You Can't Always Get What You WANT.....by Feng Shui Long Island

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Home Stager with Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island #888

Funny, isn't it?  You're expecting or hoping for something and it doesn't come to you at all.  Fact is, things are not always going to turn out the way you might have hoped.  Sometimes, they turn out even BETTER.

Last month I mentioned in a post that I had written a very short piece to be included in an article for Women's Day Magazine.  The reporter writing the article, Jane Mascarella had previously interviewed me and was doing a piece for Woman's Day called "Giving Thanks."  Myself and many others were asked to submit a very short note of Thanks to anyone we wished.  I chose to write mine to a wonderful person in Sedona, Deborah Rose, that I have not been able to find; she is the one that originally told me about Feng Shui and had encouraged me to look into it.

Women's Day chose to print the piece and I somehow hoped to hear from Deborah.  After all, we are all only six degrees of separation but I haven't heard from her--yet.  What I DID wake up to was an email and at first I didn't even realize who it was.  It read (I am paraphrasing a bit):

Feng Shui Long Island, New York City

Dear Carole,

I was just sitting down to eat breakfast and reading a magazine that had your name in it...with a business called ‘Feng Shui Long Island..'  I couldn't believe it might be you so I Googled your name and am SO happy I found you!  I had no idea you had your own business and have often thought of all the wonderful times we've had together.

I particularly remember spending time at Grandma's house and all the treats she always made for us.  And during the summers when you would spend a week with me and I would spend a week at your house (which was always very special for me, my parents were so STRICT)!  I remember going out to the many dance clubs on Long Island and all the laughs and great times we had. 

Feng Shui Oyster Bay, New York

She left me her phone number and the note was signed "Your cousin, Mary."

My COUSIN.  Mary is a first cousin and we were always close.  Her remembrances touched off a flood of my own of spending time with her and all the fun we'd had.  We lost touch sometime after she'd moved to Virginia.  What I didn't realize, until I read that letter, was how some very close, important people that you truly love just somehow drift out of your life.  And how very much they are missed.  Mary and I have a history together of some of our best family memories.  They are priceless.

Now we speak at least once a week and email often.  She said to me the other night that we would never lose touch again.  I agreed with her with all my heart.

I take some time when I think of her to remember some other very special people that I truly love that have drifted away as well.  And with the holidays coming, what a wonderful time to contact them.  When thinking about who you might like to contact, go WAY back.  Mary and I haven't seen or spoken to each other in about 15 years; that's a lot of time I have to go back and sort through memories.  And the joys it can bring would be immeasurable.

http://www.FengShuiLI.com

*Carole Provenzale has been a Certified Feng Shui Consultant since 1997 and is the Founder of Feng Shui Long Island, providing on site Feng Shui Consultations for all of Long Island and New York City and personalized Feng Shui Consultations at a distance by phone.

 

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Laura Cerrano is a second-generation Certified New York City Feng Shui Consultant Expert. As a full-time Feng Shui consultant, Laura provides bicoastal consultations and workshops for residential, commercial, real estate developments, Fortune 500 companies and healing faculties. In addition, Laura is a resident teacher at the Metropolitan Institute of Design in Syosset, NY. She has been featured in highly respected publications and TV networks such as Bravo's "Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen," PBS, CBC Television, BBC Radio and The New York Times. 

 

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Jackie Peraza
Perceptions AdverStaging(TM), LLC - Framingham, MA
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Carole - I got chills with this post - really.  I'll say it again, I really shouldn't be surprised anymore at all the interconnectedness of everything and all the little surprises that are around us if only we're willing to see them.  Thanks again for another great post.

Jackie

Nov 30, 2007 03:52 PM #6
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Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
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Good Morning Carole,
What a wonderful reunion for you and your cousin, Mary.  How do we allow ourselves to lose touch with people so important to us?  It does happen and has happened to me more than I care to admit.  Enjoy your renewed relationship.
Nov 30, 2007 10:22 PM #8
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Melissa Grant
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Sounds like you will be busy catching up with Mary ! Love your blogs and the always positive endings !
Nov 30, 2007 10:22 PM #9
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Kim Peasley-Parker
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Carole,

Wonderful story.  That is so great you got to reconnect.  I think we all have friends or family who are no longer close as they were and we wonder what happened to them.

Nov 30, 2007 10:59 PM #10
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Teri Eckholm
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Carole--Maybe the connection you wanted you were looking for wasn't the one that you really needed. I believe that things in life happen for a reason. It sounds like you reconnected with someone very important to you and your past...What a wonderful story!
Dec 01, 2007 12:00 AM #11
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Kathy Passarette
Creative Home Expressions - Mount Sinai, NY
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Carole ~ How wonderful! You may find that other people find you from that article - congratulations on being published! 
Dec 01, 2007 12:02 AM #12
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Carol Smith
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Carole - How wonderful for you!  It's always nice when we are able to re-kindle a relationship that was so meaningful in our lives.  Enjoy your relationship renewal - and treasure each and every minute. 
Dec 01, 2007 12:29 AM #13
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Missy Caulk
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Carole, I think this is so wonderful !! I am thrilled, made my day. Thanks for sharing, it is so cool to connect with lost loved ones and here's hopeing  the one that you want to connect to will contact you soon.
Dec 01, 2007 12:40 AM #14
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Katerina Gasset
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Carole- What a wonderful post to start my Saturday off with! That is so great! I am so glad you found your cousin Mary again after so long! Katerina
Dec 01, 2007 01:21 AM #15
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Lisa Ryan
Callaway Henderson Sotheby's International Realty - Montgomery, NJ
Selling Princeton,West Windsor and Montgomery Town

Carole~ first congratulations on being published in Women's Day, I have the issue at home but I've been too busy to read it, I'll definitely read it now!

