What Would Your Mother Say if She Read THIS

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Embarrassing Facebook Posts
Every once in a while I read a Facebook post that makes me cringe.  You know the type of post I’m referring to.  It’s typically a crude statement followed by a visual description of what they are doing, why they are doing it or even why that particular part of their life is so unbearable.

   Shocking Facebook Posts
Facebook posts like the one above make you want to blast the offender with things like – “what in the world were you thinking when you posted that??” or “what would your mother say if she read this?!”  Would she be horrified, mortified or stupefied?
Try as I might to shrug off those particular posts, I just can’t imagine what would possess someone to not only think such a thing but verbalize it for all to see. When I stumble upon this type of poor social behavior, I want to give the poster the benefit of the doubt.  I want to believe that it was a momentary lapse in judgment.  Maybe it was simply a moment in time where emotion reigned supreme and the ability to “just say no” had fled their body.

The sad fact is that the above probably isn’t true.  Many people just don’t seem to possess an internal monitoring system.  That “IMS” or social filter is the alert system that lives in most of us.  It gives us the heads up that the thought rolling through our head should remain there and not find its way into cyberspace. 

The problem with allowing those thoughts to tumble out is that it’s not just our friends and family reading them.  Far too often it’s potential clients that are monitoring our social happenings trying to gather a glimpse into what we’re made of.

When you look across your social networks, how do you portray yourself?  Are you transparent, open, welcoming, genuine, compassionate, understanding, kind, thoughtful and empathetic or are you illusive, short tempered, bitter, angry, frustrated, negative and an overall gloomy person?

Think before you post.  Don’t let one moment in time cloud your judgment and ruin your online reputation.  And for goodness sakes, don’t be a Gloomy Gus.  No one wants to work with someone who can’t get past their own discouraged and defeated attitude.

Clients are paying attention to everything we do.
  Your next post could make the difference between a new referral or a month without closings.





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Jayne Clement
Keller Williams Realty - Los Feliz, CA
Los Angeles Short Sale Agents

Your words resonate..."that potential clients may be reading these posts..."  Some people seem to need editors following them around!

Sep 30, 2011 06:21 AM #81
Jennifer Chiongbian
Specializing in all types of Manhattan apts & townhouses - Manhattan, NY
Real Estate Broker - NYC

People sometimes just don't think!  Once its out there, it's out there forever.  I am even very careful about my rants on AR that are only for members eyes...

Sep 30, 2011 07:12 AM #82
Steven Pahl
Keller Williams Tampa Properties - Tampa, FL
Real Estate Consultant Tampa, FL 813-319-6423

Yep, just because you may feel a certain way or you may say it to friends in private, doesn't mean you should post it for all the world to see.

Sep 30, 2011 07:37 AM #83
Karen Steed
Tallapoosa, Bremen, Waco, Buchanan, Temple, Carrollton - Tallapoosa, GA
Associate Broker Haralson Realty

Before I post, I always ask, what would my Grandmother think.   I read my son's rantings and I just shake my head...

Sep 30, 2011 07:45 AM #84
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

In my generation there was a saying "fools names are like their faces, always seen in public places".  Well Face Book is a very public place.

Sep 30, 2011 07:48 AM #85
Joshua Stein
Coldwell Banker Preferred - Conshohocken - Flourtown, PA
Homes For Sale - Montgomery County
I am Facebook friends with many members of my wife's ultra-conservative Southern family. I filter everything I post around whether or not I would feel comfortable expressing that particular thought directly to their faces. I only wish my wife's "switch" functioned that well. :)
Sep 30, 2011 09:33 AM #86
Sharon LittleJohn

Excellent Post! I am amaxed at the information people put out there and don't realize the whole world can read it and google it! Thanks for the fresh approach to a subject that really needs to be addressed more often


Sep 30, 2011 09:33 AM #87
David Evans
HUD NLB Cumming GA

I say be real be yourself, don't be stupid! Hello? Hope we all know this by now...

Sep 30, 2011 09:45 AM #88
Jayson Holland
Listings.com - Denver, CO
Jay Holland

i purposely do not friend my clients on facebook (unless they are already my friends). FB is way too personal, and I like to keep it professional with my clients.


