Loving My Husband...Loving My Life

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Franklin Homes Realty LLC

Loving My Husband...Loving My Life

Tom and TammieToday is my 21st wedding anniversary. It's hard to believe the time has gone so quickly. I often wonder what my life would have been like without Tom. Our meeting was just by chance.

I was performing in a production at a local community theater. Tom knew one of the characters in the show and had come to see her. He was recently divorced from his wife of 15 years.

 At the end of the show, he came up to me to tell me that I'd done a wonderful job playing the role. How sweet. I was smitten almost immediately.

A group of people were going out after the show and our mutual friend had invited Tom. Everyone else was with a spouse or date and so Tom and I spent the next two hours talking.

I had recently separated from my then husband. While Tom was very interested, he did not want to come between me and my husband. His marriage had ended badly and he did not want to play the same role in my divorce.

I have to admit this only attracted me to him more. I hadn't met a man with such moral conviction. We parted and went our separate ways but kept running into each other at different functions.

I divorced shortly thereafter. I sent Tom a card telling him I had divorced and would love to see him. We met for a drink and it was like no time had passed at all. We began seeing each other. Not really dating. Tom was very cautious. He was concerned it would just be a rebound relationship for me. He didn't want to have his heart broken. As time passed, we spent more and more time together. When we couldn't see each other, we would spend hours on the phone.

Tom was 39 years old and he had three boys from his previous marriage. I was touched by the way he loved his boys. He always put them first. This wasn't anything I had ever witnessed in a man. It was easy to see that I was falling in love with him.

Then one night, while Tom was preparing dinner for me and the boys, he asked me to get something from the refrigerator. When I opened the door, there was a large vanilla envelope addressed to me. I opened the envelope. Tom had written a poem to me.

It read:

I walked the way alone,

places where man and his mind

wrestle with self-created demons.

I walked the way alone,

where decisions are like narrow

pathways through the unlighted depths.

I walked the way alone,

finding unreal warmth from

unknown bodies with unseen emotions.

I walked the way alone,

until I met you...

with a smile that reaches to the

core of my being

and a touch that warms my heart,

I walk the way with you.

Love, Tom

Then he said, "I do, you know. Love you that is." That was the first time he had spoken those words. A year later, I had the pleasure of marrying my best friend.

Tom and TammieSo much has happened in those 21 years together. We have two children of our own, a daughter and son, 19 and 17. Two of his three older boys have married and now have children of their own.

Tom left a job he loved six years ago to take an early retirement and home school our kids through high school.

He has devoted his life to loving and caring for his family. Tom has spent countless hours serving in our church and community. He has always put the needs of others before his own.

That poem hangs in our bedroom as a constant reminder of the love we share together. I have been so blessed and I thank God everyday for our life together.

Loving my husband...loving my life.

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Tammie White, Managing Broker/Owner
Franklin Homes Realty LLC
Franklin, TN
(615) 495-0752 
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Bud & Beth McKinney
Cary/Raleigh/Apex NC - The Team That Cares, RE/MAX United

That was wonderful - thank you for sharing on your anniversary.  Congrats!!  You will continue to grow your love.  It is awesome.  Bud and I have been married 42 years.

Oct 26, 2011 02:52 PM #1
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices

Tammie - what a wonderful post. Congratulation on this touching post. 21 years is not a round date to celebrate, and this just shows that this is something real, and not just because of the anniversary.

Many happy years to gether to you, guys

Oct 26, 2011 02:54 PM #2
Maureen Bray Portland OR Home Stager ~ Room Solutions Staging
Room Solutions Staging, Portland OR - Portland, OR
"Staging that Sells Portland Homes"

Tammie ~ what a heart-warming story of you and Tom.  You are a lucky woman!  But I'm sure Tom would say he's the lucky one.  May you have many, many more happy years together!

Oct 26, 2011 02:56 PM #3
Delores Campbell
Keller Williams Realty - Chesterfield - Wildwood, MO
Your St. Louis Real Estate Resource

What a fabulous post.  I love "love" stories!  Congratulations on your 21st wedding anniversary.

