"You're A Blogger?? You Must REALLY Need Somebody To Talk To!"

Real Estate Broker/Owner with North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate

HandshakeWhat’s the strangest thing someone has said to you after you’ve told them you blog?  Now that I’m a real live blogger (thank you ActiveRain) I tell most EVERYONE I meet that I blog on the ActiveRain site.  For some odd-Dr. Phil-kind-of-reason, I feel compelled to “share the love” with others by expressing my personal viewpoint on the benefits of ActiveRain and blogging.  Let’s just say -- not everyone embraces my viewpoint.  Consequently, I have been on the receiving end of some interesting responses.

I attend a lot of networking events.  And, through the course of networking, it’s only natural to share what you do and where you do it.  It's been no great newsflash to discover that not everyone blogs.  Not uncommon at all.   In my former life, I didn’t blog either.  Most non-bloggers typically say “I have nothing to write about” or “I don’t know how to write” or “I don’t have time to write.”  Yet, most non-bloggers I meet grasp the concept of blogging, and they understand the theory behind the benefits of blogging.  It just seems that the fear of "jumping in" is too overwhelming.  Believe me, I know -- I've been there.  But, then there are exceptions to the rule.

Recently, I was attempting to enlighten a couple of acquaintances on the benefits of ActiveRain and blogging.  I failed miserably.  One actually seemed a little perturbed -- even reacting rather harshly as if I was trying to sell him a life insurance policy.  The other didn’t comprehend the perks of ActiveRain membership or blogging either.  Instead, I heard that puzzling response:  "You’re a blogger?  Wow, you must really need somebody to talk to!”  Well, that's okay ... to know ActiveRain is to love ActiveRain.

I guess I never realized that blogging could potentially be a hot button issue.  Bloggers have reasons for why they blog.  Non-bloggers have reasons for why they don’t.  Blogging is not a “One Size Fits All" type of thing.  Blogging was neither easy nor painless when I first started.  In fact, I practically needed someone to pry my white knuckles off the “blogging ledge.” But, I’ve always been the type of person who is open to new ideas -- particularly new practices as they relate to personal and professional growth, and anything which will help me maximize and live up to my full potential.  Everybody's different.

As Samuel Goldwyn once said "If I want your opinion -- I'll give it to you."  Okay, okay, I got the hint.  But, gee whiz ... I was only trying to help!

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Donald Reich
Prudential Centennial - New Rochelle, NY

The people who criticize are the same ones who do not understand it. It's their loss!

Jan 19, 2012 03:36 PM #28
Janet Jones
Just Your Style Interiors, LLC - Kihei, HI
Home Staging, Interior Redesign Kihei, Maui, Hawaii

Hi Carie--one of my favorite lines is, "Other peoples' opinions are none of your business".  Whatever they think they will think, regardless of what you do or say.  Keep sharing the love on AR and keep right on blogging.

Jan 19, 2012 05:36 PM #29
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566

That is a fever quote. I have learned either you chose to blog or you chose not to and I leave it at that. When someone inquires it is usually to discover reasons to disagree so they can continue not blogging. Blogging IS marketing. My choice  IS to market my properties and services. It takes hard work and consistency.

Jan 19, 2012 10:31 PM #30
Andre R. Aragon
Greater Tampa Real Estate Photographer - Tampa, FL
Real Estate Photographer

you write so well carie - of course you should blog. I find blogging activates something in my mind that I don't always get to use.

When I'm not in the field interacting with clients, I am working at the computer - just me and the dog; and he's not much for conversation or the exchange of ideas!


Jan 19, 2012 11:10 PM #31
Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group
Maxus Realty Group - Broker 301-246-0001 - Gaithersburg, MD
301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA

Blogging is not for everyone. . .the time it takes to blog can be utilized to something someone excels at. . .I can see both points. .

Jan 19, 2012 11:42 PM #32
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX

Different reactions but it's funny that most equate it with an idea that I am somehow  "writer" which most of us surely are not ;-)

Jan 19, 2012 11:59 PM #33
Brian Madigan
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage (Toronto) - Toronto, ON
LL.B., Broker


I think you have to do it for a whil, then it becomes realtively easy. Just about everyone wonders what they would write about at the outset.


Jan 20, 2012 12:23 AM #34
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Carie, agents who don't blog can come up with a hundred reasons why they don't. Too bad because they are missing out on a lot.

Jan 20, 2012 01:01 AM #35
Bryan Robertson
Los Altos, CA

I tell almost everyone that I blog as well.  While few colleagues seem to care, those that are curious seem to want to know more but never seem to get on board with writing.  I think they either like it or don't and many can't seem to stick it out.

Jan 20, 2012 01:47 AM #36
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Interesting subject and I have been looking at it for a while. I do not tell people I blog, but I notice some know that I do. I do not try to recruit, influence or call any attention to what I am doing unless asked or approached..I am finding people to be skeptical and weary. When the customer is ready, the agent will appear

Jan 20, 2012 02:39 AM #37
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Erica:  Yes, I'm just going to keep on keepin' on :)

Donna:  You're right ... and the rewards and success that eventually happen from blogging take the same fortitude as most worthwhile things in life, yes?

