Resolutions we can KEEP!

Real Estate Agent with Exit Real Estate Professionals


Let’s face it.  Most New Year’s resolutions fail.  Oh, yes, we hear great stories of people who lose a bunch of weight or pay off all their debt.  But, the truth is, the success stories don’t even come close to the number of resolutions that fail. 

Are we just a bunch of losers? I find that hard to believe! We all know very successful people who fail at changing some random part of their life year after year after year. Maybe you are one of those people!

So, what gives? I think we set ourselves up for failure! 

First of all, the things we are focusing on when choosing our New Year's resolutions may not mean enough to us. Are you wanting to lose twenty pounds because the media has convinced you that is the ideal? Hogwash! I see attractive women (and men) who by Hollywood standards are overweight, but they are fit, healthy and totally enjoying life!  They are passionate about something or maybe even many things in their lives.

If you could wake up tomorrow and have one thing be different in your life what would it be?  Think about it and be honest with yourself. The only limitation I am giving you is that achieving that change must be legally possible even if it isn't probable.  

Would the change SERIOUSLY be to be thinner? Out of ALL the dreams you could have chosen? REALLY? If so, go for it! If not, then that dream is where your energy needs to be focused! As you get closer and closer to your dream , I bet you will see positive changes in your stress level, your relationships, your health and, yes, even your weight! 

The second pitfall is that a year is just too long for many people to stay focused.  Hey, I sometimes have difficulty focusing for an hour, so I'm feeling your pain with this year-long thing. Maybe creating monthly resolutions would work for you.  Consider the monthly addition of baby steps that can build up to the lifestyle you are after.  For demonstration’s sake, let’s just say your goal IS to lose weight.  How about baby steps that are all about positive changes and are cumulative in nature?  

-January . . .drink at least 100 oz. of water a day (yeah, that’s a lot of water but you can drink it while you’re sitting on the couch!)

-February . . .eat 25 g. of fiber a day from real food sources AND you are still drinking the water (you can still do this from the couch)

-March . . .walk 20 minutes FOUR times a week (and there is still that water and fiber that is getting to be routine by now)

-April . . .  give up soda in any form (you're probably not drinking too much of it anyway with all that water so it may be a lot easier than it would have been three months ago) 

-May . . . 

See how this is progressing and accumulating? By the end of 2012 you will have added 12 new healthy habits.  You will not have spent the year trying to lose a set amount of weight and possibly failing. . .you will have spent the year changing your lifestyle to a healthier one. Even if you haven't lost all the weight you would like to, you are still going to be healthier.  Even if you don't maintain all of the changes, you will most likely hang onto some of them.  You will be a WINNER looking forward to the next challenge!

No matter how big or distant our dreams seem today, we can all be a little closer to achieving them by this time next year.  We all have a new opportunity EVERY day to make changes that will make us or our lives a little bit better.  

I came across this quote today. I would love to give credit to the author but I searched the internet and it always came up by “anonymous.” It will be printed and placed in a prominent spot in my home and office! I hope it inspires you as you head into 2012 no matter what your dream may be! 


Today I choose to live by choice, not by chance;

To make changes, not excuses.

To be motivated, not manipulated.

To be useful, not used. 

To excel, not compete. 

I choose self-esteem, not self-pity. 

I choose to listen to the inner voice, not the random opinion of others.


Does your dream for 2012 or beyond involve buying or selling a home in the Spokane area? Are you thinking of getting back to a simpler lifestyle on your own little farm or property? Are you in search of the perfect spot to start a small business in Eastern Washington? Even if you are not at a point where you are ready to buy or sell, let's get together to discuss what little steps you can take this year to get you closer to that dream. . .  positive baby steps! Call or email me today before the "new" wears off the New Year!



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Comments (18)

John Davison
Coldwell Banker - Cary, NC
Raleigh-Cary-Triangle NC

Happy New Year!  Nice post and interesting to read.  This is something we can all dwell upon and contemplate as we move into the new year.  Good luck this year!

Jan 01, 2012 03:41 PM
Chandler Real Estate Liz Harris, MBA
Liz Harris Realty - Chandler, AZ

I like the idea of adding the healthy habits one at a time... thanks for sharing them!  I am going to start drinking my water tomorrow!

