Trust and Integrity

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Real Estate Agent with Solutions Real Estate CA DRE #01490977

Trust and Integrity

 

Trust is a funny thing.

 

You know when you have it, but you also know when you’ve lost it.

 

Who do YOU trust? Or NOT trust?Sometime it takes time for a feeling of trust to develop, while at other times it just comes with the territory and you don’t really question it, until something happens to make you a disbeliever.

 

The ability to trust begins at a very early age.

 

The infant learns that food is always forthcoming. A parent (or parents) provides comfort, shelter, warmth, clean clothes, security, and positive feelings of love and care. The infant learns over time that the parents(s) always come home after work, or an evening out. There is consistency from the parent(s) in many forms that engenders trust which can, and will, impact our ability to trust as we grow older.

 

Sadly, it is not always that way. In a previous life as a psychologist working with infants and toddlers I saw far too many instances where trust was destroyed – by drugs, alcohol abuse, and abandonment or loss of the parent(s).

 

One has to wonder how those youngsters grew up and were they able to trust again?

 

In our business trust is essential, although no doubt transactions can and do occur when trust does not. But trust goes along way toward making a better transaction for all concerned. It helps keep emotions in check when problems arise if you trust someone. And allowing them to help you solve the problems, or trusting them to do so.

 

Who do YOU trust? Or NOT trust?We want, and expect, people to trust us. To trust that we will do as we say we will.

 

I think most people enter into a relationship with us wanting to trust us, in real estate and otherwise. For some it may take a while, but sometimes it develops quickly.

 

And it can be destroyed quickly as well.

 

Trust and integrity are intimately entwined.

 

I believe our integrity, “consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes,” truly allows us to trust, and to be trusted by others. And thus once trust is lost it is not easily regained, in real estate or the real world.

 

And if we cannot be consistent in our actions, values, methods, measures, principles and outcomes, can we really expect others to trust us?

 

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This post is a submission to the ActiveRain / Adobe EchoSign Trust Contest. I could possibly win a prize. You can find out about the contest by clicking here

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Chandler Real Estate Liz Harris, MBA
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Great post on Trust and Integrity... good luck with the contest!

Jan 22, 2012 03:07 PM #1
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Hi Jeff, This is very well written. I hope you win the prize in the contest. 

Jan 22, 2012 03:13 PM #2
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Erv Fleishman
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Trust is earned, however, some people are unable to trust anyone, period. 

Jan 22, 2012 03:15 PM #3
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Thanks, Liz. I really liked the idea for this contest - not an easy one.

William - thank you, but it really doesn't matter. I think it's an important issue we all take for granted and don;t think much about, until issues arise.

Erv - and one has to feel sad for people who are in that situation, and wonder what happened in the past to result in that perspective.

Jeff

Jan 22, 2012 03:29 PM #4
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Brian Doubleday
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Buying a house is such an exciting and emotional process, trust is a must

Jan 22, 2012 03:53 PM #5
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Jim Hale
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Some wise man said, "It is been to be trusted than to be liked".

 

At least I'm prety sure he was wise.

And a man.

And I think he said liked.

Unless, it was loved.

Jan 22, 2012 03:54 PM #6
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Jim Hale
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Whoever he was....he was probably talking about husbands.... or presidential candidates....or ...

Jan 22, 2012 04:31 PM #7
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Brian - agreed. So much harder when trust is not there.

Jim - can you trust someone even if you don't like them? And if you don't trust them, can you like them?

Jeff

Jan 23, 2012 02:15 AM #8
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I did not know ....in a previous life you were a psychologist working with infants and toddlers. My daughter used to form instant opinions of people (like or not like) and it took me much longer to access them. I became very aware of her initial judgment. Almost always..she was a very good judge of character.

Love the photo of you and the baby.

Margaret

Jan 23, 2012 03:28 AM #9
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Debbie Walsh
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I did not know you used to do this.  I can see you doing that as you have a very kind face.  Very well written post. 

Jan 23, 2012 09:15 AM #10
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Margaret - it was an interesting time. Our kids were very young then, too. Sometimes I form quick opinions of people, although not intentionally. I find I am usually pretty much on target. :)

Debra - what a nice thing to say. Thank you!

Jeff

Jan 23, 2012 12:20 PM #11
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Peggy Hughes/pha logistix, inc.
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Well said Jeff... and I'm sure your previous career really helps you in this one!

Jan 23, 2012 12:50 PM #12
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Patricia Kennedy
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Jeff, in a real estate transaction good faith is essential, and if it's lost with any of they players, it can get pretty dodgy.

Jan 23, 2012 02:20 PM #13
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Barb Averell
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Great post! A high level of trust and integrity is the only way to go in our business. We are often handling our clients largest purchase of their lives. 

Jan 29, 2012 02:10 PM #14
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