There Will Always Be Obstacles

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I was sixteen, maybe seventeen, when it happened. My friends and I were riding on our favorite trail by the riverbank. Six big, beautiful horses, happy and eager to fly forward, loving the freedom. The air was full of summer; nothing but blue sky, majestic trees bathing their branches in the slow stream of the river, sun overhead, and the world zipping by us in exhilaration.

horseThe path veered to the right, away from the river and into the forest. We were going fast, way too fast for such a narrow road. Then the time stopped for a split second. My friend ahead of me ducked and instinctively pushed a tree branch off, just barely clearing it. It slinged back, smashed into my face and shot me out of the saddle, right under the hoofs of the horse behind me. 

The hard fall knocked the wind out of me, but luckily other than couple of bruises I was not seriously hurt. Even my horse Nero was shaken up and became skittish, breathing hard and flaring up his nostrils nervously. I didn't want to get back on him, not after what just happened. But the only other option was to walk the four miles back, bruised and all.

This was my first serious fall and for the first time I was suddenly scared to ride again. My friend said to me: "The longer you wait, the harder it is to get back on, until you talk yourself out of riding all together. Hop on and let's go!"

So I did.

There will always be obstacles, problems to solve, mountains to climb, unexpected branches that may smash your face... In real estate and in life. After all, "too easy" would mean too boring -- at least for me. And with triumphs and victories also come occasional defeats, bruises and disappointments.  So dust yourself off when you didn't get that listing, the buyer canceled or the expired wasn't too friendly. It happens to ALL of us once in a while. Hop back on, because believe me, the ride is worth it. 

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Lori Bowers
La Quinta, CA
The Lori Bowers Group

This is a great analogy to life. Even when we get the wind knocked out of us we learn from our actions and climb higher the next time.

Oct 22, 2011 09:22 AM #1
Gayle Beyer
Welcome Center Realty 772-336-8583, FLA777 - Port St Lucie, FL
Port St Lucie FL Real Estate Broker

I was once told, and this has stayed w/ me forever - "You are not a good rider until you fall" - and yes I was riding horses, but true in life, a fall is an opportunity to learn or an attempt made at something larger than our comfort zone.

Oct 22, 2011 09:33 AM #2
Linda Blumenthal
Hampton Crossing - Licensed Real Estate Salesperson - 631-466-4087 - Westhampton Beach, NY
NYS Licenced Real Estate Salesperson, CBR

Hi Borino.  I had to respond to your post, not only because the message is so valuable, but also because it is so beautifully written.  Yes, the ride is worth it, and you never know what is ahead just around the corner.

Oct 22, 2011 09:55 AM #3
Krista Abshure
Fathom Realty - Fuquay Varina, NC

So well written and so accurate as well!  We have to learn to keep persevering even with faced with obstacle after obstacle.  I recently sold a house that it seemed like there were no bumps that go in the way but just one giant steep hill that we had to keep climbing.  Thankfully because I had prepared her for the long ride and we were able to successful navigate issue after issue as they arose.  Eventually when we reached the top we were able to close the home and she thanked me for never giving up on her and helping her achieve her dream.  Obstacles or opportunities, I guess it is how you look at them right?

Oct 22, 2011 10:08 AM #4
Borino - The Real Estate Coach
Borino Productions - Falls Church, VA

Thank you all for the comments and kind words! That is so true, Gayle. We cannot grow unless we move out of our comfort zone. And as you said, Linda, there are often beautiful suprises around the corner.

Yes, Krista, it's the perception that makes all the difference. You must have felt a great deal of personal pride and satisfaction, getting such a challenging transaction done. Great job!

Oct 22, 2011 10:09 AM #5
Rob D. Shepherd
Windermere/lane county - Florence, OR
Principal Broker GRI, SRES

Nice anlogy! I haven't though of our daily defeats this way before.

Oct 22, 2011 11:28 AM #6

Interesting, I didn't know that happened to you. You know in motorcycle riding they have this saying, its not about if you will go down, its a matter of when you go down. The thought behind it is some people think they won't ever go down, and others know that falling is just part of riding. The reason why this is an important aspect of riding is because if you prepare for the when (meaning physically, mentally, emotionally), then you'll be able to much more easily get back on and start riding vs if your not prepared for a fall, you have a very good chance of never riding again. This translates into everything in life, I like to say its not about how hard you fall, but how hard you try to get up from the fall, learn from it, and move on.  Good one Borino, thanks!


Oct 22, 2011 02:35 PM #7
Joan Congilose
New Jersey Properties - Manalapan, NJ
Helping Sellers & Buyers

Hi Borino. I love your blogs. Sorry to hear you were smashed in the face, but the analogy of the story to our business is so true. I have those days when I do take it personally if I don't get a listing, a buyer doesn't show up or a listing expires only to sell a week later. But you are right it is just business,it  makes us stronger and the more we try the more we will succeed.   

Oct 22, 2011 03:50 PM #8
Rob Magnotta
Huntington Beach, Newport Beach, Seal Beach, Irvine REALTOR - Huntington Beach, CA
Huntington Beach & Newport Beach Coastal Specialist

We used to say, "If you fall off the horse, get right back on, or never ride again". Nice post.

Oct 23, 2011 05:46 PM #9
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