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Balancing My World and Yours - Holiday Balance

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Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Redwood DC-SP98366576
 
The fact that I am a real estate agent does not ban me from pausing every November to be thankful. You see, I hear about agents that jumped up from a holiday meal to go show a house. I have heard the old wives tales about the biggest deals being done on a holiday.
I don't believe it!
I think that I have the right to sit down with my family and enjoy a feast celebrating all that has happened in the last year. I think those that are buying and selling have that same right. "Black Friday" will come soon enough. My feelings on setting aside time to share special days are not a secret. My friends and clients know that I am a more rounded person because I balance the personal and professional aspects of my life. I encourage them to do the same.
Halloween is now the start of the great American holiday festival. We start in mid-October, preparing for the night of children's delight. We decorate our walks and doorways with ghosts and goblins. Every knock is answered and we are treated to costumes, store bought and hand made, trumpeting the success of t.v., movie and books.
We begin our season giving treats to those that come and entertain us. Our journey into the fall and winter is a celebration of fantasy.
The decorations are no sooner packed away for another year, when we begin to prepare for Thanksgiving. It is a time for giving thanks. It is a time to see every glass half full and remember that there are so many less fortunate in this world. 
 Friends and family gather to enjoy the finest feast. Early in the day, the streets are filled with Thanksgiving parades that end much too soon to the jingling music that accompanies Santa Claus, high on his float, arriving to hear first hand the desires of every little girl and boy. By afternoon, football is found on every major channel. The meal is followed by a plethora of desserts that lead to many early afternoon naps.
As night falls, hot coffee and one more piece of pie are shared while eager consumers go over the ads for the "Black Friday" sales. Then the countdown begins.
 We are a nation of many faiths. This is a special time for all of them. The most ancient of religions celebrate the birth of Zoraster around this time. The pagans have always celebrated the beginning of winter. Christians have chosen this time to celebrate the birth of Christ. Children of all ages and many faiths just wait for Santa Claus. I find joy in the season of giving. I don't mind waiting in the lines to make a purchase. The large crowd in front of me represent so many happy faces on Christmas morn. Even Scrooge found joy on Christmas morning.
So, how does one find balance between the demands of a profession and the desires of the heart? As a real estate agent, my job is dealing with people. They are celebrating as well. They have the added burden of either a home on the market or the need to find another house. I always have my home to return to at the end of a day. I find balance by pausing and .....
I put myself in their shoes!
I have been fortunate enough to be homeless. I have been fortunate enough to have been confined in a place that did not allow holidays. I have been fortunate enough to have gone long periods of time away from friends and family. I have been fortunate enough to not have enough money to pay for food for my family. I have been fortunate to have suffered along the road of life. I have been rich and I have been poor. I have learned the value of comfortable which resides somewhere between the two. I put myself in their shoes, because I have worn them before and I know with a little support and encouragement, they too can rise above their situation.
It doesn't matter if they are trying to rent a one bedroom apartment or purchase a $700,000 home. The basic needs remain the same. When I try to juggle their demands with the life I have chosen to live, I set the stress aside, put myself in their position and seek a resolution.
When it is time to share the holidays with friends and family, I let them know what I will be doing and encourage them to do the same. The problems we all face will still be there tomorrow. Today is a day for enjoying what we have, whom we love and the guiding hand that leads us.
Then I slip out into my studio..................
 and I paint. 

Comments(16)

Tom Braatz Waukesha County Real Estate 262-377-1459
Coldwell Banker - Oconomowoc, WI
Waukesha County Realtor Real Estate agent. SOLD!

John,

Great post, and i am with you 100%

Happy Veterans day

Tom Braatz

Nov 12, 2007 04:47 AM
Aslan Realty Advisors, LLC
Fort Myers, FL
Staying a step ahead with Pride!

Happy Veterans Day....nice sentiments...we all need to be thankful and appreciate all that life affords us everyday!

Paige 

Nov 12, 2007 04:56 AM
Bill Gillhespy
16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos
John,   Lots of terrific reasons to create some balance in our business and personal lives... youv'e named some good ones !
Nov 12, 2007 05:02 AM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
John, thanks for entering a post in the Holiday Balance contest.  As you know, I'm a judge in the contest, so I'll reserve my detailed comments on your post until after we tally the ballots.
Nov 12, 2007 05:12 AM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI
(RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE
Beautifully written John! Paint, huh? Oh, I'd love to see some of your work.  I too have been in those shoes....and I surely appreciate what I do have...not what I do not. Thanks and maybe...someone will get a message from this.
Nov 12, 2007 05:33 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info
John,  sometimes you can invite the clients over for the holidays, and never mind trying to find time for both, combine them!
Nov 12, 2007 07:05 AM
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John~ 

Lucky us for having you here at AR. What a thoughtful, warm and pleasant read you gave us with this post. I am subscribing to your BLOG and looking forward to many more posts like this. THANKS!

