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7 reasons WHY people break New Years resolutions

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance

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Have you broken your New Year's resolution yet?

 If so, you aren't alone. Studies suggest that 20% of resolutions are broken within the first week of January. At least 80% are broken within one year, and the actual figure is probably much higher.

 But the big question is: WHY?

 An even bigger question: What can we do about it?

 

Here are the top 7 reasons people break New Years resolutions

 1. All-or-none thinking.
"Resolutions" set us up for failure by luring us into "all-or-none thinking". Most people think in terms of "keeping" their resolutions, or "breaking" them.

Thinking in black-or-white terms of "success" or "failure" can be fun as long as you are making good progress. But the joy of feeling like a "pure success" soon fades with the first minor setback, and you plunge into feeling like a total failure.

 In other words, all-or-none thinking leads to the next cause of breaking resolutions: the snowball effect.

 

 2. The snowball effect.
We've all experienced the snowball effect: letting a minor lapse snowball into a major relapse and a total collapse. Because all-or-none thinking is a major factor, it happens to resolution-makers all the time.

 Dieters frequently suffer from the snowball effect as well, because they typically think in terms of being "on" their diet, or "off" it. Any little setback leads them to think that they have "broken" it, and they pig out.

 

3. Overlooking progress, and dwelling on setbacks.
The "law of effect" is the most fundamental law in psychology. It's simple: actions followed by rewards are strengthened and likely to recur.

It seems obvious, but most people do just the opposite. Study after study has shown people who try and fail to make life changes self-reward too little, and self-punish too much.

Resolutions-makers (and dieters) do this all the time. After two weeks of healthy eating and exercise, for example, they have an ice cream cone. But instead of rewarding themselves for two weeks of solid progress, they beat themselves up over their minor setback.

 

4. No plan (& bad goal setting & we forget)
These reasons all go together, and they all have the same root cause.

Most people resolve to do X in the coming year, and don't think much beyond that. But an annual resolution is too far in the future to be motivating. You won't be inspired to take action, or to make a plan and follow through. And because such a distant goal simply won't show up on your "radar screen," you'll soon forget about it. Until next New Year's.

Instead, studies show that resolution-keepers use the proven principles for setting goals that will keep them focused, motivated and confident.

 

5. The "nice-to-keep" syndrome
Let's face it -- for most people, their resolution is a "nice-to-keep," not a "need-to-keep."
Sure, they'd like to be fit, or quit smoking, or have better relationships, or whatever. But by January 7th, they get focused on issues that are supposedly more "pressing," or get bogged down "putting out fires." Their longer-term, nice-to-have goals keep getting put on the back burner, and are soon forgotten.

 

6. No Vision (& not understanding the all-important "why")
The motivating power of any goal comes from truly understanding *WHY* you want it. But most resolution-makers don't think through their underlying motivations.

Just wanting to lose ten pounds for its own sake may be a fine goal, but it won't be enough to motivate you when you have to make sacrifices or suffer a setback.

But you'll have that motivation if you know that getting in shape will mean having more stamina for playing with your kids, or going on a big hiking trip with your friends.

Clarify your vision, and motivation will come.

 

7. Not enough action.
All of the "small" reasons for not keeping resolutions add up to one big reason: not enough action. Most people know what to do in order to keep their resolution. They have the blueprint for success. But they don't take sufficient action. Most people start out OK, but don't take sufficient action to cement their new habits and make their life changes permanent.

 

Resolution-keepers do it differently.

They use a variety of commitment-enhancing and pre-commitment strategies that ensure they avoid the "nice-to-keep" syndrome. They find ways to keep themselves accountable, and follow through on the things that are truly important to them.


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YOU CAN BE A RESOLUTION KEEPER! I BELIEVE IN YOU. NOW YOU BELIEVE IN YOU!

Posted by

Sharon Lee

Edward Gilmartin
CRE - Boston, MA

Making reasonable resolutions is key and not getting discouraged if you have a set back early on. You have all year to accomplish your goal.

Jan 12, 2012 02:07 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Morning Sunshine...this is a great post!  I believe in everything that you said, and I love the ending wrap up!

Jan 12, 2012 02:20 AM
Peter Lavelle REALTOR®
eXp Realty (888) 397-7352 Ext:1148 - Philadelphia, PA
Your Home SOLD 4 Times Faster Than MLS Average

Good Morning Sharon - great information for anyone. I suggested this.

Jan 12, 2012 02:23 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Hi Sharon! Darn...resolutions and ALL those reasons they don't work! I just have one this year, to do the best I can at whatever I am doing!

