Company - and Help - Along the Way

By
Home Stager with Transition Stage LLC

It's funny how life unfolds in different ways as I go along. There were so many years where I struggled so hard to make sense of things, to figure out the way ahead, and somehow felt I had to do it all by myself.

Maybe it's what most young people go through, or maybe it was just a mixture of things: how i was brought up, what my own personality brought to the mix, but I most often felt that I needed to figure things out myself, I needed to forge a new path every single time.

Where did I learn that it was somehow "cheating" to look at what others did and build from there? I can't begin to count the years I spent trying to create "from scratch" when, if only I had realized it, help was all around me.

It's interesting to get to this point in my life and realize that, while there are still vestiges of that attitude left in me, and I still do pride myself on finding creative solutions to problems, I'm now able - and happy - to reach out to others, to learn from them and their experiences. And, most importantly, I can ask for help.

There is learning all around me that I can draw on. Most people are happy to share their knowledge and give a hand up. It's an amazing thing to reach out and feel those helping hands reaching toward me, willing and able to make things that much easier. And creating an incredible community as part of that experience.

Ask for help. What a concept!

Comments (18)

JOSH EVANS *JoshEvansHomes 516-655-5000
Village Properties of Mineola, LLC - Mineola, NY

Great job and great blog. Keep up the hard work. Hope you sell many homes as well good luck this year

Nov 14, 2011 10:34 PM
Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

I so agree, Judy.  When I worked at Procter & Gamble, one of our mantras was "search and reapply."  The idea is that we can learn from the work and insights of others, and then turn it into our own.

Nov 14, 2011 10:34 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Learn from the experience of another....be open to new ideas....growth concepts that work every time !

Nov 14, 2011 10:35 PM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

HI Josh - Thanks very much. I stage homes rather than sell them, but I appreciate your good wishes nevertheless.

Nov 14, 2011 10:42 PM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Debbie - Now, that's a very cool mantra! Thanks for sharing it.

Nov 14, 2011 10:43 PM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Sally & David - Yes, indeed! Thanks for stopping by.

Nov 14, 2011 10:44 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

I laugh every time I see a statement about a "self made man". There really isn't any such thing. Each and every one of us, had help along the way. We all need help, along the way.

Nov 14, 2011 11:32 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Judy -- nice to "see" you back posting your thoughts.  I remember a speech I gave way back in junior high school(now called middle school which itself dates me more I guess) that began with the quote -- no man is an island.   

Nov 15, 2011 02:27 AM
Suzanne McLaughlin
Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael) - Saint Michael, MN
Sabinske & Associates, Realtor

Judy, that is why I love to go to the Senior Center....just ask a question and see what happens.  It is so much fun!

Nov 15, 2011 09:52 AM
Ellen Caruso
Daniel Gale Sotheby's International Realty - Glen Head, NY

Judy, I'm a trained artist yet yesterday I was doing something in Photoshop, and my son came along and showed me a new way to do it. I was very welcoming of what he's learning in HS.

Nov 15, 2011 11:40 AM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

They always say that nothing is new it is just in another form...when we let go that we only know the right way we open ourselves up to so much here....thanks Judy.

Nov 15, 2011 02:41 PM
Steve Hoffacker
Steve Hoffacker LLC - West Palm Beach, FL
Certified Aging In Place Specialist-Instructor

Judy,

It is human nature to want to help, but sometimes we have to be asked. :)

STeve

Nov 16, 2011 02:31 PM
Steve Hoffacker
Steve Hoffacker LLC - West Palm Beach, FL
Certified Aging In Place Specialist-Instructor

Judy,

This post is now featured on "Tuesday's Treasures." Congratulations. :)

Steve

Nov 17, 2011 02:03 PM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Joe - It's really so true, isn't it?

Hi Michael - Thank you - and thanks for visiting. It's funny you should say that. I didn't have either junior high OR kiddle school. I went to grammar school (K through 8th) and then to high school.

Hi Suzanne - You are so right. One of the wonderful things about talking to people who have lived a long time is that they have such great stories and insights about things they've seen along the way.

Hi Ellen - Yep - children and grandchildren have never known a time without this technology - and they sure are whizzes at it!

HI Ginny - That's a wonderful way to put it!

Hi Steve - Yes, remembering to ask is a very important step. Thanks so much for the feature!

Nov 20, 2011 01:22 PM
Kathy Clulow
RE/MAX All-Stars Realty Inc. Brokerage - Uxbridge, ON
Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results

Judy - Active Rain is a great source of the help you are looking for and often you need not ask ..... by searching you will find the answer to most questions about Active Rain, Blogging, SEO and a wide range of other topics have already been answered.

Nov 20, 2011 02:10 PM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi kathy - You are so very right! AR is an incredible resource and wonderful community!

Nov 24, 2011 03:57 AM
Liz Wallace
Century 21 Sherlock Homes - Rockville Centre, NY
Broker C21 Sherlock Homes, Rockville Centre, LI, N

This was an important post for me to read.  It is actually painful for me to ask for help and so I have to force myself to do it.  I hate it and so I know it's necessary for me ask in order for me to grow.

Nov 24, 2011 04:47 AM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Liz - I know how that feels! It's taken me a long time to be able to say things like "I don't know." and "Can you help me with this?"  It does get easier, the more you try. And look at the pleasure you give to the person who is able to help!

Nov 24, 2011 05:42 AM

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