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So the cheese moved, now what?

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Real Estate Agent with Pine Knoll Shores Realty 252-422-9000 NC 166249

 

So the cheese moved, now what?

I just returned to my office after hearing bad news from my doctor.

I am a runner.  Make that WAS a runner.  At 61 years old I won about 10 gold medals for 5Ks in my age group this year.  I came in number two in the 8K.  I’ve consistently logged approximately 100 miles each month.  Every morning I jump out of bed at about 5:30 a.m. and prepare for my morning run.  I’ve solved many business problems, come up with more wonderful ideas than any other time and place, and forgiven many slights on my morning run.  Thanks to being a runner, I have more energy and confidence and I’ve been able to manage my weight.  I love running!

A few weeks ago I starting having lots of pain.  I thought it was my hips.  I just knew it was simply getting older and perhaps getting a little arthritic.  I kept running.  Finally last week I was in so much pain that I had to admit defeat.  Running was excruciating and even walking hurt.  In fact, I could find no comfortable position.  I called and made an appointment with an orthopedic surgeon, and stopped running (temporarily, I thought.)

Today after examining my X-rays, my doctor said, “absolutely NO more running!”  Seems I have degenerative disc disease and running will never again be possible for me.  Thank goodness my husband had insisted on going with me.  I cried a little and had a few bad thoughts about the unfairness of it all.  I stubbornly insisted that NOTHING will ever do for me what running has.  The doctor’s suggestion of biking or swimming fell on deaf ears.  My husband was there to console and comfort.

Funny how things work.  I returned to the office and opened my emails.  The first one I read was a newsletter from a wonderful trainer and friend.  It was all about failure and success and how a single failure often leads to bigger and better things.  

I'm not sure how this will turn out but I will make it a positive thing.  I will hve seven hours every week that were used for running.  I will find wonderful ways to use the gift of seven hours.  I’m already planning my strategy and looking forward to new activities. I will make the next several years wonderful and successful.  I think maybe I’ll work on my golf game and buy a good bicycle.

 

Ben Blonder
Broker/Owner, Keller Williams - Fort Collins, CO
Buyers, Sellers, Investors!

So inspirational! Sad to hear about the condition, but it sounds like you will come through just fine!

Dec 21, 2011 03:48 PM
Sonsie Conroy
I serve buyers and sellers everywhere in San Luis Obispo County - San Luis Obispo, CA
Energetic, Enthusiastic, Knowledgeable Realtor

I'm so sorry to hear you've had to give up your favorite activity. I never was a runner, but I hope you will try swimming. Laps are wonderfully relaxing and invigorating at the same time, and aqua aerobics can be just as tough an exercise as you want it to be. Best of all, there is NO stress on your bones and joints. Perfect for someone with degenerative problems.

Have a wonderful holiday, and here's hoping for a great, active new year.

Dec 21, 2011 03:58 PM
George Bennett
Inactive - Port Orford, OR
Inactive Principal Broker, GRI

You have a geat attitude. I'm sure something just as good or even better for you will come along. Happy holidays.

Dec 21, 2011 04:59 PM
Maria Morton
Platinum Realty - Kansas City, MO
Kansas City Real Estate 816-560-3758

Marian, I am sorry for your loss - yes, it's a loss. It sounds like you've got some good ideas on waht to fill that time with. You might like to reconsider the doctor's suggestion of swimming in addition to the activities you find most appealing. Floating in the water takes the weight off the discs. Just a thought. Glad you didn't need surgery!

Dec 21, 2011 05:12 PM
Brenda Ballard
Angelfish Properties, Inc. - Emerald Isle, NC
At the Beach and Beyond!

I know you love running Marian! I also know you are a smart woman and will listen to what your  body is telling you!  Get that second opinion then find some other activity to keep you fit with less stress and impact on those joints! Chin up, keep the great attitude, my friend.

Dec 21, 2011 10:02 PM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566

Marian, are you allowed to take hour walks instead? That would be at the top of my question list.

Dec 21, 2011 10:49 PM
Charlie Dresen
The Group, Inc - Steamboat Springs, CO
Steamboat Springs, CO e-Pro

Good attitude and great outlook. You'll find productive (and active) use for those 7 hours, and while I know you'll miss running, have faith that you'll find new outlets that will cause less pain and stress on your body. Where there's a will, there's a way, and I have the feeling there's no shortage of will in your spirit!

Dec 21, 2011 11:24 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Attitude is what life is all about. Having the ability to accept new limitations and identify new goals.  Maybe it wll not be 100 miles a week but there are still lots of possibilities.  Good luck!

