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I'm so LAME!!??

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Real Estate Agent with EXP Realty

Atleast that's what my 15 year old son tells me.  :)   Of course, I know I'm the coolest Mom around.  :)  Haven't you heard?

I was thinking about Christmas recess plans for my son and I.  It was so easy when he was 5 years old, even 10.  Everything I did impressed him.  It was easy to make plans.  He enjoyed hanging out with "mommy."  (Now I'm "Ma.")  It was not social suicide to be seen at the movies with your mother.  :)   He thought I could dance... THEN.  :)  Now... he says "please stop, you're so lame.  :o    

I guess it's kind of funny because I remember when my mother "became lame."  :)   I might have been about 15 too.

I only have one child, my son.  I'd love to hang out and do more with him other than be his "driver."  I'm just not sure what I can do to hold on to the last few years that I have left before he flies the coup.

If I suggest a movie, he gives me the "dah" look and declines.  No plays.  No Dave & Busters. Rarely he'll agree to go bowling depending on who else is going.  He will, however, do restaurants!  The stomach is always willing..  :)

Anyway, if anyone else has or is experiencing anything similar.... please share. 

Venice

Loved this post!  My son is 18 and a senior in high school :BOO HOO!:  My daughter is 15 also.  Same same, the door of communication is always open but gets shut in my face.  I definitely wish there were more parents out there who would be "as cool" as us :wink:
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Thanks for the post good stuff, lol keep up the great work
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VENICE - My oldest child is about to turn nine, so I can't offer a lot of help as a parent on this one.  I loved this post, though.  Thanks for placing it in Family Ties.  It's always great to see new faces here in my group!  When I was 15, my mom and I hit a rough patch, but she is one of my best friends in the world now.  I was also an only child and she raised me.
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It is all a part of growing up. I read a quote where (I think Einstein said) when he was in his teens he though his parents did not know much, and when he was in20s he was surprised at how much his parents knew.

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Well we are not there yet but we are preparing. You might find that a "short" trip to another area might help, or suggest places that his friends would not go to... He may be nervous about his friends seeing him with mom... Just an idea. All the best!

Merry Christmas!

 

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Hi everyone.  Thanks for your kind words.  :)   

Renee:  So you really do feel my pain huh?  :)   18 annnd 15!

Richard:  I'll try to keep up the good work.  :)

Gita:  I can't wait for him to realize that I REEEALLY do know what I'm talking about.  :)

Jason:  This group was such a great idea.  Catchy name too.  Thanks!

Charles:  I think you may be onto something with "trying another area."  We may have to travel to the other side of Georgia just for us to be able to see a movie together and he's not constantly looking around for the nearest rock to dive under just in case he sees one of his friends.  LOL!

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Hi Venice, aka Ms. Apple with a peach pit....  loved that.  I've got two teenage boys and I understand exactly what you are going through.  My youngest (now 16) defected to Georgia - so he can actually start on the football team.  (boo hoo..I'm trying to be happy for him.)   My oldest (17) has me well trained in what I can and can not say when he his around....Best just keep my mouth shut.  Regardless, I am blessed with two great kids.  I just can't believe how fast they've grown.  People warned me years ago, to appreciate them while they were little........

On the positive side, just this week, I was teaching a business management class  full of 18 and 19 year olds. About 25 of them.  We were talking about different styles of leadership.  It was awesome listening to the students that have the worst grades, whom I've had the most difficulty trying to motivate, ramble on and on about the importance of setting boundaries and being firm.   I was shocked to hear that coming from those particular students. 

But, I walked away thinking that it is GREAT to be a strict, lame, boring mom.  So...here is to lame mom's!  They actually respect us even if they don't say so. 

Great post and thanks for commenting on mine about the importance of thank you's. 

Sondra

 

 

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Venice,

My daughter is 16 so you're preaching to the choir! Just wait till he's driving without you. More fun to come.

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Hi Venice, I haven't been on AR for several days and just came across this and wanted to comment.  Watching our kids grow into adulthood and independence is challenging, and as parents it can make us feel left out, left behind and unimportant.

From my own experience I can say the most important thing is to always be there, no matter what.  It may seem like your son doesn't want to spend time with you but really, he still needs you.  Last night my husband and I had to have a "chat" with our 17 yr. old who has gotten a little distracted from his priorities.  After talking and sending him off to do his homework he returned to us a short time later.  We were sitting in bed watching t.v. and he (at 250 lbs.) crawled onto the bed, right between us.  He was laughing & joking and wrestling with his dad...after about an hour we finally had to make him leave ~ it was getting close to midnight!

For me it was amazing to realize the difficulty he is facing; we think our kids so desperately want to be "free" and on their own and yet they are dealing with the same things we are, a changing relationship.  They see it too, and it can be scary.  Deep down they want to know we'll be there for them and that the one thing that will never change is our love, care and concern for them. 

Blessings to you!

 

 

 

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Venice,

My kids aren't quite there yet.... but getting close.  So far, I'm still a cool dad although I am starting to get 'the look', especially when I try to be funny.  I guess if he like the food thing..... keep feeding him!

Good luck.

(Thanks for commenting on my "Grantham, New Hampshire" post.  Doesn't it ever snow there? Ever?)

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