Some perspective...

Real Estate Sales Representative with Immeubles Deakin Realty

I've been working with buyers for a couple of months now, a lovely couple merging two families.  I spent many Sunday mornings with them touring Montreal West Island homes for sale, looking at comparables, discussing neighbourhoods vs price vs features.

We had an appointment scheduled on Monday to write up an offer on one particular property, a great home for sale in Beaconsfield, Quebec.  It was going to be a great start to my week.

View of a forest looking up from groundOne hour before the appointment, she called, her voice breaking, to say that they would not be coming to the appointment, that they were putting off their home search until next year some time, and that the house in question was definitely out.

I know this happens, but still I was devastated - after all that work, all that energy, all that excitement, all that time away from my own family.

I called her later that afternoon to see how she was doing.  She was still in tears.

And that's when I was blessed with perspective.  I had lost a deal (and perhaps a surprise Christmas vacation for my family), but these people had lost something much more significant.  I don't know whether it was their relationship, or a job, or financial security, but it was enough to bring them to tears and to put their future together on hold.  And it was definitely more significant than "a deal."

And with that, I'm off to count my blessings...

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Comments (9)

Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Tanya- you're so right... we can easily forget that these "transactions"  "sales", or whatever are just that to us, but to our clients they're so much more.   We have to always keep that in mind. 

Oct 21, 2011 08:54 AM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

At least this buyer sounds like they have a genuine excuse. Not just blowing you off.  Sad.  We don't know what she is going through.

Oct 21, 2011 08:55 AM
Andi Grant
310-508-4354 | - Los Angeles, CA
Helping 1st time buyers and home sellers in LA!

Tanya GREAT perspective!  You being so understanding I'm sure they wouldn't hesitate to refer you or immediately call you if things should change.  

Oct 21, 2011 01:09 PM
Brian Madigan
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage (Toronto) - Toronto, ON
LL.B., Broker


These things happen, but I'm sure both parties involved will use you when your services are required.


Oct 22, 2011 11:29 AM
Tanya Nouwens
Immeubles Deakin Realty - Montreal West Island, QC
Montreal Real Estate Broker & Stager

Thank you all for your comments.  You've pushed me to reach out to him as well, not just her.  I had only spoken to her directly, and that was very one-sided of me.  Thanks again, my friends.

Oct 23, 2011 03:13 AM
Scott Hayes
(512) 786-8300 - Austin, TX
Realty Austin, Broker Associate


We are in a business of emotions and relationships. It isn't our emotions, or our relationships, but those of our clients. It's tough to spend time with a client (s) only to have all your energy sucked out, when they don't go through with a transaction.

But since you didn't treat them like a *deal* you never know how it will play out. Their circumstances change where they can buy, or perhaps they refer a friend to you. 

Oct 23, 2011 03:34 AM
Malcolm Johnston
Century 21 Lanthorn Real Estate LTD., Trenton, Ontario - Trenton, ON
Trenton Real Estate

Tanya, there are things that are way more important than real estate, we sometimes need a little reminder once in a while.

Oct 23, 2011 11:14 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@Properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Tanya, I hope they'll be alright.  Merging families can be pretty stressful even with the other stress triggers that could be involved. 

Nov 06, 2011 02:53 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Wonderful perspective, Tanya.  I hope things turn around for the better for that family.

Dec 06, 2011 08:23 AM