Myrl:  Well, I'm happy to be a member of the AR Blogging Club :)

Karen:  Sounds like you're a good friend!  But, I guess the benefits of blogging is something you have find out for yourself, in your own time!

Pat & Wayne:  Oh, yes ... I've seen the "deer in headlights" look as well :)

Michelle:  I totally agree ... blogging is amazing on so many levels!  And, as you also said ... just more for us :)

Barbara:  Yes, I have quickly learned how blogging can be such a tremendous business tool.

Mike:  The reactions you get can be quite interesting, that is for sure!  And, thanks ... I'm glad to be here too:)

Karen:  Thanks again ... and you have a good weekend too!

Julie:  You're right ... it doesn't matter what your business is.  If you want to reach a lot of people, blogging is a fantastic way to accomplish that!




Jan 20, 2012 04:02 AM #38
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Marti:  Now that I'm a blogger :)  I can't imagine not expressing myself through my blogs either.  And, you are so right about giving thanks.  Thank you Mom -- and thanks to all my teachers who made me write gazillions of term papers.  I wasn't so happy then ... but I sure am happy now :)

Chris: Thanks ... I like your philosophy!

Charles:  I agree ... the answers you get seem to run the gamut!

Ken:  Yes, I think my excitement shows through just a little :)  Thanks for stopping by!

Cindy:  Me too.  Blogging has really enhanced my conversations with others!

Praful:  I know ... some people react like you are from another planet, right?

Luis:  Yes, blogging takes a lot of dedication, that's for sure!

Donald:  You're right.  Many people do not understand the benefits of blogging ... yet!

Janet:  I like your favorite line too!  Thanks ... I'll just keep on truckin' :)

Cheryl:  Right ... people will do what they feel comfortable doing.  And, that's okay.  Even though it's hard work, we know blogging is a terrific marketing tool!


Jan 20, 2012 04:23 AM #39
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Andre:  I know ... my plants aren't much for conversation or the exchange of ideas either :)  Write On!

Fernando:  I agree.  Everyone does what works best for them.

Russell:  That's so true.  Many people think you have to be a "writer" to blog.  And, that's probably what scares them off.  But, as we know ... there is so much more to blogging!

Brian:  Yes, it does get easier with time.

Michael:  Not everyone understands the potential rewards of blogging, that's for sure!

Bryan:  I agree ... I've learned that blogging takes focus, time, dedication, and perseverance ... it's not for everyone!

Richie:  Yes, when it comes to blogging -- I too have found that people are either interested or skeptical.


Jan 20, 2012 04:35 AM #40
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Carie, you so fit right in here in the Rain. The rest of them? Well different people are what make the world go round!

Jan 20, 2012 05:22 AM #41
Lang Premier Properties
Lang Premier Properties - Clawson, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Group

I am also new to the concept of blogging! Its definitely tough getting started and our business is using it as a HUGE marketing tool right now. Any good suggestions, websites, ect., on how to improve blogging skills? That would be great!

Jan 20, 2012 05:26 AM #42
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Connie:  Thank you ... I love being here :)  And, vive la difference, right?

Benjamin:  Hang in there!  I have found that it gets easier with time.  You have a wealth of information available to you right here on AR!  I would suggest reading any posts you see that give blogging advice.  Also, if you haven't done it already, try searching the archives.  That's what I did, and you are guaranteed to find many helpful posts that will definitely keep you busy for awhile :)  Good Luck and thanks for stopping by!

Jan 20, 2012 01:37 PM #43
Karen Winters, Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices KoenigRubloff
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Koenig Rubloff Realty Group - Chicago, IL - Chicago, IL
Chicago, IL

I get a similar reaction as Praful.  The friendly conversation turns to them running for the exit remembering a urgent chore they have to do.  Oh well, I'll just continue to blog in the 'Rain, learn more, hopefully grow and gain more Google ranking for my area. 

Jan 21, 2012 09:06 AM #44
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Karen:  Some of the reactions are pretty startling, aren't they?  But, I'm with you ... just keep blogging :)

Jan 22, 2012 04:10 AM #45
Janis Borgueta
Key Properties of the Hudson Valley - Newburgh, NY
LIC RE Salesperson


You are such a talented writer... and your blogs are fun.. Keep them coming! Yes, the reactions are funny at times... but until somebody gets involved they just don't get it. The more I am here though, the harder it is to remember the days before I started all this... I find it rather humerous as i have always had a major fear of writing.. and now..well.. I can't stop!

Congrats on the feature!

Jan 24, 2012 12:07 AM #46
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Janis:  Thank you so much!  Blogging is not for everyone, so I'm getting used to hearing a variety of responses on that topic.  And, you're right ... blogging sure is addictive!  I enjoy reading yours as well :)

Jan 24, 2012 11:53 AM #47
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