Focus on What You Want and Quit Complaining

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Focus on What You Want and Quit Complaining

Wayne Dyer said, “Did you ever notice that the people who always complain, seem to have more to complain about?”

I've noticed a common theme among the various speakers, teachers and preachers I have followed over the years. Whether it’s a business mentor, a spiritual guru or minister of God, the message is the same. Quit complaining, it’s not creating any good outcomes.

SecretEarl Nightingale recorded “The Strangest Secret” over 50 years ago, so “The Secret” of 2006 really wasn’t a secret at all. In a powerful message to the world, he states that the key to success is the same as the key to failure. You become what you think about. YOU are in control of where you are today, who you are and what you have….or dont have. He talks about focusing on WHAT you want, not what you don’t want. He compares the mind to a seed that you plant. There’s no judgment from the earth whether it’s the seed of a beautiful flower or a poisonous plant. It will produce both good and bad plants equally in abundance. The mind and the universe also have no judgment and will figure out how to produce more of what thoughts you continue to feed it, whether good or bad. Therefore, focus on what it is you want to happen and ask yourself how to make it happen. You will miraculously start to see the opportunities present themselves to you! Remember though, the KEY is that YOU MUST TAKE ACTION on the opportunities.  The focus helps you attract them and SEE them.

Jack Canfield, author of “The Success Principles”, discusses your “response ability”. You have a choice to focus onSuccess Idea Man and talk about your current reality (complaining) or talk about and focus on what you want and where you want to be. If you complain about it, you have the power to do something about it. Again, start asking yourself different questions to stay focused: “What inspires you? What one thing did you learn today? What is one success you had today? What is one good deed you did today? Your success that day may simply be that you showed up, and that’s OK. Your best changes from day to day. While attending one of Jack Canfield’s seminars at Unity Church recently, he said it well. “What if Martin Luther King had said, I have a complaint! instead of I have a dream!”?

Temper TantrumJoel Osteen, highly renowned minister of the Gospel, discussed Isaiah 62: 6 “Put God in remembrance of His promises, keep not silent. Give Him no rest until it comes to pass.” Instead of complaining or whining to God, remind God of his promises. Don’t beg and plea. Instead, remind Him, “God, you said… I will make your name distinguished.” “God, you said… You would prosper me, even in a desert.” Use evidence and present your case through scripture. Stay persistent, don’t give up. Like a child who asks for something and we promise it, don't they keep reminding us about it until we make good on our promise? Do we not often give in and finally do what we said we would . . . not because we necessarily want to but because we want them to stop asking for it?  It’s the same message. When you’re continually reminding God of his promises, you are focusing on what you want instead of reminding Him (and yourself) why you can’t be successful.

Deepak Chopra, Tony Robinson, along with many others teach about how YOU create your circumstances by what you concentrate on. Everything is energy. Your thoughts are energy you send out into the universe. Like attracts like. If you send out negative thoughts, you will attract the negative things and circumstances you keep sending out. If you start focusing on the result you WANT through thoughts, notes on your mirror, dream boards, conversations, meditation or prayer, you will start to see amazing opportunities come your way and you may not even know how! You will be propelled to take ACTION toward your desire. By talking about, thinking about, and writing about what you want, you will naturally get motivated to take action steps toward it. This is how the Law of Attraction works. Let's be clear, if you sit on your couch while the opportunities present themselves and you don't DO anything about it -they're just missed opportunities.  The biggest misconception about "The Secret" and the Law of Attraction, is that you can just wish for whatever you want and you will get it.  Not so. 

In the wise words of Tony Robbins, "Knowledge is NOT power. Knowledge is Potential Power."

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Michael S. Bolton
Michael S. Bolton,Inc. - Zimmerman, MN
MN Appraiser

Awesome post Kelli! I love Earl Nightengale-I have the "Strangest Secret" on my mp3 player.

Sep 30, 2011 09:21 AM #1
Kelli Grant Group Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Arizona
Kelli Grant Group | Berkshire Hathaway - Scottsdale, AZ
Helping you make decisions best for your family

That's fantastic, Michael! There's so many who have never heard of it.  I have listened to it periodically over the past 20 years and every time, I hear something new.  Isn't it great!? :-)

Sep 30, 2011 09:26 AM #2
Nick & Trudy Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtors, Philly Main Line

Great post, especially the last paragraph, too many people think all they have to do is wish, not take action. Every boat needs to leave harbor to arrive somewhere else, once on the water you deal with the winds, whatever they are, but using skill will get you to your destination, but you need to know your destination or you allow the winds to blow you where ever...

