Christmas is Love - will you show some? The Jamie & Lillian Caulk Memorial Project

Real Estate Agent with Charles Rutenberg Realty

I met Missy Caulk here on Active Rain over 6 years ago when we were both new to blogging and all I can say is to know Missy is to love her. If you've been very active here I'm sure you've gotten to know her and how supportive and giving she is. I don't make here as much these days but Active Rain and the friendships it's fostered are still some of the best ever.

Through her I also met her daughter Christa, an amazingly strong woman in her own right and her husband, Bob Stewart. Even though we live thousands of miles away, social media and Active Rain has allowed us to become good friends.Missy Caulk and Lillian Caulk

On Christmas Eve, I am also reminded that there is probably no greater love than a parent for their child. I know how much my world changed when we had our two boys, Sean and Alex, and yet I can not begin to fathom what it would be like to have them gone tomorrow, unexpectedly struck down in a car accident or sudden health issues. But this is exactly what happened not once but twice to Missy  and her amazing family in the last 2 months.

First, Missy's 27 year old son, Jamie died in October as a result of a car accident and then her 11 week old grand daughter Lillian (they lovingly called her Lillie Bear) died suddenly as well. Your can read more about it here:


Like so many people that care about them, I have cried and grieved and prayed and struggled with how to best be there for them in this time of unimaginable grief. They are all amazing, strong, faithful people and they ask for nothing but I was thrilled when a friend of hers, Carol Grubb, whom I'd met with Missy 3 years ago reached out to tell me about their local plan to dedicate a park bench in a special place in Jamie and Lillie Bear's honor. She asked if I could help let all of Missy, Christa and Bob's online friends know about it so they could also be a part of this memorial project. Of course I said yes!

If you're like me, you may be feeling the same way...WOW, finally something I can do for them to bring them some joy, some peace, some love in action...after all isn't this the real reason for Christmas and the goal, to do for other and strive to live like it's Christmas all year long. The cost of getting this memorial bench done has been estimated at around $3,000 which could be as simple as 300 people donating $10 each or the cost of one meal out, or giving up coffee for a week to give a family a special peaceful place to honor and remember their loved ones. My hope is that this makes the Caulk's family Christmas a little brighter and this is one Christmas gift that I'm thrilled to be able to give a little joy, that's Christmas to me ;D

Carol shared with me that when the Caulk family members learned of park bench memorial they were so excited and Missy, a mother and grandmother that's lost so much,  smiled at the thought of having a happy place in their honor. So as we approach Christmas tomorrow and count down to the New Year I would ask you to consider making a donation to the "The Jamie & Lillian Caulk Memorial Fund" to take this from and idea to a reality - I've put together a minute and a half video that shares my thoughts about the project and invite you to watch it.

So how can you help?

3 Ways...

  1. Continue to pray for the Caulk family
  2. Help get the word out by sharing this post on Facebook, Active Rain, Twitter to those that know Missy, Christa, Jamie, Bob and all the Caulks or consider doing your own blog post
  3. Make a donation

How to Make a Donation (no gift is too small):

Make checks payable to "The Jamie & Lillian Caulk Memorial Fund"
Mail those checks to:

Carol Grubb
3647 W. Greenook Dr.
Ann Arbor, MI 48301

Or send a Paypal (as a gift so all funds go to them) to and put "The Jamie & Lillian Caulk Memorial Fund" in the memo

Along with your donation, Carol has requested each person's name or names & email addresses because she will be giving the Caulk's a card from everyone and she also wants to keep you informed of the details of the upcoming picnic / dedication that is being planned for early to mid-May when the bench is ready.

Wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!! If you have any questions don't hesitate to call me either ;D


Comments (8)

Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Merry Christmas from your friends in Maryland, Roy and Dolores Kelley


Longwood Gardens Christmas Tree IMG_2211

Photographs by Roy Kelley.  Canon PowerShot G11 camera.

Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs

Dec 23, 2011 09:57 PM
Laurie Clark CRB Angel Realty LLC Your Monument Realtor 719-502-6572
CRB-CCSS-ASD-HBS-RSD-Denver Short Sale Agents - Monument, CO
Angel Realty, LLC

I will definitely be keeping their family in my prayers. Thank you for highlighting how we can offer some assistance. You are an excellent friend. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season.

Dec 26, 2011 02:18 PM
Katerina Gasset
Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Wellington, FL
Get It Done For Me Virtual Services

Yes, I will also be keeping Missy and her family in my prayers. Thank you for sharing this Cyndee. 

Dec 26, 2011 03:48 PM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor

AR MeetUp April 17th........hope the two of you can make it........Tarpon Turtle........if you can come, RSVP to the blog about it posted today. Thanks

Mar 15, 2012 11:03 PM
Kim & Kristine Halverson
Compass - Santa Monica, CA
Sisters, Realtors

Hi Cyndee! I know this maybe be late ,my message I just want to say stay strong and believe that God has a way for everything.Thank you for sharing this Cyndee.

Mar 27, 2012 11:00 PM
Sidney Kutchuk
Property Management & Sales at REALTY WORKS TEMECULA, CA 92590 (951) 217-6745 - Temecula, CA
Property Management & Sales Experts 951-217-6745

Hi Cyndee,

This message maybe late but I pray that you can overcome whatever obstacles you will have in life.You can do it.I know you're the best Clearwater beach short sale agent.

Apr 16, 2012 02:23 AM
Debbie Harr
Homes that Click Realtors - Columbus, OH
Realtor Homes That Click, Worthington Ohio Homes

This is only trials for us, but I know we can make it. Our prayers to you Missy and to your Family. God bless.

Oct 30, 2012 08:55 AM
Bas Panch
SCV Home Buyer - Valencia, CA

Prayers from your all of us Missy.

Oct 30, 2012 08:56 AM