This is a good read from Gary Woltal on sometimes we just have to be there for that stubborn person. As a proactive person, I always like to 'make things happen' but I agree with Gary that sometimes we just have to 'let it be' ...!
I had been randomly listening to financial talking head Dave Ramsey on the radio the other day and the woman caller who saved and invested wisely had a male friend who was a spendthrift and carefree if not irresponsible with money he acquired. She wanted to encourage him to be more wise with his resources, but despite valiant attempts all her words fell on deaf ears. It made me think about
Reaching The Unreachable Person.
You know, the stubborn mule type. You can't seem to connect with them. Dave had great advice about pointing out they are not a victim and myths that come out of their mouth, but beyond that YOU just lead an EXAMPLE life.
The answer to "reaching an unreachable person" is ONLY THEY CAN CHANGE THEMSELVES and you "influence them" best you can by leading an exemplary life yourself.
Maybe some day their light bulb will go on because of you.
Just BE THERE FOR THEM. It is all you really can do.