The Kitchen Dance - Who's on Your Dance Card?

Industry Observer

There are those we HATE to work with and those we LOVE to work with.

Are you able to "kitchen dance" with someone, or are you the one stumbling around in everyone's way?

"Kitchen Dance" you say? What the heck is that?

You know how there are people you'll let into your kitchen to "help", and those you really want to stay on the other side of the counter, or better yet, in the other room?

And some you won't invite over at all if there is going to be real work to be done by multiple hands?

My mom is almost deaf, and we kitchen dance just fine, with minimal conversation. That doesn't mean we're good cooks, it just means we are aware of what the other one is working on, anticipate what else needs to be done, and pick up the slack where needed. Before we start, we make sure we're on the same page for what we need to get done and on what timeline, and then we just DO IT. We can cook, paint, clean out the garage, organize a bake sale. All with minimal conflict, and maximum efficiency.

Contrast that to working with someone who stands around and watches you work, or jockey's for your attention (when the pasta is boiling over), is always in the way, or bristles at being asked to wash a dish, take out the trash, cut up the onions.

It's the same in the work place: there are people who working with just flows smoothly. And then there are those that manage to get offended by everything, that don't do their share, that always have excuses (or someone to blame).

So, we should ask ourselves - are we people who smooth out the dance, or gunk it up? Are we continually looking for what needs to be done and then DO IT so that the process (ANY process) goes more smoothly? Do we wait to be asked to do something, or do we look for what needs to be done?

For years, I accomodated the jerks, the ones who can't dance. Or more appropriately, who won't.

Now, not so much. Actually, as little as possible. Now, I just steer clear.

How about you - how well do YOU dance?





Comments (9)

Marcia Kramarz
Re/Max Executive Realty - Medway, MA

I'll never bump elbows with my husband as we fight for a particular place in the kitchen that I won't think of your term - "dance" - Pleasant to think of it that way!

Oct 21, 2011 11:18 AM
Megan Lincoln
Collection Lincoln Crossing - Lincoln, CA
New Homes in Lincoln, CA

In new home sales, this is especially important as you have to trust your partner to take great care of your buyers on your days off, or while you are showing a property.  I've been very lucky so far! (knock on wood)

Oct 21, 2011 11:30 AM
Rose King
David Tracy Real Estate - Friendswood, TX
Friendswood / Pearland / Houston Bay Area

Kitchen Dance! I like that! When I have to work with someone who isn't a good dancer, I tend to take over and do everything myself. It's easier than waiting for someone else to learn the steps.

Oct 21, 2011 02:06 PM
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices


As a family small company, we are all mediocre dancers (LOL). As for real dance, I never could. And in the  kitchen my impatient wife always wants me out. It does not matter how big the kitchen is (and ours is darn big), I always on her way

Oct 21, 2011 03:06 PM
Pam Hills
Innovative Artistry - Kendall, FL
ASP/IAHSP- Stager Miami, FL, Creative Minds Innovatively At Work

I love that sway to dance, but if it is too much then I sway myself right out into more serene surroundings...well if possible.  

(I love the holidays w/ a few family in the kitchen) I clicked on your link & now I am curious, I would love to know the name of that book :)  I bet I would love to read it also.  Thanks for the post, we all feel sometimes.  Hopefully not too bad a week?  Have a great weekend!

Oct 21, 2011 05:20 PM
EC, JF, Double R and Zoey the Cool Cat
Russel Ray Photos - San Diego, CA

I thought Kitchen dance was original to my mom. She doesn't let anyone into her kitchen. If dad or I want to cook, we do it outside on the barbecue grill. Even then we have help, so to speak.

Nov 18, 2011 01:07 PM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD


Merry Christmas!

Your friends in Maryland, Roy and Dolores Kelley

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Photographs by Roy Kelley.  Canon PowerShot G11 camera.
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Dec 25, 2011 01:54 AM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Solutions - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

You've been gone for three months now.  It's time to come back and share your knowledge with us here in the Rain.  I miss you!  Hope you are doing well.

Jan 22, 2012 04:02 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I love this post that is a good reminder that we all need to be willing to do what it takes to make things happen.

Have an outstanding week!

Be sure to  have your camera in hand to capture those special moments as you are out and about in your community and your travels.

Jan 31, 2012 01:09 AM