Nov 12, 2007 07:53 AM
Tom Plant
WINEormous.com - Murrieta, CA
John - This is my first visit to my blog and it won't be my last. This is simply wonderful. So well put. Thank you.
Nov 12, 2007 09:14 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

John,

I enjoyed this....and I especially liked how you said that you understand, and that all the demands and problems will be there tomorrow....today you will enjoy your family and all you have to be thankful for :) the lucky ones in life do find that balance, and are able to put themselves in someone else's shoes......

But of everything you wrote what I like the best was Diversity....many people will be celebrating the Holidays in their own way, in their own faith....Thank You for that!!!!

Nov 12, 2007 09:53 AM
Simon Conway
Orlando Area Real Estate Services - Orlando, FL
Problem is that just sometimes it won't work. I have clients flying in from Toronto on 12/23 and they want to meet up with me on Christmas Eve to go look at property. They will only be in town for five days, so my usual week off will be exactly one day.
Nov 12, 2007 02:31 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group

That's so unbelievably well put John, and you are a much better man than I for being able to juggle it all and be at peace. I seem to either feel guilty for neglecting my work or my loved ones. I could so use that wisdom:-)

 

Nov 12, 2007 03:09 PM
Greg Knowles Santa Barbara Ca.
Fidelity National Title Group-Santa Barbara - Santa Barbara, CA

John, thanks for putting a real wise perspective on something I think can overwhelm all of us.

Greg

Nov 13, 2007 02:59 AM
William Johnson
Retired - La Jolla, CA
Retired

Hi John, A really wonderful article that truly reflects your experience and your insight into the human spirit. With your experiences and your abundant abilities in sharing them, you make our world better for just having been here. I look forward to reading more things you write and know that if they are anywhere as good this piece, I have some great reading ahead. A wonderful post!

PS, You make me proud to share "REALTOR" with you.

Nov 14, 2007 05:36 AM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes

I am not sure if replying to comments on a contest entry is within the boundaries of proper interweb ethics. I will take my chances.

Thank you.

I truly appreciate your comments and thoughts. For those that have shared how nice it is to have me here, I can only add, I am here because of each of you. The synergy we build strengthen's even our weakest link. Our core energy gives power those that need it the most. I have shared in other posts that we are the NAR. Suffice it to say, we are Active Rain as well.

When each of us pauses, setting competitive differences aside, we find we have so much more in common than we could have imagined. Agents from every region of the country still represent the finest members of each community. You see, we know that for the most part, we are willing to risk our ability to earn a living on our ability to help our friends and neighbors buy and sell homes. We believe in ourselves to the extent that the majority of us work on a commission basis. That my friends is a powerful indictment of our committment to family, friends and society. I am proud to be but one member of such a dedicated group of professionals.

May you all enjoy the happiest of holidays.

Nov 16, 2007 11:38 AM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
John, thanks again for your entry and support of the Holiday Balance contest.  We received so many wonderful entries making judging that much more difficult.  I really enjoyed reading yours in that classic, humble, this-is-who-I-am MacArthur style.  Your message of putting yourself in someone else's shoes is so important and one that people are often quick to forget.  I know that this is truly your spirit to be empathetic and it shows through your posts and comments on mine and other member's blogs.  It was quite funny to read your follow-up post yesterday on being caught stealing from the cookie jar!  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving -- I look forward to getting together in the next month or so if I can make it across the Potomac.
Nov 17, 2007 10:56 PM
John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Brian - Thank you for your kind words. Not to worry about the Potomac thing anymore. I am a grandfather so I have "grandfathered" you into the list of authorized river travellors. It is a little something we threw together when the three sister islands, west of the key bridge, were a tourist attraction. The proper authorities have been notified that you are free to come over and return as often as you like (just don't make a habit of it, you have enough business over there!). You wife is included in the order. If you allow her out of Virginia, she may discover an entire new market of happy dancing feet over here.
Nov 17, 2007 11:32 PM