As In Life, There Are Learning Lessons in Real Estate

Hakuna Matata ....what a wonderful phrase...(just kidding). I remember being emotionally involved in many transactions and now, I see where my clients are - and check their emotions and attachement. Mine is a reflection of theirs and still not attached to an extent to lose a sleep! Yes, there are lessons to be learned from Real Estate. After all Real Estate is part of our lives.

You certainly can't expect to control things beyond your scope, but you can certainly take a professional healthy interest. And a little emotion is not really a bad thing, as emotion can be the same as having fun.

I commend you on a very healthy attitude that will surely make your life more enjoyable.

Great ! That way you work without pressure, always happy

"NO TWO TRANSACTIONS WILL EVER BE ALIKE"....so true Sally

There is a lot to be learned from what you shared here.

Good morning, Sally! Thanks for a great post - your attitude is inspiring!

Nice post, Sally; you've captured some of the difficulties of this business very well.  I am most affected by how fellow realtors treat each other.  I generate towards the real pros and enjoy showing their listings, and try to avoid those who do not act responsibly and professonally behave.  Not only is our personna important to the consumer, it is important within the industry itself.

Amen!

Yes for sure~~ I am a What if person too. I try not to stress about what i can't change. Yes we can't make others do things the way we see that they should be done. We can't make a smooth transaction if others don't cooperate. I have found that I need to channel the energy wasted on that stress elsewhere. Looks like you have figured out that too!

You are the type i like to work with... getting the job done and working together!

Sally, all we can do is our best to stay on top of everyone involved in the transaction and not worry about things beyond our control. It takes team work to insure a smooth transaction.

It is very difficult to keep your emotions out of the deals.  I am working on it  and getting better, but it's still tough.  Good post.  

I think a good agent will always have their emotions in the game, but you are right, we have to control them.  A great business coach taught me to look at the situation, analyze whether I can do anything about it and, if not, let it go.  I have found that crazy neighbors, vindictive ex-wives, non-responsive co-op agents, slow moving relocation companies, etc, etc are OUT OF MY CONTROL.  My new mantra is "All I can do, is all I can do".  And if someone wants to call me to scream, there is a wonderful solution-politely hang up.

And let the church say Amen.  My longstanding perception has been that whenever there are other people involved, there are likely things to go wrong.  All we can do is our best and the rest.......well is really out of our control.  Great post Sally.

Sally,

If we all learned from your post, it would help prevent "burnout", which is exactly what happened to me my 4th year in real estate. It can be very difficult when you want your buyer or sellers experience to be a positive one, all we can do is "our part" in the process to the best of our ability, and try to manage the remainder as best we can. Great post! I can tell you are a Realtor that really cares for her clients!

Sally - We concur... Any two deals will never be the same... Step back and breath with what you cannot control...

Celeste, I miss that view. I lived on Oahu years ago. I agree with your post. I took October off to regroup. I came to the same conclusions. Things don't bother me the way they use to. I can only control my actions. I'm cool with that. I wish you a highly productive, low stress year in Real Estate.

Sally, you are right, everyday is a learning process even though we already knew we should not worry sick over something we can't control but we still do.  New problems come up everyday, I also have to remind myself all the time not to get too worked up about different things, it is hard to do at times but I try.

Sally, you can see I am catching up on blogs! Like you, I have discovered there is not place for stress or worry. Having patience, a positive attitude and a sense of humor seems to be the best solution to any problem.