Jan 01, 2012 03:44 PM
Pacita Dimacali
Alain Pinel - Oakland, CA
Alameda/Contra Costa Counties CA


I'm one of those whose new year's resolutions involved losing weight. I was at my ideal weight this time last year, but fell off the wagon. I remember how good I felt about myself after I lost weight and could get into clothes 2 sizes smaller. So in my mind, that's a goal I want to achieve. I just know that when I feel good, I also do good. One good thing leads to another. But there are other resolutions on the list This one is a "given".

Happy new year!

Jan 01, 2012 03:52 PM
Carlotta Remong
Berkshire Hathaway HS N.E. Prime Properties - Newport, RI

Yes loosing weight is on the top of the list...and it will make me feel and look better. And eating healthy is also on the list but it goes hand in hand with number one. And the 3rd  item on the list is to exercise at least 5 times a week . Happy New Year!

Jan 01, 2012 04:00 PM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA


I like the idea you have presented about making a gradual, continual change.  One of my resolutions is to lose weight, but I am going to set short term goals, say 2 months, then set a new goal until I have reached my desires weight.  I am taking the same approach with my other resolutions. 

Jan 01, 2012 04:18 PM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

John - Thanks, John! Hope your year is a successful one!

Liz - Me too! The water one is always a little hard for me as I would much rather drink coffee all day long! :) I did this when we were doing the Game On diet/competition last year.  I actually drank 100 oz. a day.  The best way to keep track is to get a 20 oz bottle and put five rubber bands around it.  Remove one each time you finish a bottle. You will probably feel bloated the first few days, but then your body starts feeling hydrated all day long and quits storing water! 

Pacita - If that works for you, go for it! I have slumped some this year as well . . . I am going to have a healthy eating/fitness regimen included in my goals for this year but I actually have enough good habits established that it will not mean excessive pain! I hope! lol

Carlotta - Great goals! Maybe we should all commit to showing before and after pics next New Years Day! 

Jan 01, 2012 04:29 PM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Evelyn - I like the idea of short term goals better than that whole year thing! Good luck!

Jan 01, 2012 04:34 PM
Laura Allen, Lake Tahoe - Truckee Real Estate for Sale
Coldwell Banker, Tahoe City, CA (530) 414-1260 - Tahoe City, CA
Tahoe Real Estate Agent Helping Buyers and Sellers

Valerie - You've given us a lot to think about.  Change by choice and with gradual steps that can be long-term and effective are great suggestions.  I hope you reach your New Year's goals and more.  Happy New Year!

Jan 01, 2012 07:56 PM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Like the idea of adding healthy habits.  I don't like resolutions.  The only one that ever stuck with me was to graciously accept compliments.

Jan 02, 2012 05:38 AM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Laura - Same to you! I have some great ones for this year . . . actually excited to tackle them!

Chris - Now, that's a good one to have for life! Goodness knows we need all the compliments we can get! :)

Jan 02, 2012 10:05 AM
Suzanne McLaughlin
Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael) - Saint Michael, MN
Sabinske & Associates, Realtor

Thank you for commenting on my post.....I just found someone to subscribe to.....what a wonderful discovery you are!  Have a great 2012!!

Jan 03, 2012 07:18 AM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Suzanne - Thanks so much! Look forward to seeing you more often!

Jan 03, 2012 12:47 PM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor

Great post! Wishing you all the best for a successful year in the real estate market!

Jan 04, 2012 05:19 AM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Barbara-Jo - Thanks and best wishes to you as well . . .hear that Florida market is making a comeback!


Jan 04, 2012 11:47 AM
Marge Piwowarski
Phoenix AZ Horse Property - Phoenix, AZ
Phoenix AZ Horse Property, LLC

Valerie, I love it!  I don't make resolutions but I like the idea of monthly changes. 

Jan 06, 2012 05:14 AM
Darla Zimmerman-Pilant
Exit Real Estate - Spokane, WA

My dear Valerie... my 2012 goal is to be half as good as you at blogging on AR! We started our accountabilty group meetings in the Valley. Although we all prefer to believe we are more motivated by the carrot than the stick, methinks a little humility combined with having to shell out some cash is also pretty effective. Let's get coffee one of these days, ok?

Jan 13, 2012 11:49 AM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Marge - I don't do resolutions either . . . too long term! 

Darla - Coffee? Did you say COFFEE? Love to! :) 

Jan 13, 2012 05:07 PM
MichelleCherie Carr Crowe Just Call...408-252-8900
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

Thanks for reading my blog, I'm enjoying yours now too and subscribing. I love the idea of gradual change.

Jan 14, 2012 10:26 AM