I hope you have a great 2012!

Jan 12, 2012 02:37 AM
Delores Campbell
Keller Williams Realty - Chesterfield - Wildwood, MO
Your St. Louis Real Estate Resource

Very good points.  Wish the New Years resolution people at my gym would give up on their resolution.  The gym is way too crowded!  Oh well, it will be back to normal come March!

Jan 12, 2012 03:02 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Sharon, I didn't break any because I didn't make any.............never do my friend.  I know what needs tpo be done and I do it............or not.  I only have myself to be accountable to.  It works for me.

Jan 12, 2012 03:38 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Sharon

Lack of action will shut down our forward progress. Great post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Jan 12, 2012 06:55 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Sharon,

So true, it has been fun watching newcomers to our Yoga class, showing up en masse, and then not...LOL A

Jan 12, 2012 08:27 AM
Gloria Todor
Premier Property Sales & Rentals - Springfield, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Hi Sharon, It is amazing how the new year offers the opportunity to start anew.  I've learned to keep my goals simple and to look at my goals everyday which helps a lot.

Gloria

Jan 12, 2012 02:13 PM
Tori Toth
Tori Toth, International - Howard Beach, NY
888.667.6643 NYC & Beyond, HSR, SAR, RESA, LIBOR
Grat post, im hoping to accomplish all my goals this year.
Jan 12, 2012 03:08 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Edward-That you do.

Kristin-Thank you my friend.

Peter-Thank you I appreciate that.

Russell-Now that sounds like a great resolution. Happy 2012 to you

Delores-that is funny. Can you imagine if they were there all year long.

Roger-Good for you my friend you have to do what works best and you found that.

Lou-Thank you Lou and indeed it will

Alexandra-At least it is entertaining right. We all enjoy entertainment

Gloria-Sounds like a wise decision. Happy 2012

Tori-Take them one day at a time. Happy 2012 and best wishes on your goals.

Jan 13, 2012 02:03 AM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

All very good examples of why we dont keep those resolutions ! The all or nothing aspect often stops peoples motivation if they slip up - instead of people accepting that you dont have to do everything 100% of the time.

Good info Sharon !

Jan 14, 2012 01:59 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Sheldon-I have been most guilty of the all or nothing thinking. No one is perfect so we just do what we can.

Jan 14, 2012 05:30 AM
Denise Hamlin, Broker/Owner
Cardinal Realty ~ 319-400-0268 - Iowa City, IA
Helping Happy Clients Make Smart Choices

Hi Sharon ~ I think the bigger question should be why people even make new year resolutions. Every day offers us an opportunity to reinvent ourselves. Why do we need the start of a new year to make changes?

It's a flawed idea in the first place so no wonder it fails. (I don't make new year resolutions by the way, but I do try all the time to be the best version of who I am.  And make no mistake, there's plenty of room for improvement!)

Jan 14, 2012 10:06 AM
Denise Hamlin, Broker/Owner
Cardinal Realty ~ 319-400-0268 - Iowa City, IA
Helping Happy Clients Make Smart Choices

Sharon ~ I just noticed your fantastic new banner with the Cardinals. Love it. (Keep in mind I just started my new company, Cardinal Realty. Of course I'm going to notice it). :)

Where do you get the spectacular graphics/photos you use in your posts anyway? I seem to spend a lot of time looking for that kind of thing and coming up short.

Jan 14, 2012 10:11 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Denise-I agree with you on the resolutions. I think people just think New Year. Clean slate so lets try to do what we failed at last year. Glad you liked the banner. The cardinal is my fav bird. I don't have one particular place that I get the pics/graphics. I love pictures of nature and birds so I am always on the lookout for something new so most of the time I google what I want and find lots of resources that have something I like.

Jan 14, 2012 12:32 PM
Peg Barcelo
Fluff My House! Home Staging Inc. 250.486.6369 - Summerland, BC
The FlufftasticStager from Summerland, BC

Sharon, I've resolved every year not to become an international sex symbol and that's been working out fine! Although I would love to break that resolution! LOL! Januray has always been my action month in biz, so I hope this one gets me places!

Jan 17, 2012 11:18 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

You are too funny Peg. That is the kind of resolution I would love to break too. I think this will be a banner year for you

Jan 17, 2012 11:28 AM
Debbie Walsh
SHAHAR Management - Middletown, NY
Hudson Valley NY Real Estate 845.283-3036

They are hard to keep sometimes!  Have a great 2012!

Jan 21, 2012 09:28 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Debra-They are indeed. Happy 2012 to you as well.

 

Jan 21, 2012 10:15 AM