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Working at home with kids

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Real Estate Sales Representative with Weichert Realtors & DCC Marketing/Cyprus

I know many agents have a home office and do the majority of their work there. I paid for an office for a year and never used it, so when my lease ended I did not re-new it because I thought it was a waste of money.  That was on September 1 ‘07, my wife delivered our second child on Aug. 22nd '07 and all of the sudden we had a two year old and a newborn at home and no office for me to go to.  Until the baby was born I never realized how much more difficult life was going to be with two especially trying to work from home.

My office is in an alcove area that is attached to the living room - the area that the kids are usually in. It is not an ideal space for me, but the effort to move everything upstairs doesn't seem worth it as before long my two year old will figure out I'm up there and be able to get up the stairs and bang on the door himself when he wants me. I feel bad enough when he pulls my hand and wants my attention but if he makes his way all the upstairs then I will feel worse. Guilt is probably the worst part of working at home because I am physically there but not available.  

I have been working on SEO which is a feat in itself since a few years ago I knew nothing about computers except how to turn it on and occasionally check my email. A concentrated, undisturbed effort on my part is needed but, between a crying baby and tantrums by my toddler it is hard to get even 10 minutes of silence.  

To quote Susan Ward who writes about running small businesses in Canada: " Running a successful home-based business with kids can make you feel like a hamster trapped on an exercise wheel; you just run round and round and don't feel as if you're accomplishing anything".  She hit the nail on the head. Even though I am not the main care giver, I am a very hands-on Dad. My wife helps me out with my work too so we are kind of interchangeable to the kids for the most part.  At times we both feel like we are running around and not getting much done. We actually have said our life is like a relay, passing the baby as we go back and forth during our daily chores and work.   

I hear of so many work from home moms and dads, but does anyone have little ones like I do?  They are more than a full time job themselves.  Other than taking back my rarely used office my wife and I are trying to devise a schedule so we will each know what to expect and as the kids get older they will too. Hopefully they will appreciate that they have both parents at home and that we do everything for them. Fingers crossed that we can implement it and it gets less chaotic around here!    

 

 

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Sandy Noll
(RSVP Real Estate) 425.890.0878 - Gig Harbor, WA
RE Pro Serving Snohomish to Thurston Counties
Cleo first let me say I'm jealous!!!  I would love to move to another country like Italy or maybe Australia but my husband says NO WAY!!!!  And yes working at home with little ones is almost impossible but somehow you'll manage.  It doesn't get any easier as they get older either!  I now have an 8yr old and 5yr old and when there is no school YIKES!  They try to be quiet for me when I'm on the phone but two boys being quiet is unheard of!  As for appreciating it, they still don't understand the sacrifice I make and that other kids are at daycare while their parents work.  BUT, I also have a 20yr old who made it through school without getting involved with the wrong crowds and we are best friends.  She tells me everything which I believe is due in large part to my having been home for her through all her school years and NOW she understands and appreciates that I was there!  It's all worth it in the end!  Best of luck to you.
Jan 11, 2008 05:54 PM
Cleo Shahateet
Weichert Realtors & DCC Marketing/Cyprus - Bristow, VA
Sandra, thanks for the comment and hopefully we'll also come out of this with kids that are as appreciative and responsible as your daughter! As for living overseas, it is a nice change and good experience but, definitely makes you appreciate the US a lot more!
Jan 11, 2008 07:08 PM
Cleo Shahateet
Weichert Realtors & DCC Marketing/Cyprus - Bristow, VA
HI Krista ~ Unfortunatly it hasn't gotten any less chaotic around here. My sons are around the same age as yours (Born Oct. 05 and Aug. 07).  WE just try to do all we can and take advantage of nap times, late night hours and any semi-quiet time. We also accept help from any family memeber that offers it.  It is rough and we don't think it will get much easier. WE haven't been able to get into a schedule or figure out any time management since it goes from calm to chaos in a sceond! At least we made a couple sales recently so figure we must be doing ok amidst all this chaos!  If you figure out soemthing that works for you also Please let me know too! And Good Luck!
Feb 13, 2008 03:56 PM
Marilyn Harrell
Better Homes and Acres - Beaverton, MI
Wixom Lake - Beaverton MI

I was fortunate to be a stay at home mom; I was not trying to run a business, but I did attend college during that time. I just remember being on my feet all day long and sleeping like a rock at night!

You'll treasure these days when they are grown and its all just a blurry memory. Enjoy each day - they grow fast!

YOU CAN DO IT!

 

Jan 27, 2009 11:13 PM