DO YOU GIVE YOURSELF THE CREDIT YOU DESERVE?....No One Else Will If You Don't!

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Do you give yourself the credit you deserve?...No One Else Will If You Don't!!!   No one else but you will give you the credit for who you are and what you have accomplished.

It was not that long ago that I finally got the nerve together to ask my manager just how was it that the new agents with the firm (the ones who had been in the business for years and were just joining our company) were coming on board with titles, like V.P. or S.V.P. I was told to look at a list he had at hand and see if I fit any of the criteria; sure enough, I am an Associate Broker with awards of great significance...in fact I am the only agent in the office who has earned "Diamond" status and so it happens that because I have reached all required levels of sales, I am now a Senior Vice President!! I never would have been given that designation if I had not asked!

So, I decided to re-examine my accomplishments of many years ago.

NEVER, EVER FORGET WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU CAME FROM!!! I have to write this post because of something that just happened to me. I was talking to this young man who is coming into the real estate business and he was asking me all kinds of questions about the business and how I managed to reach "top producer" in my company.

He made me stop and think! I had not thought of this stuff for a very long time and when I stopped to REALLY think about my background, I was amazed at what I remembered. I was amazed because when I sat down to talk to him, I didn't think I was going to be able to shed any light on the topic for him....but I always like to try to help the Newbies that come my way!!! Newbies come to me for advise...and I love to help them!

I went way back to my earliest job; a position that I had asked for at a specialty store in Flint Michigan. I had started out as a secretary at a Doctors office and the woman I worked for was mean and she smoked like a chimney and I was ready for a REAL job. I was tired of the slow pace and the dead-end feeling I had for that job. As much as I loved the Doctors, I was ready to make the change that I knew I needed!

So, I went to the specialty store, Maas of Michigan, and asked to talk to the manager. Her name was Mildred Pierce and boy did she fit the picture of a hard wired "Boss" who ruled the store like an empress. (Betty Davis played Mildred Pierce in a famous movie of the same name in the 50's) She hired me because I asked for the job---behind the front desk! It was killer job in that I never got a break from it. I literally ran upstairs and down 3 flights, collecting register slips and then taking care of people who were unhappy with their purchases and also ringing up many, many sales. I loved it even though I had never worked harder in my life. I was literally worn out and breathless at the end of the work day. Hard Work

ASKING FOR A JOBThat was the beginning of many experiences of asking for what I wanted. The next job was as an assistant buyer in Smith Bridgeman's Department Store, where I went and talked to the manager, Mr. Grahm Dorn, and he hired me on the spot because I asked for the job. Maybe I was so naive that I didn't even think I would not get the job...I was never turned down when I went after a job that I wanted. This happened over and over again over the years and I went to the very top of my field in retailing by asking for the exact job that I wanted.

Now, I never knew that as I was going through it---Never once did I consciously THINK about just asking for the job I wanted--no, it has just now come to me as I spoke to this young man: "I have always asked for the job I wanted to do--no special education to get there--I just went for it." --because I did it impulsively, the impulse to respond was the same and I think that is evidenced by the fact that I was always given the job immediately when I asked for it! In my present day work, as a real estate professional these things are still a part of my persona....I am still able to accomplish what I want to accomplish just by asking for it!!!

To this young man, I owe an enormous amount of gratitude--because as I looked back and dug it up, my background became clear to me: I was an energetic, confident, and hardworking person who was not easily discouraged by the adults around me...no, in fact, they welcomed that about me and they appreciated it as well. At some level, I knew what it was that I wanted to become in life. I didn't lay it out in a plan; I just sprang forward with it in my enthusiasm and eagerness to learn and to work. Southampton New York real estate is where I have arrived! I feel like I have done all the right things and have come a long way to be in a place that is a perfect fit...a fit that has engendered the feeling of success yet again, even in another career. Southampton Village New York is where I have carved out a niche....and now I have reached Senior Vice President status and I am very, very satisfied.

My suggestion To any Newbie then becomes: Never, ever forget who you are and where you came from!!! It is mighty powerful stuff when you look back and dig from the wealth of your experience, no matter how long ago....what might I have said to that young man if I did not remember my history as I did??? I think perhaps I could have faked it and maybe try to make him believe that I magically know what I know because I am special---but I am not. As my father wrote many years ago: "I am a mere translation of myself as all men know me"....and that my dear friends, is the way I see it today!

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Mary Ellen Holleran
Holleran Real Estate - Chapel Hill, NC

Every time I go to a listing appointment, I am asking for a job. It's not always easy but I know it's how I get the job! Thanks for a lovely post.

