Trust – A Fundamental of Life

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Trust – A Fundamental of Life

When I think of trust the first thing that comes to mind is Trust in God.

As a child growing up I feared God because I did not know or understand who, or what, God is. I was shuttled off to Sunday school every week with my bible in hand however I did not truly get to know God or understand God until I was in my 30’s.

I also did not understand Trust. I did not trust my parents to protect me because they didn't. That’s right – I said my parents did not protect me. If our Trust is shaped by our environment, and I believe that is mostly true, then it is understandable that I grew up trusting no one – not even myself.

One of the most basic and fundamental aspects of Trust in life is that children have a right to to be loved and protected by their parents. When parents abuse their children it leaves wounds that can, and often do, heal over time. However the scars remain for life.

Abuse can build strength and character. The scars of abuse can create a springboard for who we decide we want to be in life. We can choose to repeat the pattern or we can choose to break the mold. Thankfully, I chose Love. I chose to be something different than the environment if grew up in.

I've learned the Truth about life and in so doing, learned to trust myself as an extension of God. I've learned to Trust life and trust that God has a plan. This does not mean that I necessarily understand or agree with all the things that cause me pain and sadness. What this means is that I have learned to acceptit is what it is.

It’s only in my acceptance of what is that I can make a difference in the world.

Trust – a Fundamental of My Life - Trust starts with me and ends with me.

  • I trust my needs will be met
  • I trust that if I ask – it will be given.
  • I trust that my faith in life and belief in God will carry me through challenges and adversity.
  • I trust myself and my inner-knowing – that inner guidance that tells me when something is aligned with Truth and when it is not.

Do I trust others? Yes. I trust they will do the right thing. I trust they are honest and fair. I trust they are doing the best they can.

Does others doing their best fall short for me? Yes. What helps me accept disappointment in others is deferring to the highest place of knowing they are doing the best they can.

Do I accept this with a loving, trusting and understanding heart? I do as best as I can. I strive to be better each day and be a beacon of light for others to see that they can Trust when they believe. It starts with them and ends with them too! We have a choice.

I know how much Trust my clients put in me. I do not take their trust lightly or for granted. Trust flows in both directions when dealing with people in all relationships. When people prove to me that I cannot trust them … the relationship dies with my Trust. For me, without Trust, I have nothing at all. Life is simply too sweet and precious a gift to spend waste time with people who cannot be trusted.

Forgiveness is what allows me to carry on and continue to Trust myself and others despite how others may disappoint me.

Trust = Love. I choose Love as a fundamental of my life.


What is your Truth Regarding Trust?

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Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS, Broker
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ
Arizona's Top Banana of Real Estate!

Kathleen very well written and from your heart.  Trust = Love.  You are a wise and kind woman. Thank you for sharing your story of heartache to building a life of trust and love. 

When others do things that are less than truthfull, I wish them well and on occasion and if the trust has been broken and I mean way broken to not trust them in my inner circle anymore I hold them in the light and choose to go down a different path. Forgiveness is for me more so than others. A happy heart is love in action.  

Jan 15, 2012 07:14 AM #1
Cindy Westfall
Premiere Property Group,LLC Portland Metro & Suburbs Oregon - Tualatin, OR
ABR,GRI Your Tualatin & Portland Metro Real Estate

Hi Kathleen, As Anna said, you can tell that this post was written from the heart. I can relate a little bit to your post...and I think you're so right when you said that abuse can build strength and charactor if one chooses to go in that direction. Choosing love and trust is the only way to survive and move through life with happiness.

Jan 15, 2012 07:29 AM #2
Joan Cox
Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathleen, GREAT post, and Trust is such a powerful word, and you are one to trust!     Trust does come from the heart.

Jan 15, 2012 07:47 AM #3
Peggy Hughes/pha logistix, inc.
pha logistix inc - San Francisco, CA

Kathleen, thank you for articulating what I believe is more common than we think - our parents not protecting us when we are children. Abuse, in any of its forms, does create character and strength. But it also creates mistrust and can have many negative effects on who we/they believe.  Congratulations to you, and anyone else, who has had the courage to choose to live their lives in a different and positive manner. Who choose to take a better path.

Jan 15, 2012 08:16 AM #4
Jeanean Gendron
The Address Realty - Redding, CA
Specializing in Selling Unique Properties

Kathleen, this is a beautiful post and you are a very beautiful person. We are so fortunate to have you here with us all. Anna has written such a beautiful comment about who you are. Trust = Love. It is about that and it is about going through those phases of healing. When you get to "forgiveness" you know that you have won. Trust comes easily and naturally when you can trust in yourself to love and allow. Beautiful!

Jan 15, 2012 08:28 AM #5
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Anna, Thank you.  I pondered how deep I wanted to go with this.  On the heels of our most recent trust issues here in the Rain I decided that going deep and getting real was the rigth thing and the right time.

Cindy, It is a choice.  We can be angry or think we are a victim ... that does not foster love and happiness. Thank you.

Jan 15, 2012 08:54 AM #6
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Joan,  Thank you.  This challenge brought up a lot of emotion ... as does reading these comments. My heart does trust.  Along with that comes disappointment along life's path. 

Peggy,  Thank you.  When people break my trust it does cause me to reach to a higher place ... while I may be disappointed even angry at times ... I am ultimately stronger for it. 

Jeanean,  I tend to beat myself up a lot.  Forgiveness of myself first creates a natural and automatic forgiveness of others.  It frees my sould to let love lead the way.  Thank you for your comment.

Jan 15, 2012 09:23 AM #7
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Great post and you touched on all points. I trust but verify, it is not that I distrust because I tend I think to trust too much

Jan 15, 2012 10:07 AM #8
Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula
Realty Works Temecula - Temecula, CA
Realty Works Temecula

Kathleen:  Overcoming a difficult childhood does make a person stronger, wiser and as you have gone one step further to avoid repeating the same mistakes, conscious and caring.  

Jan 15, 2012 12:04 PM #9
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Charles, Thank you.  I believe I am verifying as a move along in a relationship.  As I start to see red flags I question more.  I'd like to believe that discovering I have been lied to gets easier as I get older. It does not. I put myself out there - some falls are simply harder than others.  However, I always bounce back.  <<Smile>>

Jane,  Giving birth to my son was a living changing moment in more ways than having a baby.  I suddenly learned what unconditional love meant.  We have a great relationship today ... built not only on love but genuine trust knowing I will always love him ... no matter what.  Thank you for your comment. 


Jan 15, 2012 12:22 PM #10
The Villages Realty
The Villages Realty - San Jose, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Good stuff to share.  Kathllen Daniels is the "go-to" Realtor for all your San Jose real estate needs.    

Dec 14, 2016 09:58 PM #11
Eagle Ridge Realty
Eagle Ridge Realty - Gilroy, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Kathleen, another good post.  We always enjoy what you have to say and share.   

Dec 15, 2016 09:16 PM #12
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