It's sad but true, but people do drift away, even those we love.  It must feel incredibly good to reconnect with your cousin!  Life works in wonderful ways!

Dec 01, 2007 02:48 AM #16
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Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~
Agent Referral - Salt Lake City, UT
What a beautiful story and how true this is.  This time of year brings out so many beautiful things in people and the environment that surrounds us.  I think it's God's message for everybody to wake up and notice the little things in our lives that are truly so important.  Thank you for the reminder to remember the very simple things , especially our loved ones. 
Dec 01, 2007 04:00 AM #17
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Jackie Peraza
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Oh my, Teri - now that comment startled me - how's that for probably being just about TRUE!

Jackie

Dec 01, 2007 05:12 AM #18
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Donna Yates
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Carole:  How fantastic is that to find your cousin and I hope you both never lose touch again.  There's something so sweet about old friendships that were once lost and then found even with loved ones.  That's even more special.  And Congrats on the Women's Day!  You sooo deserve it because you are quite a talented lady.
Dec 01, 2007 10:06 AM #19
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Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Jennifer, It is wonderful to have had her find me.  She doesn't usually read it from lack of time but had the day off....thank you for your comment.

Lisa, You just pointed out something I missed completely---the synchronicity of this whole thing!  Wow, your comment almost knocked me off my chair, I believe very much in that!

Sally, An upcoming one may not be so positive....and you know I never rant.  But I do speak my mind..you might want to skip it :)

Jo, Thank you, we are both thrilled!  She's coming to NY for Christmas to see her sister (another cousin) and I will actually get to see her soon.

Candy, It sure is a small world!  You get the clients you are supposed to get, meet the people you are supposed to meet and I guess people read the articles they are meant to see :)  Thank you for your comment.

Deborah, I love that you have people returning to your life...it is a wonderful feeling that you just sort of seem to pick up where you left off like they've never been gone.  Have to love it!

Cynthia, I don't honestly know why we allow these wonderful people to sort of slip away.  I've thought of others from my past that I would love to find and reconnect with now.  Funny what one thing can touch off.

Melissa, We have talked for hours already.  So many memories and so many wonderful times, it's such a good feeling!  Thanks for your comment.

Kim, I'm going to start a mission to find a few...what a wonderful time to reconnect!  Thank you for your comment.

Teri, You couldn't be more right, what a treasure this is in my life.  The way the Universe works never ceases to amaze me.

Kathy, It was only a short thing that I likely would have passed if I even read the magazine.  Something else was at work here :) 

Carol, Thank you so much, I (we) are :)  She's as happy as I am....and when we don't have time to talk, we now MAKE it.  Maybe that's what we don't do when we're younger.

Missy, It's funny, I wasn't going to post it.  I am thrilled that it made your day, it truly is a wonderful feeling--she and I go back as far as we both can remember!

Katerina, You have some pretty happy endings yourself.  Don't you just love a happy ending?  I'm so glad this story had one :)

Lisa, The way Life works still mystifies me but I sure do love it!  I'm telling you, it's tiny...and likely you'd miss it, I would have!  Thank you for your comment.

Julie, I don't want to make that mistake again of letting people that I care about just slip away....Maybe it was a big wake up call for me but I have people I want to find now! 

Jackie, She's absolutely right!  People on this site are priceless and give me so many insights!

Dec 01, 2007 10:25 AM #20
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Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
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Hi Donna!  We will never lose contact again, we are both determined not to let that happen again.  It was a wonderful experience and I can't wait to see her!  Thank you for your comment,
Dec 01, 2007 10:27 AM #21
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Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~
Agent Referral - Salt Lake City, UT
Carole-I'm sure with your determination you will accomplish that goal in finding the people that you are speaking of.  How grateful they will be once you find them.  I know for me, truthfully, I would never want to lose touch with you.  What a dear friend you are and how I look forward to a gathering with all the wonderful friends I have made here.  That is going to be quite the reunion. 
Dec 01, 2007 05:02 PM #22
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Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island
CAROLE:  This was such a great story.  It's nice to see you reconnecting around the holidays, as you share such good memories with your cousin about the holidays that you spent together when you were younger.  I know that you're a Billy Joel fan.  Your story reminds me of a series of posts that I'm in the middle of based on the lyrics to "Say Goodbye To Hollywood."..."so many faces in and out of my life, some will last, some will just be now and then....Thanks for sharing this Carole.   
Dec 02, 2007 12:08 AM #23
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Laura Cerrano
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Julie, I SO agree with you, what a wonderful thought of meeting in person all the wonderful friends we've made on here, it would be a dream!  Near or far you will ALWAYS be a good friend to me and we will not lost contact---I wouldn't allow it!

Adam, I know that song well :)  I don't want the just "now and then" anymore, I want the lasting relationships and will remember to do what I can to keep them.

Dec 02, 2007 11:58 AM #24
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Joan Mirantz
Homequest Real Estate - Concord, NH
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Oh Carole...that was terriffic! Your very own Christmas miracle!
Dec 03, 2007 01:27 PM #25
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Laura Cerrano
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Hey, Ms Maven, it certainly was!  She is coming to New York for Christmas and I will get to see her, how wonderful!  Thanks, Joan.
Dec 04, 2007 10:09 AM #26
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