Sep 30, 2011 09:39 AM #3
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Kelli, I have a relative who is always in persuit of bettering himself. Unfortunatly he is the one who expects it all to materialize in front of him, with no action on his part. A wonderful opportunity presented itself to him, he didn't want any part of it because he would have to get up, reach out and grab it. It was not without work.

How sad...

We are what we think, positive and negative.

Great post!

You are featured in Positive Attitude for the Weary Soul Group! (PAWS)

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Oct 01, 2011 03:42 AM #4
Joanna Cohlan
Fresh Eyes For Your Home - Chappaqua, NY
Designing, Decorating & Staging Westchester Homes

Fabulous words Kelli-I must say that when I read the post it was clear to me that those I know who complain, are ALWAYS complaining-it's so important to be in action to help you realize that you are empowered.

Oct 02, 2011 03:31 AM #5
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Million $ Guild Cert Luxury Home KW Land Division


Our company has several GOLDEN RULES and one comes to mind from your post:

You can have reasons or you can have results and you can't have both!

I think this says it very well.


Oct 02, 2011 01:33 PM #6
Kelli Grant Group Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Arizona
Kelli Grant Group | Berkshire Hathaway - Scottsdale, AZ
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Andrea, thank you for the feature!  I have a few of those relatives myself! haha  When someone won't take action like that, it makes we want to ask why they're saying they want that opportunity when they clearly don't have the passion for it or they would be excited & eager to seize the opportunity. 

Kevin, I'll have to recycle that one on my Twitter status! :) "You can have reasons or you can have results and you can't have both!" 

Nicy & Trudy, excellent point and since you used a boat analogy -which I love - Earl uses it to in The Strangest Secret, "Think of a ship with the complete voyage mapped out and planned. The captain and crew know exactly where the ship is going and how long it will take — it has a definite goal. And 9,999 times out of 10,000, it will get there. Now let's take another ship — just like the first — only let's not put a crew on it, or a captain at the helm. Let's give it no aiming point, no goal, and no destination. We just start the engines and let it go. I think you'll agree that if it gets out of the harbor at all, it will either sink or wind up on some deserted beach — a derelict. It can't go anyplace because it has no destination and no guidance...."

Joanna, isn't it the truth?? 

Oct 03, 2011 07:57 AM #7
Lorraine or Loretta Kratz
Crescent Moon Realty, Inc. & Land N Sea Auctions. - San Marcos, CA
Certified Negotiation Consultants

I am a fan of all the motivated speakers that you quoted/mention and I have added a new one Darren Hardy who has written the Compound Effect, it is simply brilliant. He speaks of being consistent and persistent wins the race. Example, a man who eliminated 100 calories a day, walks and extra 1,000 steps and reading 10 pages of something inspiring or listen to something inspiring, at first you don't see the change, but 18 months later he has lost weight, healthier and is walking about with a better mind set.

This is just one of the many ways he points out how one can change and improve but it does take action.

Oct 03, 2011 10:51 AM #8
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Great read and very well put together, I have listened as well to al you mentioned and have many books and tapes but need to put them to good use I guess.

Oct 06, 2011 03:06 PM #9
Gail Robinson
William Raveis Real Estate - Southport, CT
CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT

Kelli - It's good to be reminded of that.  It's so easy to focus on the little negatives in life and then start complaining to family and friends, before you know it the complaining and focusing on negatives becomes a habit.  Thank you for the reminder.  I'm going to refocus my thoughts by taking a look at some of the books in my library on this subject.

Oct 13, 2011 02:43 PM #10
Kelli Grant Group Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Arizona
Kelli Grant Group | Berkshire Hathaway - Scottsdale, AZ
Helping you make decisions best for your family

Lorraine & Loretta, thank you for sharing that from DarrenHardy!  I hadn't heard that one...I love that - it's so simple do-able and powerful.

Charles, don't we all need to take the action on what we learn?  It's so easy to get inspired and then keep doing what we've been doing and wondering why our results are the same.  I just had a week like this myself.

Gail, Thank you for the honest note. I had a less than stellar week myself and got into some bad habits, so you inspired me and reminded me to quit beating myself up over and move along! :-)

Happy Day, all!

Oct 16, 2011 09:57 AM #11
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