Why You Must Release Any Negativity As Fast As Possible

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Butterfly Wing FlappingI've seen high levels of tension in real estate problem negotiation and it is one of many examples in life of negativity. We need to

   Release Negativity As Fast As Possible.

Think of all of it in life. Hurts, anger, pain, disagreement, cruelty, insensitivity, regret, worry, thoughtlessness, taking one for granted, selfishness, insult... the list goes on and on what any of us can be afflicted with by another at a given time. But we need to dump it as soon as possible, almost as if we wear a teflon suit. It won't go away quite that fast but to get rid of it:

Distance yourself from the person inflicting the pain, resolve the issue with problem solving or better communication, perceive where they are coming from and it is THEIR problem not yours, focus on YOU and healing and helping YOU or your clients first. WHY? WHY I ask? Why do we have to dump negativity? It robs us of energy and happiness, like a plant blowing in the wind that needs a peaceful state for that contentment butterfly to properly land.

Dump ALL negativity you have. FAST AS YOU CAN!!


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John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Absolutely correct and another great post to pass along for the good of others my friend.

Jan 30, 2012 09:41 AM #1
Ciara Brennan
Mass Homes Realty - Hanover, MA

Great post Gary! Negativity can suck the life out of us, it changes our mindset, how we treat others, the energy that we give out.

The less negativity in my life the better!

Jan 30, 2012 09:43 AM #2
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

It helps if the seller has not owned the home for three generations and is forced to sell because of health, poor planning, dips in the road of life. And if the buyer that makes an offer that is rejected does not take it personal and think the only reason the seller is turning it down is to be mean, out to make his life hard. Real estate is emotional on both sides of the closing table. Triggers are hidden, recessed, carried around since childhood and just release that defensive mechanism to cope is the subject of many Dr Phil episodes. One more job REALTORS have of empathy, kindness, but being tough skinned all roled in to one. Well, I see our 55 minutes is up...how does next Tuesday sound for your appointment? With real estate, the DR is always in.

Jan 30, 2012 09:48 AM #3
Janine Boulay-Seibert
Seibert Properties - Murphy, NC
NC & GA Real Estate Broker

Negativity breeds negativity, I believe we should all run when faced with it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and reminding us to run not walk....

Jan 30, 2012 09:51 AM #4
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons!

Gary: This is one of those posts that I just love for the simplicity of it! As a member of this profession, I can tell you I have had my share of MAJOR negative stuff passed to me. I have held some of it too long and in those cases where I didn't literally shake it off me and do deep breathing and a meditative excercise, I became the victim of it! You have hit on the number one problem for many of us and the more success we expericence, the greater the negative "stressors". Thank you for the simple reminder!

Jan 30, 2012 09:53 AM #5
Winston Heverly
Winston Realty, Inc. - Atlantis, FL

Gary, most people want to get rid of negativity but it all depends on what it is. The universe can't live without it needs the opposite for balance. Just look at the battery it needs a positive and a negative to function. 

Jan 30, 2012 10:00 AM #6
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216,www.JeremiahNewman.com - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Hi Gary, I love this advice. One certainly doesn't need all that negativity. It has a tendency to pull you down too. It's better to be around positive people, and to avoid those who bring that negativity into your presence.

Jan 30, 2012 10:05 AM #7
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

" There is no such thing as a negative experience; only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self mastery."

Jan 30, 2012 10:21 AM #8
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX


If in deed we could wear teflon suits it would be easy and any one could be a fidisuary! Instead we have to rely on steringht of caracter. 


Jan 30, 2012 10:33 AM #9
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good evening Gary,

You are so right..dump that negativity before it erodes your positive attitude! It's better to stay away from those who only see a glass half empty..they tend to exhibit the poor me's :). That attitude can become contaigious!

Jan 30, 2012 11:13 AM #10
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Gary, my friend. I look for the positive no matter what the situation or person. But--if it becomes just too difficult to be around, I bless it or them and call it a day...time to move on and use that same energy FOR THE POSITIVE!


Jan 30, 2012 01:57 PM #11
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices


Gee... this things actually moves... How cool.

I do not know about negativity. I am an immigrant, got used to negativity, have it as an unfortunate baggage, but really do not feel affected by it as much

But you butterfly is moving... So cool


Jan 30, 2012 01:59 PM #12
Connie Goodrich
Keller Williams Realty - McKinney, TX
CRS ABR (McKinney Realtor)Texas

I adopt don't walk but run from it.  There are just some people that seem to thrive on the negative.  My conversations with them are short and then out of there.  I don't have time to be brought down with negatives!

Jan 31, 2012 12:21 AM #13
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Amen!  It took me awhile to learn this -- but now, I live by this philosophy every day.  Life is too short to be surrounded by negativity and as you say, it zaps our energies to move forward in a positive way.  Love the butterfly, too :)

Jan 31, 2012 03:03 AM #14
Mona Gersky
MoonDancer Realty, Dillsboro,NC - Sylva, NC
GRI,IMSD-Taking the mystery out of real estate.

The sooner one learns that they are not necessarily the target of someone else's anger, sadness, irritation, etc the quicker you can become at deflecting negativity.

Jan 31, 2012 02:35 PM #15
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