The Optimist

Real Estate Agent with Realty Executives Alliance

I try to stay on the positive side of things: I look for the best in people; I do my best to appreciate my environment; I focus on what I want. This is how I’ve been able to have fun in this zany real estate market.

This morning, I got out of bed with every intention of writing a somewhat informative, hopefully entertaining and positively optimistic blog post about why short sales are wonderful and fulfilling(don’t laugh). I let my mind go wild for a minute and fantasized about my post being read, and liked, and reblogged, and commented on repeatedly by all of you AR pros, and about how good all of that would feel. Then I went all the way and vividly imagined the thing being featured(oh how I want that little gold star…) and then being congratulated by my peers and then showing my kids my good work when they got home from school. It was a great way to start the day.  Happy Face

I was trying my best not to think about that buyer who vanished after I sent her my latest short sale approval last Friday. She’d been pushing for it and I finally delivered. She sounded delighted on the phone when I told her. Almost a week later, she’s been dodging my calls, emails and texts. Her lender’s been dodging me too. I usually see this as the kiss of death but I’m trying to stay positive.

Meanwhile, my seller finds out that the house he leased and is scheduled to move into in ten days will not be ready to live in until who knows when. So, we now need to find him a house to lease A-S-A-P within the teeniest of school boundaries ever so that his daughter doesn’t have to change schools. Of course, there is nothing in the area in his price point. We meet anyway to see how I can help.

The big rush for my sellers to move out is so that the buyer can move in. But since I may not have a buyer, I want to tell my sellers to relax, so I do and they ask why. I decide against mentioning that I don’t know where the buyer went because the contingency period doesn’t expire for another week… and because I’m trying to stay positive. Besides, escrow has $5000 of her money so I’m sure she’ll come back someday.

It’s been six days of this. And while I have plenty of other things to keep me busy, this transaction dragged me down. Not the best for my self-esteem, if you catch my drift but I’m trying to stay positive.   

Today - after numerous emails, three voice messages and some texts- I finally got the call. My buyer apologized for being out of touch and thanked me for being so helpful. There’s stuff in between the apology and the thank you that I have to work out but I got this… and I’m trying to stay positive.  

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Comments (7)

Dominic Tartaglia
Tartaglia Realty - San Luis Obispo, CA
GRI, SLO first-time homebuyer specialist

Hang in there Brenda! I catch myself saying this quite often these days, "The night is darkest before the dawn." Just remember that and the next day will always get better.

Nov 10, 2011 04:22 PM
Kym Wright
Prudential California Realty - Olivenhain, CA

Brenda - It is really hard to see through the endless barage of bad news or pressing issues that we have to deal with each day.  Staying positive and keeping an eye on the end goal is so important.  It sounds like you are doing better than most.  I hope that your day starts out well tomorrow and that you can stay positive!

Nov 10, 2011 04:24 PM
Brenda Uriarte Avila
Realty Executives Alliance - Cypress, CA

Hi Dominic! Thanks for the kind words... I'm usually pretty chipper but sometimes they get me!  

Nov 10, 2011 04:26 PM
Brenda Uriarte Avila
Realty Executives Alliance - Cypress, CA

Hi Kym! Thank you! I am so enjoying this platform. The support means a lot. I wish you a lovely Friday!

Nov 10, 2011 04:32 PM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker


  The ultimate "I cannot be defeated" positive attitude is that of the  "The Black Knight" in the comedy movie,  "Monty Python and the Holy Grail".

 "It's Only a Flesh Wound"


Nov 10, 2011 04:32 PM
Vickie Nagy
Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Palm Springs, CA
Vickie Jean the Palm Springs Condo Queen

Brenda it's impossibly difficult to stay positive unless you can 'let go'. If it's beyond your circle of influence (you can't change it), then it's not worth stressing over.

Nov 10, 2011 04:42 PM
Brenda Uriarte Avila
Realty Executives Alliance - Cypress, CA

Fred, thank you for the wisdom and the funny video. I'm going to share it with my friends in the AM. I love that film!

And Vickie, I completely agree... Letting go is definitely part of my business plan :)

Nov 10, 2011 04:46 PM