do you guys think?