Sep 30, 2011 10:19 AM #89
Carrie Sampron
Home Smart Realty Group - Highlands Ranch, CO
ABR SFR & Kathy Sampron (303) 931-3629 Highlands R

I think, even though your name is right there, people feel a sense of anonimity when posting on Facebook. That or they think the rest of the world wants and needs to know every little thing about their lives. None of us is that important! Carrie

Sep 30, 2011 11:24 AM #90
Rebekah Radice
Imagine WOW! Digital Marketing Agency - Burbank, CA
Social Media Marketing, Coaching & Training

Kristine - I did forget to add "don't drink and Facebook" so thanks for the great reminder!  Going into a Friday evening that's always important to keep top of mind!

Deb - That is an excellent point and one that I totally agree with.  Somehow I feel safer posting or commenting on AR.  Maybe its the community thing and the feeling that most will embrace you on your good days and bad.

Sharon - I do think you just have to be yourself and if others don't like it, we certainly have the ability to unfriend or hide them.  We all have tough days and to pretend we don't is just unauthentic.

Cathy - Thank you!  I think there are a lot of "fools" out there that just don't get how many people are watching them.  Sadly, getting fired is the only way they figure it out.

Sep 30, 2011 12:04 PM #91
Beverly Femia
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Hampstead, NC
Broker Realtor Stager - Greater Wilmington, NC Are

This need to provide TMI is a cultural phenomena that was much less prevalent just 20 years ago. Over a period of 10 years, I can remember hiring one or two people who got through the interview process without divulging a narcissistic obsession with themselves.  by noon of their first day on the job, the entire office knew more about this person in 4 hours than they had learned about other colleagues over a period of years.  This obsession with self does not produce team players who fit fit in well socially.  what is is about our culture that makes this behavior so prevalent now that we all know people with this personality flaw or disorder or whatever...  

Sep 30, 2011 03:53 PM #92
Victoria CB Trees
Crater Lake Realty, Inc. - Chiloquin, OR
Principal Broker

My thoughts exactly... what is worse is realizing that many mothers wouldn't know the difference either...

Oct 01, 2011 08:12 AM #93
Jimmy Phan
Phan real estate group in hickory

there ia always give and take in everything in life....face book is not different especially when it is the largest social netwk ....we dont expect the perfect or any thing close to the perfect out of it

Oct 01, 2011 08:48 AM #94
Nathan Tutas
Tutas Towne Realty, Inc. - Davenport, FL
Your Central Florida Real Estate Expert

I'm a huge proponent of being yourself and being transparent. I say what I mean and mean what I say. There are going to be some people that don't want to work with me and that's fine with me. Those people probably wouldn't be very enjoyable for me to be around anyway. You're right, no one wants to work with someone who is a Debbie Downer, but I don't think you should sugar coat who you are either. I'm not afraid for everyone to know exactly who I am.

Oct 01, 2011 12:04 PM #95
Susan Harding, HomeStar Video Tours
Portland, OR
Showcasing You and Your Listings, 855-579-6284

Right on target Rebekah!  Just the other day someone posted about how much they hate children and can't stand to hear them laughing and playing outside.  I immediately unfollowed them on twitter. 

Great post!  I really don't get why people post some of the things they do, especially the incredibly negative ones.

Oct 02, 2011 05:02 AM #96
Dawn A Fabiszak
Private Label Realty ( Denver metro area, Colorado - Aurora, CO
The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience!

Rebekah ~ I have seen those statuses on FB.  It really does make me wonder about the type of person that they really are.  Internal editing or social editing is an important skill to possess.

Oct 02, 2011 11:37 AM #97
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Rebekah - It's so important to remember that many people may read what we post online, and that we need to keep our mental goalie in place.

Oct 02, 2011 05:24 PM #98
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I think people are looking for some transperancy and authenticity, but some of this is pure shock value and just crass.  I have had talks with my kids about this.

Oct 03, 2011 06:12 AM #99
Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

I love all of your social media blogs and advice Rebekah -Kasey

Oct 03, 2011 07:34 PM #100
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