Dec 21, 2011 11:56 PM
Fernando Herboso - Associate Broker MD, & VA
Maxus Realty Group of Samson Properties - Clarksburg, MD
301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA

Marian, accepting the fact that as we grow older, doors close and new ones open. .what a great opportunity to take charge and choose a new life and  still be in shape.. . I'm sure you wil find that door and continue wih your passion 

Dec 22, 2011 12:10 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Marian, I had to give running up over a decade ago, but it revived cycling in my life and I couldn't be happier.  No pain and thousands of miles a year.  You can do it outside or in a Spinning class at the local gym.  Give it a try!!

Dec 22, 2011 12:11 AM
Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

Marion, as the others have said, I know this was terrible news for you to get but I'm glad you're going to switch over to something that is more user friendly!  Running has to be the single worst thing we ca do to our bodies.  I wrecked my ankles and my shins many years ago running and when high impact aerobics was all the rage!

Swimming is much kinder to the package we live in and you'll be amazed at the results in both mind and body!  Good luck with whatever you choose.

Dec 22, 2011 12:17 AM
Mike Yeo
3:16 team REALTY - Frisco, TX

Marian - take the news as a sign for change. It is not a defeat. Look at all the achivement you have accomplished. I couldn't even drag myself to run for a mile. To me you have made a great achivement. Take it easy.

Dec 22, 2011 12:22 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Marian, its hard to give up what you truly love doing. Riding a bicycle sounds like a good alternative to running.

Dec 22, 2011 01:14 AM
Marian Goetzinger
Pine Knoll Shores Realty 252-422-9000 - Pine Knoll Shores, NC
Crystal Coast Real Estate NC

Roger Mucci,  I knew I could count on you to stop by and I felt your hug.  Thanks.

 

To all who commented after Roger, please forgive me if I just can't reply to each of you individually.  I am actually overwhelmed by the loving, caring response this blog brought me.  You, my active rain friends and family, have offered so much comfort and support.  I sense that you really do understand how truly devastating it is for me to give up running. 

I intend to take many of your suggestions and take some time trying things out to see what fits.  I WILL dust off my bike and take it out for some spins.  I WILL go to the indoor pool at the gym and try swimming since so many of you think that's good.  And I will try some other things.  I will NOT become a couch potato.  PROMISE.

I don't need a medical second opinion because my doctor is a sports medicine doctor, my age and a runner.  He knew how hard it was to tell me but the Xrays were so obvious.  I trust his judgement completely so I accept his recomendations and I'm MOVING ON!

THANKS and bless you all for caring enough to write thoughtful, helpful comments.  I will try to pay it forward.

 

Dec 22, 2011 01:16 AM
Women of Westchester Working Together
Women of Westchester Working Together - West Harrison, NY
Women helping Women get ahead

good for you! i am positive that those precious 7 hours will come to great avail in the future. and the blessings it will provide to you and others, amazing!!

Lisa, Rye Brook, NY

Dec 22, 2011 03:07 AM
Cynthia Larsen
Cotati, CA
Independent Broker In Sonoma County, CA

Make that two bicycles and grab your husband on your way out the door. I'll bet you'll discover places you've never been to.

Dec 22, 2011 03:24 AM
Sandy Acevedo
951-290-8588 - Chino Hills, CA
RE/MAX Masters, Inland Empire Homes for Sale

Hi Marian, you have a great attitude and will overcome this obstacle too. Have a great holiday!!        

Dec 22, 2011 03:55 AM
Clay R. Seay
Florida Homes Realty & Mortgage - Saint Augustine, FL

Marian, sorry about your news, but bike riding has replaced running for me. I have two bikes, one for the road and always wear a helmet and the other for the beach. Riding here on the beach at low tide is one of my favorite ways to decompress and enjoy the beach. Always rise the bike off of sand and salt. I would suggest you buy a really good road bike with medium wide tires and a cheaper beach bike, since they rust from the constant sand and washing. You will be amazed at the distances you can go on a bike verses the distance you normally run. You might see some new sights.

Dec 22, 2011 07:21 AM
Chris Lewis
Gracious Living Realty - Front Royal, VA
I want to SELL your home, not LIST it!

Running has never had any appeal for me, but I know friends who, like you, find it therapeutic in many different ways.  As others have suggested, perhaps some of the more imaginative exercise routines might work out for you?  Personally I would lean more towards yoga and tai chi for relaxation.

Dec 22, 2011 08:58 AM
Kim Boekholder Utah Real Estate/ PECO
Results Real Estate 801.580.5624 - Draper, UT
Broker Results Real Estate/Leasing Specialist PECO

Sorry about the disappointing news.  It has to be hard hearing you can't when you have a passion for something.  You're positive outlook and redirection for other alternatives is an inspiration to all.  You'll find a way to channel it, I hope you're not in too much pain.  Best wishes for the rest of the Holiday Season,

Dec 22, 2011 03:12 PM