Sep 16, 2011 12:04 PM #1
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Carol-Ann Palmieri
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Hi Paula.  This is great.   I think all too often our focus is so much on others that we forget about ourselves.   Thanks for making me think!  

Sep 16, 2011 12:47 PM #2
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Paula what a great look back and seeing your greatness!  Ask for what you want!  And you're certainly one to teach and show others by example.  Love it!

 

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Sep 16, 2011 12:53 PM #3
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Ginny Gorman
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Paula, i have had many jobs in financial institutions in management prior to coming to real estate...always asking is important or with a hand swip you are eliminated as many of my buddies were...make yourself indispensable and knowledgeable is key!  great to learn about you..

Sep 16, 2011 01:05 PM #4
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
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Mary Ellen: You are so right! That's a grreat way to look at it! Thanks for pointing it out....

Carol: Good, glad to help you break a pattern that can defeat your own potential! I used to think it was all accidental--that the praise and the "spoils" always go to the person with the best education and the best connections! Well, all of that does matter but you still need to be your best advocate...at all levels of your life!

Sep 16, 2011 01:27 PM #5
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
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Anna: Thank you so much for the feature! ..I am always looking for ways to get my point across and to get my way of thinking out there to those whom it may help...thank goodness for AR because where else can one do that except here?

Ginny: ...and you have hit it right on the head---how many times have you seen the old pink slip come around and if you give into the feeling, you too will be one of the many casualties!!! If you keep your head, sell yourself at all levels of your work and make sure you are recognized for what you know and what you accomplish, you will always have a job! This may seem like a stretch, or maybe even a fiction; I am here to tell you that in a city in Michigan, where everybody was losing their jobs on a regular basis, I always had work! I was not the holder of a degree in anything except experience and awareness, a belief in myself because I knew I could learn to do anything. I always put my complete being into my work too and that was obvious to all of my employers.

Sep 16, 2011 01:36 PM #6
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Cindy Jones
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Paula-terrific advise for anyone whether they are a newbie or an old timer.  We often forget that our past experience is what helps our success in real estate.

Sep 16, 2011 01:42 PM #7
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
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Cindy: I think so too...not too many people would want to admit this is the case, however, I think that in these times it is crucial that people understand that to be your own best advocate is the key to your successes. Let people know what it is that you have been so good at and why....

Sep 16, 2011 01:52 PM #8
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Doug Bullwinkel
Envoy Mortgage, NMLS 6666 - Roseville, CA
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Telling someone how wonderful you are is probably one of the most difficult things for most of us to do.  Once we decide this is something we need to do, we need to proceed with caution.  It's true, if we don't take the initiative, it's unlikely anyone else will.  Congratulations on your new title. 

Sep 16, 2011 07:22 PM #9
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Debbie Gartner
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Great story and great perspective, Paula.  Those that truly have iniatiive will always shine, but sometimes asking for a bit a recognition along the way helps accelerate things.

Sep 16, 2011 11:08 PM #10
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Yvette Chisholm
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc. - Rockville, MD
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It is an interview every time.  Sometimes I don't want the job : )

Sep 17, 2011 03:00 AM #11
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
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Doug: That is where humility comes in. There is a big difference between bragging and taking credit---that means the humility that keeps us from even talking about our accomplishments is the extreme...talking about your accomplishments with humility is the idea behind the post...caution is a good word here.

Debbie:I think you are the perfect example of talking about your accomplishments with humility--that is why people admire you and your successes!

Yvette: You can say that agaiin!

Sep 17, 2011 03:27 AM #12
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As of today I am giving myself a new business card:

John A. Michailidis, Sr. Master of the Known Universe and Beyond

Sep 17, 2011 11:12 AM #13
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
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John: Very Funny! You should have been a commedian! How do you know that you know what you know? Or a better question: Do you know what you don't know? Congratulations on being a Senior Master of the Universe and beyond!(you never know unless you ask, right?:)

Sep 17, 2011 11:41 AM #14
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Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
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Accomplishments need to be recognized.

Sep 17, 2011 02:23 PM #15
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
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Kathy: That is in a nut shell, what I was trying to say :)

Sep 17, 2011 04:45 PM #16
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Mahesh Mike Patel
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Thanks forth post, lately agents seems to be beating themselves up! Including myself. We should be thankful for What we have and we have acccomplished, specially knowing That 90% of agents don't make in this business after just 5 short years. I am grateful tombe part ofnthis blog post.
Sep 18, 2011 05:45 AM #17
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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
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Mike: I am gratefull that you participated!  Thanks for your comment and what you say is so true--we all know so well how to be self critical--we need to pay attention to our accomplishments as well!

Sep 18, 2011 06:34 AM #18
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