Friends as Paydays - Yikes!

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      I still remember it so well, even after 30 years.  It was years after college, and I ran into one of my most beloved instructors on the train.  It was so great to see her.  She inquired about my health, which was sweet, and then sort of guided the conversation to these health bars she was selling.  EEK!  I still feel that as a loss.  My dear friend was not really concerned about my health, but was seeing me as a little payday. 

       So realtors are business people.  We are salesmen.  I have heard tell of insurance sales people who would join a church, work the congregation for their business and then move to the next flock to shear.  Horrible.   So what to do?  For myself, I would never want my friends or family to suspect that I had ulterior motives in our relationship. 

        I know that I would always want to go to a friend if I needed to hire someone in their trade or profession.  We trust our friends, that they will do right by us.  I do feel that people should give very special rates to their friends. Of course it is always nice to cut folks a good deal.  But more importantly, I think that when you engage a friend or family member, you are giving up the prerogative to strongly insist on a given level of service, or other considerations that you may want to seek.  Some things we may have to "let go" to preserve the relationship, if the affair goes sideways.  Noone wants to cringe at the thought of seeing that person, after somthing goes a bit hinky, at the next reunion. 

       So here's to forever friends and our best success in the coming year.


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Ellen Dittman
Watson Realty Corp. - Middleburg, FL
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Joel, thought provoking post and I agree with your theories here. 

Jan 10, 2012 11:12 PM #1
Wayne Johnson
Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS® - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale

Joel, You may be right, but when people really believe in their product and are "all in" as the New York football Giants new mantra, they really believe they are helping you with their products. Some call them zealots or super sales people, but they see themselves as being committed to the cause. I don't know which is right.

Jan 10, 2012 11:26 PM #2
Joel Matson
Divine Realty - New Haven, CT

Hello Ellen,

    Thanks for checking in.  I agree it is all a bit "theoretical".  Hopefully our practical actions will spring from a sound ethical theory!

 Wayne, my man,

    Would it not be nice to hope that those around us see a commitment to our work that is appealing enough that they naturally come to us as needs may arise, as opposed to being "buttonholed"?  Are these fine lines to walk? 

Best to you ALL in the coming year! 

Jan 15, 2012 04:24 PM #3
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