Oct 26, 2011 02:57 PM #4
Petra Norris
Lakeland Real Estate Group, Inc. - Lakeland, FL
Realtor, Lakeland FL Homes for Sale

Tammie - such a wonderful story, happy anniversary and wishing you many, many more :)

Oct 26, 2011 03:09 PM #5
Loreena and Michael Yeo
3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Prosper TX Real Estate Co. - Prosper, TX
Real Estate Agents

What a beautiful story... I enjoyed getting to know you more through this beautiful story of yours. Happy Anniversary. Sounds like you found yourself a keeper.

Oct 26, 2011 03:28 PM #6
Mel Ahrens, MBA, Kelly Right Real Estate
Kelly Right Real Estate - Hood River, OR
Customized Choices for your Real Estate Needs

Congratulations and happy anniversary! I love your story! You are both so very lucky!


Oct 26, 2011 03:48 PM #7
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Bud & Beth - I only hope we get the pleasure of being married that long.

Jon - Thanks. It's just what I was feeling today.

Maureen - I definitely got the better end of the deal.

Delores - Thank you.

Petra - I hope so too.

Loreena - He definitely is.

Gretchen - We truly are.

Oct 26, 2011 04:08 PM #8
J. Philip Faranda
J. Philip Faranda (J. Philip R.E. LLC) Westchester County NY - Briarcliff Manor, NY

Tell the creep he's wrecking the curve for the rest of us! ;-)

Happy anniversary Tammie! I like him already! My kind of guy. I proposed to Ann by putting the ring in the dessert baggy when we were having a quiet dinner. 


Oct 26, 2011 10:07 PM #9
Rob Thomas
Prestige Homes of The Tri Cities, Inc. CALL....423-341-6954 - Bristol, TN
Bristol TN-VA & Tri Cities Agent, ABR, GRI, e-Pro

Tammy......what a great story!  Things always seem to work out for the best.....Congrats
Hope you have a great day!


Oct 26, 2011 11:38 PM #10
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

Good morning, Tammie. Happy Anniversary! 21 years! Wow! That says something, especially in an age were marriages seem to last only a few years...

Oct 26, 2011 11:41 PM #11
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Tammie:  I can feel the love pouring out through your words.  You may say you are the lucky one having met your husband and sharing your life with him, but I suspect if we talked to your Tom ... he'd be saying HE was the lucky one.  I pray that your life always stays on this path and that you enjoy one another for decades to come.  Celebrate well ... and celebrate each other ...


Oct 27, 2011 04:15 AM #12
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Phil - I knew you had it in you.

Rob - Yes, they do.

Michael - This is a second marriage for both of us but we're committed to the long haul.

Gene - You are so good with words. Even your comments are moving. Thank you for your kind words.

Oct 27, 2011 05:11 AM #13
Kathy Burke
Sensational Home Staging~~Danville, CA - Danville, CA
S.F. East Bay Home Staging

Tammie.....what a GREAT story and you both look just as happy today as in the earlier picture!  Your a lucky woman!!

Oct 27, 2011 08:38 AM #14
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Hi Tammie -

WOW - What a neat personal story and what a great ending.  Or should I say what a great beginning to a happy ever after story.  I hope you enjoy a wonderful 21st wedding anniversary spending a great day with Tom and enjoying many years to come! 

Best regards from the Q

Oct 27, 2011 09:14 AM #15
Laurie Clark CRB Angel Realty LLC Your Monument Realtor 719-502-6572
CRB-CCSS-ASD-HBS-RSD-Denver Short Sale Agents - Monument, CO
Angel Realty, LLC

Congrats on the best 21 years! What a wonderful story and what a joy it is to have your best friend in your life forever.

Oct 27, 2011 01:04 PM #16
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Kathy - I really do feel lucky and probably am more happy.

John - It was an incredible day. Thanks for the well wishes.

Angel - Yes, it is.

Oct 27, 2011 01:44 PM #17
Katerina Gasset
Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Wellington, FL
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Thanks for sharing such a beautiful story Tammie. Happy Anniversary.

Oct 27, 2011 02:17 PM #18
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Katerina - Thanks so much.

Oct 27, 2011 04:22 PM #19
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