When Your Parent Needs to Go to An Adult Care Foster Home, What About Their Home
One of the most difficult things to handle, I believe, in any child's life is when their parent or parents have the need to be in an Adult Care Foster Home.
Decisions are difficult about where to place them (sounds cold does it not), finances of how to care for them and the stage of life they are in. I think it is a difficult time of life as our parents age and we need to take over, much as we have for our own children. It is not always possible to take them into your own home for many reasons and putting them Adult Care Foster Homes is not easy.
Then what do you do about their house, if they need to go on Medicaid, they cannot keep it if it is in their name, government rules you know.This is a legal matter to be handled carefully.
Do they have enough savings to pay for the Adult Care Foster Home, and if they do not, then what. So many decisions both emotional and legal that need to be made, medicare helps especially if it is time for hospice, still what about their home.
My husband's mother is in this position and luckily a long time ago everything she had was put into a trust with powers of attorney, so that the problem of finances would not be so difficult. She is not wealthy by any stretch nor were my husband parents ever wealthy. They had a very modest home they lived in for the last 35 years, did not make many repairs or even paint from the original colors of the home.
It had red carpet, red and black wallpaper, dark kitchen cabinets and counter-tops, dark woodwork, and a brick corner platform for a wood burning fireplace which is no longer legal in Oregon without changes. A Sanish style that was so popular in the early seventies.
We need to rent this home so that my mother-in-law has more income and she does not go through her savings so quickly so we decided to do as much updating as possible without costing us a fortune. Here is what we did.
- Took off the dark paneling on the walls that covered the family room and part of the dining room, dry walled, textured and painted all walls a neutral color.
- Bamboo wood flooring was laid down in the dining room, hall and three bedrooms.
- New carpet is being installed in the Living Room and Family Room.
- The wood stove was removed and now we are deciding on the brick area where the stove stood.
- All new sinks, fixtures and toilets throughout.
- Painted all rooms in neutral warm tones
The house does not look like the same house and we did not have to spend a fortune to get the work done as we did most of it ourselves.
In this market it does not behoove us to sell the house unless we absolutely have to and we hope this will not be the case.
So what do most people do with their parents home when it is necessary to place their parents elsewhere. Getting their parents the care they need plus medical services and importantly where they will be safe?
This was our solution for the time being and it has taken the whole family to get it done with the least possible expense so we do not eat into the savings of my mother-in-law or our own. It is a difficult situation...so what would you do
When Your Parent needs to Go to an Adult Care Home
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